am i the only one who doesnt want a funeral?

[MatrixPrisoner]

The idea of surviving family having to waste perfectly good money to commemorate my meaningless assembly of atoms that is going to eventually disintegrate one day and serve no purpose is odd to me.

 

[itsalittlecold]

The idea of surviving family having to waste perfectly good money to commemorate my meaningless assembly of atoms that is going to eventually disintegrate one day and serve no purpose is odd to me.

I agree, it's a scam we spend our life paying our way and taxes.. yet someone has to foot the bill when we pass? I'm thinking the government should do it as a token of gratitude for the life time of tax contributions

 

[chester]

I'm missing a third option in the survey "I don't care". A funeral ultimately isn't for me. It's for everyone else, so it's none of my business how they want to deal with my death. I'll be dead anyway, so what difference does it make to me? Let them have it the way they want to have it. Whatever makes them feel better. I'll be leaving behind way more than enough money to cover the costs.

 

[UnluckyYogi]

I had to pick between wanting a funeral or not, but honestly, I don't really care what happens with my body after I die.
The only thing I do care about tho, is that they won't blame my suicide on something else, like depression for example.
My suicide will be caused by brain damage from antipsychotics, and I made sure that they won't think differently by preparing a detailed suicide note.

 

[lawlietsph]

I would like to decompose somewhere in a dark forest or something.
Absolutely no funeral, because

1. I don't know how this works in other countries, but here it's almost always connected to a religious "ceremony", either cathlic or evangelic and I don't want that. I am not religious and I don't need a priest to talk about nonsense over my dead body

2. I don't want the """"family"""" and """"friends"""" to gather together simply to act like they care when in reality they don't. I can only imagine all of my family member being like "I never knew she's suffering so much, why didn't she asked for our help "
It's disgusting to me. They didn't give a shit about me in my life, so they shouldn't act like they care when i'm dead.

3. I don't want to put the pressure on my parents or my sister. Funerals are expensive and I don't deserve a damn penny anyway.

 

[Moroze]

I don't want one either. Instead of turning up for my funeral, I would have appreciated if people were there for me when I was alive. When I'm dead, all the people that claimed to care about me can respectfully piss off.

 

[rokonie]

i feel like ppl all had deep reasons to why/why not they dont want a funeral but i literally just don't want one because it'll be embarrassing that nobody outside of my immediate family would show up

 

[brokeandbroken]

The idea of surviving family having to waste perfectly good money to commemorate my meaningless assembly of atoms that is going to eventually disintegrate one day and serve no purpose is odd to me.

If I CTB then I want to be cremated and sprinkled into a river or water by someone I've never met. I don't want anyone else there. I don't have "family" worth even mentioning they all abandoned me and my death would he on them as much as anyone. I have no friends. The thought of them sitting through a funeral for me pisses me off acting all sad when it was them who put me there. It's like a serial killer going to the funeral of one of their victims. It would be sick.

 

[pomcustard]

I think I want one just so my family can say goodbye. I only really care about my immediate family because no one else is going to care that I'm gone. I'm not close with extended relatives and I don't have a lot of friends. I also would prefer to be cremated instead of being buried.

 

[4everHeartBroken]

I plan to go into the middle of the woods, never be found, just decompose and give back to nature

Your reply reminds me of this…

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[FrownyFace]

I don't want a funeral and I want all of my stuff to be burned. I don't want to exist at all, not even in someone's memory.

 

[lotus11]

GOD NO...it would be so hypocritical....all the people who were total dicks to you throughout your life and contributed to it being unbearable turning up and saying how 'sad and heartbroken' they are. eew no. absolutely not.

 

[abchia]

If it was my choice I'd want a cremation and no funeral. I'd hate to be laying somewhere in a box rotting away, and I don't want to hassle anyone with organizing a funeral for someone who didn't even want to be here

GOD NO...it would be so hypocritical....all the people who were total dicks to you throughout your life and contributed to it being unbearable turning up and saying how 'sad and heartbroken' they are. eew no. absolutely not.

I totally agree with you on that. No way will I have them try to say nice things about me or go on about how I had such a 'bright future'

 

[hawkshorizon]

No, no funeral. What happens to my body afterwards, aside from posing another burden to people who deserve better, is not important.

 

[Esokabat]

I think this is a bit self-centered question. Funerals are for your relatives, not for you.
What do you care what happens once you are dead? Since a funeral is a service for your relatives, not a service for you, your dead self, it doesn't matter much what you want. If your relatives want a funeral for closure, they will do one, if they don't, they don't.
I think people who focus on their funeral, who will be there, who will not come, etc, are not ready to CTB yet. Once you die, everything that happens after that is not your business, not your concern. If you want to make sure your relatives don't incur financial burden, you can buy a prepaid funeral plan as even cremation in some countries can be in the thousands (euros). If you don't have the means or don't want to, don't.
But thinking about your funeral event itself, how it will be, who will come, to me is a sign of not being ready to ctb. Fantasising about your funeral is more about mental health issues, unresolved traumas, conflicts, than actual CTB.