Discussion Any thoughts about dying as a virgin?

[Mirved46]

I dont think it matters at all. I dont see why a lot of humans see virginity as this holy thing that needs to be taken. Im saying this as a person that cant feel romantic or sexual attraction so things are of course different to me.

I mean, for the majority, usually their virginity was taken by someone they dont even like anymore. Whether this be an ex, a random person they fucked once, a prostitute, or a person that forced a non-consensual sexual intercourse. I think being a virgin would be better at that point.. But I respect people that think the opposite.

 

[iamsofkntired]

strong and vrigin , aaaand i live in a muslim country and if i ctb and they found out that i wasn't a virgin everyone will think its the reason and my family would hate me so yeah virginty is great

 

[kilowatt]

I'm so sorry that happened to you...as much as I hate life if I ever got r*ped I think I wouldn't matter how I did it I would kill myself as soon as possible. I really am so sorry that happened to you your so strong

I can tell you had a good intention but I don't think that's the right way to word it.. indeed the experience is very traumatic but I don't think all victims should/have to CTB as soon as possible because of it. But thanks for the good regards

I'm going to die a virgin. Ultimately it doesn't matter. Death is an off switch and once your gone none of your experiences matter. However, maybe if you had sex or a romantic partner you would want to keep living. So you might as well try to experience these things if you can to see if it changes your outlook on life. Personally I have no capacity to find a romantic partner but if I could then I would at least to try it.

I do have a partner and I love her very much but at the same time I live in constant suffering and I want to find my peace. I can agree romantic attraction is something you would be missing out and I consider myself lucky enough to have experienced, but at most I can say it makes me feel more fufilled, not really something worth living for. I may be selfish for thinking this way but I've made up my mind.

I read a topic like this before and there were big problems. Can the moderators close it?

Didn't think this was gonna spike up any problems or drama, and so far I don't see anyone arguing on the subject. Moderators are free to close it if they feel like it is innapropriate or controversial, but I was simply asking for other peoples' views and thoughts.

 

[HollowDrop]

I don't see why it would matter if you die a virgin or not. Sexual intercourse is highly overrated and there are far more important things than if someone had sex or not.

 

[Hunter2005]

I don't really care honestly, I just want an escape.

 

[TransientEternal]

Losing virginity can help self-esteem, but it's not worth rushing into a relationship. Societal expectations and peer pressure don't help either. It's better to find the right person first. Anyways, death takes all, virginity doesn't matter in death.

 

[MiMif]

I can tell you had a good intention but I don't think that's the right way to word it.. indeed the experience is very traumatic but I don't think all victims should/have to CTB as soon as possible because of it. But thanks for the good regards

I do have a partner and I love her very much but at the same time I live in constant suffering and I want to find my peace. I can agree romantic attraction is something you would be missing out and I consider myself lucky enough to have experienced, but at most I can say it makes me feel more fufilled, not really something worth living for. I may be selfish for thinking this way but I've made up my mind.

Didn't think this was gonna spike up any problems or drama, and so far I don't see anyone arguing on the subject. Moderators are free to close it if they feel like it is innapropriate or controversial, but I was simply asking for other peoples' views and thoughts.

I'm sorry if that came on the wrong way I don't feel at all that people who get r*ped should ctb. It's just a personal thing for me and it's probably like my worst fear at the moment. My life is unstable as it is right jow and that would be my breaking point because I would feel like I truly had control over nothing.

I'm so sorry if I offended you I just really wanted to tell you how much I admire you and how strong you are.

 

[kilowatt]

I'm sorry if that came on the wrong way I don't feel at all that people who get r*ped should ctb. It's just a personal thing for me and it's probably like my worst fear at the moment. My life is unstable as it is right jow and that would be my breaking point because I would feel like I truly had control over nothing.

I'm so sorry if I offended you I just really wanted to tell you how much I admire you and how strong you are.

It's alright! No need to fret, thanks for your words, just wanted to point out it could've been misinterpreted by the way you worded it. Thank you for your imput!

 

[glossble]

I would agree with most of the comments here. That's why I'm still a virgin at 23 lol, simply because I couldn't find someone to love and who would love me back; and sex without love seems overrated and meaningless to me

 

[RichardFirst]

It's different for men and women, so I can only speak to the former. I have had a lot of sexual partners (all female), and I can tell any young man who is curious now that those men who define themselves by the notches on their bed-post are fools. Do not get wrapped up in the hook-up culture that plagues modern society. Sex is never truly casual, and there is always some cost to it.

As to the matter of dying a virgin, well as with many things, it really doesn't matter once you're gone, so why worry about it?

 

[sserafim]

I understand your view on existence.
But in my opinion the bad or suffering part of life is only because one is a human. Which comes with needing to live in a tribe or society to survive and meet your needs. For nearly everything you need to depend on other humans such as food, transport, sleep (bed, housing) etc. AND the thing is you cannot trust them. They sometimes reject you (like no jobs, etc.)

I completely agree! Having to be a human is the problem. I'd be much happier as a cat. I honestly wish I were a cat