Help Am i right to feel mad about this?

[allidoiswish]

every time I talk to my friends about something serious, tell them i miss them (i moved) or tell them a story they ALWAYS brush it off, blurt out a random ref/meme, say something like "damn" and then proceed to change subjects or just ignore what i said. but whenever THEY talk to me about something serious or tell me about their day i sincerely listen or do my best to help them or give them advice. even when i feel that they're a little off i always ask them if they're okay but none of them have ever done that for me. i always buy them gifts and food but they've also never did that for me.. i genuinely dont know if they're doing that on purpose but i cant help but feel sad or mad whenever i think about it. i dont know if im just overthinking this so please tell me!

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

I think the problem is them.

 

[allidoiswish]

I think the problem is them.

phew im so glad its not me lol!! i really thought i was extremely overthinking this…

 

[yume_]

Okay, answering the title, yes. I think it's reasonable to feel this way. Being ignored is just disrespectful in my opinion and it doens't feel like an equal relationship when you are giving but not receiving anything. Idk if they are doing on purpose, i feel like if they are doing on purpose that's just straight up evil :/

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

I agree that the problem is them, they might not be doing it on purpose, but responding with nothing more than "bruh" to a serious discussion is a sign of emotional immaturity, imo. They may not be mature enough to know how to respond to certain topics, or know exactly what to say, however, I think you're setting a good example by being there for them and being supportive, so I think at a certain point they should learn how to reciprocate that care. It's not your fault at all.

 

[allidoiswish]

Okay, answering the title, yes. I think it's reasonable to feel this way. Being ignored is just disrespectful in my opinion and it doens't feel like an equal relationship when you are giving but not receiving anything. Idk if they are doing on purpose, i feel like if they are doing on purpose that's just straight up evil :/

thank you!! im glad i wasn't overthinking this

I agree that the problem is them, they might not be doing it on purpose, but responding with nothing more than "bruh" to a serious discussion is a sign of emotional immaturity, imo. They may not be mature enough to know how to respond to certain topics, or know exactly what to say, however, I think you're setting a good example by being there for them and being supportive, so I think at a certain point they should learn how to reciprocate that care. It's not your fault at all.

Tysm! It really makes sense when you put it like that! Ive known them for a bit over 8 years now so I'm just hoping they start putting in the same kind of effort…