Discussion Angry people💢?

[Luv (sic)]

Well this is out of the norm... But what are your thoughts on angry people? Maybe they complain all the time or raise thier voice. Or maybe your always angry? Im curious to know because personally I rarely get angry, but for one of my siblings it's thier whole bread and butter. Always complaing, loud voice, just overall hatefull. Woken me up really erlay on several occasions, just to hear them complain and get mad over trivial things too. Its been a nightmare especially because I would usually just distance or stay away from someone like that, but in this case its not that simple. (And yes I have tried to talk to them several times)

 

[Anonymousa]

I myself am rarely angry from most things and my default emotion when I am upset is either sadness or fear but if something does make me angry, i become completely enraged. The things that do make me angry are anything pro-life, about who is allowed to ctb or abusive and negelectful parents.

Angry people often make me feel scared and frightened of them and sometimes get me into anxiety attacks. My dad and teachers have definitely been a cause of this fear as I don't want to cause issues for most people or get punished.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think there's a difference between people who complain- as in- 'I'm unhappy about this'. And those who are angry: 'I'm unhappy and it's your or someone else's fault. Why aren't you doing more to help me? Why isn't anyone? This has upset me but it's unjust and I'm angry (with just about everyone) for it.'

Truthfully, the first I tend to have more sympathy for. Even if they are angry about their overall circumstances, they aren't so aggressive towards others.

The latter- 'I'm owed' attitude can come across like a personal attack on others. I tend to have a bias though, because I grew up with a (suspected) narcissist who was continually playing the victim and accusing/ blaming me for things I hadn't even done. So, it tends to be a trigger for me when people start blaming or expecting things of others. Or, when they get very defensive or offensive over things.

Obviously though, we do have a right to get angry over unjust or offensive things. Plus, we should be pointing it out to one another if we'd made an offensive or questionable remark. I think it's how we do it though. Some people seem to be deliberately argumentative, confrontational, provocative- to try and initiate an argument. I really don't have time for all that. I can feel myself getting worked up by it. Even if it's about someone else. There's that fear they'll turn that aggression on you. So, I just try to avoid people like that.

It's not to say they can necessarily help it. Maybe shit's happened to make them so aggressive. Still, I just feel like shit's happened to me to make me feel like I don't cope well being around them.

It can't be nice to feel that angry really. They must genuinely feel persecuted to lash out at people. So, I sort of feel bad for them too. Just, not enough to want to be around them.

 

[Luv (sic)]

I myself am rarely angry from most things and my default emotion when I am upset is either sadness or fear but if something does make me angry, i become completely enraged. The things that do make me angry are anything pro-life, about who is allowed to ctb or abusive and negelectful parents.

Angry people often make me feel scared and frightened of them and sometimes get me into anxiety attacks. My dad and teachers have definitely been a cause of this fear as I don't want to cause issues for most people or get punished.

Ya I totally understand what you mean. I also tense up a little and just try to avoid it altogether

I think there's a difference between people who complain- as in- 'I'm unhappy about this'. And those who are angry: 'I'm unhappy and it's your or someone else's fault. Why aren't you doing more to help me? Why isn't anyone? This has upset me but it's unjust and I'm angry (with just about everyone) for it.'

Truthfully, the first I tend to have more sympathy for. Even if they are angry about their overall circumstances, they aren't so aggressive towards others.

The latter- 'I'm owed' attitude can come across like a personal attack on others. I tend to have a bias though, because I grew up with a (suspected) narcissist who was continually playing the victim and accusing/ blaming me for things I hadn't even done. So, it tends to be a trigger for me when people start blaming or expecting things of others. Or, when they get very defensive or offensive over things.

Obviously though, we do have a right to get angry over unjust or offensive things. Plus, we should be pointing it out to one another if we'd made an offensive or questionable remark. I think it's how we do it though. Some people seem to be deliberately argumentative, confrontational, provocative- to try and initiate an argument. I really don't have time for all that. I can feel myself getting worked up by it. Even if it's about someone else. There's that fear they'll turn that aggression on you. So, I just try to avoid people like that.

It's not to say they can necessarily help it. Maybe shit's happened to make them so aggressive. Still, I just feel like shit's happened to me to make me feel like I don't cope well being around them.

It can't be nice to feel that angry really. They must genuinely feel persecuted to lash out at people. So, I sort of feel bad for them too. Just, not enough to want to be around them.

Ya their is no problem being angry. We all have been and will continue too. It's just when other people get involved where things start to get well... Icky? I do sympathize too I dont think people get angry for the fun of it. But it really is a tricky thing imo. And It is wierd we get worked up over it even if its not to ourselves? I wonder if it could be some sort of truma response etc.