Venting Any 20yo+ virgins?

[Fadeawaaaay]

I would also suggest visiting an escort to simply get the deed done. Things are a lot easier once you've lost your virginity. You realize it wasn't such a big deal. I remember as a teenager building up so much anxiety around it which in retrospect was absolutely pointless.

 

[castler]

I'm sure there are alot of animals "yes animals" that are still virgins as well haha. But I'm lit. 32 and am a virgin - can't get lucky for nothing but life isn't all about getting laid.

 

[DesperateStruggler]

Never hugged or even held hands with a girl, it's truly depressing, I don't even care about sex that much just want affection.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

[waves] Hi! 26 and quite the virgin; never even been kissed! I can at least say it was partially by choice, since I never really had an interest in sex or dating, but I don't think I could find a date or a SO at this stage in my life. It wouldn't be right to inflict myself on anyone anyway. I also don't think there's anything wrong with being a virgin at any age, and it sucks a lot that society views sex and romance as the be all end all of social relationships, but I do understand the loneliness and how you can feel unlovable somehow if you've never had those things.

Not a lot of people think like you I'm afraid. I don't think there's anything wrong with being a virgin either, or even being "loveless". The only people I know who have the same line of thinking are ironically already in relationships or even married. I guess relationships come so easy to them that they take other people's positions in their romantic lives for granted?
I would like to think deep down there is something to love about everybody. I think everybody here has a colorful, vibrant personality held hostage by the demon of depression.

 

[Werewolf.]

I'm almost 27, never even had a relationship or went on a date. I'm a kissless virgin. 3 more years and I'll finally be a wizard.

 

[This_sux ✓]

The last time I touched a woman was in high school where I was forced to dance to traditional music. It was 4 years ago.
I had 0 conversations with girls throughout my life, so obviously I am a big virgin.

 

[juraviel]

I'm almost 27, never even had a relationship or went on a date. I'm a kissless virgin. 3 more years and I'll finally be a wizard.

i'm 31 and virgin so you're telling me i'm a wizard? cool. i thought that happens at 40

 

[deleted]

Almost 20 years and I'm still a virgin but no problems I created accounts on dating apps and some girls liked me I think by the end of the year I'll solve this issue

 

[Suicidebydeath]

19-20 is still young to be a virgin! That's nothing unusual about it. So there will be plenty here that are 20+.

It wasn't a big deal to me and I lost it with the right person. I think worrying about it could only make it worse, I wasn't even thinking about sex that night .

 

[death137]

I'm 25 and a kissless virgin

 

[WhatPowerIs]

19-20 is still young to be a virgin! That's nothing unusual about it. So there will be plenty here that are 20+.

It wasn't a big deal to me and I lost it with the right person. I think worrying about it could only make it worse, I wasn't even thinking about sex that night .

Does it become a big deal when you're 25+? Not that I am but...

 

[Suicidebydeath]

I don't think so personally but I'm in the ?unknown?% that never cared about losing it, and never worried or thought about sex. I personally wouldn't find it odd if someone was 25+ and a virgin, if anything that just means they've been sensible and nobody manipulated them into losing it whether they're a vulnerable person or not and they didn't submit to peer pressure or other influences. Not everyone wants to "just use an escort brah/sis" advice from ""normies"" (double quotes because y'all are normal to me and fades advice can work for some, normies usually say "just shower brah" to people as if that will make you meet your soulmate) too for their first time or at all. There's nothing wrong with going with an escort if its your choice without peer pressure, I don't know any male ones but the others generally have a kind, sensitive heart although perhaps not all of them so you take your chances what your first time would be like.

For some people it's too much pressure(not me) so they delay it, others might not meet the right person(not me but could've been). In between relationships for me(and many have been online-only which don't satisfy me, I need them to turn into irl ones at some point) I feel like a FA(forever alone) and I'm never going to meet the right person again. Mostly when I meet someone they feel perfect and I feel lucky.

I feel FA again now, the last time was a few months ago, it was online and I don't think it would've worked out(age gap+my looks don't make up the difference) and really I haven't been irl with the right person for a very long time now (more than years). It happens maybe once in my life that everything was right in one of the relationships I was in and something happened to spoil it. Otherwise I'm always lonely, and always feels hopeless. If that's how bad it feels for me that I can imagine there are people that aren't lucky enough to find a relationship at all (that's how I feel, it's impossible to find the right person that is the right age, most sensible people my age are married now), and so it doesn't surprise me that people remain virgins for a long time. It's literally luck to find the right person, to me, it always feels beyond impossible. I haven't had sex in years and years and with the right person almost half my lifetime ago. So I don't see any wrong with people being virgins.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

The escort advice is really sad to me. I just don't understand what compels people to say it. Are virgins really that far gone that they can't make a genuine human connection to the point where they have to pay for one instead?

 

[Suicidebydeath]

The escort advice is really sad to me. I just don't understand what compels people to say it. Are virgins really that far gone that they can't make a genuine human connection to the point where they have to pay for one instead?

For many people it's really impossible to find a partner at all. Especially if they're isolated and don't meet people at all.

I don't think it's possible to feel a connection at all if you pay for it. It would be a very empty experience. Nothing replaces true intimacy, no matter how nice someone is they can't fake that. The difference would be the difference between night and day.

It's not something I'd personally advise, since I wouldn't be motivated to do the same thing myself. I wouldn't enjoy it, it might even be off-putting. Also it occurs to me that it wouldn't teach you how to give pleasure to the other partner, so you'd come away from it with the wrong impression of what sex is supposed to be like.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

The escort advice is really sad to me. I just don't understand what compels people to say it. Are virgins really that far gone that they can't make a genuine human connection to the point where they have to pay for one instead?

For some people the act of sex itself becomes so frightening that it creates tremendous amount of anxiety… If they can just get the act over with then it becomes less daunting… I spent my entire teenage years obsessed with my virginity instead of simply getting it over with and forming healthy relationships… Being a virgin and My fears around the issue were extremely destructive… In retrospect I wish I had just lost my virginity at age 14 or so and moved on to the good stuff

 

[WhatPowerIs]

I framed that question in a rhetorical sense (did I use that word right?). I don't think virgins are super far gone (most of them anyway), but the idea of having to jump through a different set of hoops in order to get back on everybody's playing field just doesn't seem right to me...

 

[kosameAmagai]

yep im 19, never ever kissed a girl in my life, guess ill just cope with it

 

[castler]

I'll be like Shannon from "Superstar" and just give it all to a tree!

 

[WhatPowerIs]

For some people the act of sex itself becomes so frightening that it creates tremendous amount of anxiety… If they can just get the act over with then it becomes less daunting… I spent my entire teenage years obsessed with my virginity instead of simply getting it over with and forming healthy relationships… Being a virgin and My fears around the issue were extremely destructive… In retrospect I wish I had just lost my virginity at age 14 or so and moved on to the good stuff

Age 14? Don't you think that's super early? That's freshman year of high school!

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Age 14? Don't you think that's super early? That's freshman year of high school!

I wish I had just gotten it over with instead of experiencing so much anxiety and frustration

 

[WhatPowerIs]

I wish I had just gotten it over with instead of experiencing so much anxiety and frustration

So much of life just seems kind of arbitrary doesn't it? I look around and consider my predicament (which isn't bad to others comparatively) and I think "I can't believe this is all life has to offer"

 

[Werewolf.]

i'm 31 and virgin so you're telling me i'm a wizard? cool. i thought that happens at 40

 

[castler]

Age 14? Don't you think that's super early? That's freshman year of high school!

Shit. U know their doin it earlier and earlier now a days even if it's not consensual.

 

[Werewolf.]

Shit. U know their doin it earlier and earlier now a days even if it's not consensual.

In Eastern Europe they are having gangbangs in the school bathroom at 11. Clown world.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

In Eastern Europe they are having gangbangs in the school bathroom at 11. Clown world.

Charming

 

[whatevs]

I'm 31. Chronic physical and mental illness + was abused as a kid. I also have a Schopenhauerian type of worldview. This means that IMO sex is bad basically lol

In Eastern Europe they are having gangbangs in the school bathroom at 11. Clown world.

This is nothing, in Western Europe we give and receive blowjobs in kindergarten.

 

[HopefulButPrepared]

I had one girlfriend for about 18 months between ages 15 and 16, and we had sex probably every day for that period, or at least did something sexual every day, but then I literally haven't bothered with a girlfriend since, and I just turned 40 - sometimes I wonder if I my virginity certificate has expired and I am now a virgin again, technically?!

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I had one girlfriend for about 18 months between 15 and 16, and we had sex probably every day for that period, or at least did something sexual every day, but then I literally haven't bothered with a girlfriend since, and I just turned 40 - sometimes I wonder if I my virginity certificate has expired and I am now a virgin again, technically?!

You got revirginized… it happens … After my relationship ended a year ago I don't think I'll ever have sex again… My personality got shattered and I don't even want to interact with friends much less try to go to "date" anyone…

 

[HopefulButPrepared]

I'm 31. Chronic physical and mental illness + was abused as a kid. I also have a Schopenhauerian type of worldview. This means that IMO sex is bad basically lol

This is nothing, in Western Europe we give and receive blowjobs in kindergarten.

It's been a long time since I was that age, but I don't remember us doing this in nursery in the UK back in the 80's

 

[Hangman]

I'm over 30 and have had sex once. Feels like I'm virgin again. Don't really care. Sex has lost its importance for me. I can always wank away.

It felt like a big thing when I was like under 20.