Am I being hypocritical?

[wantittoendsoon]

I am torn about this situation and just need some objective opinions.

I began talking to a potential partner to CTB and initially we seem to be on the same page. I have a terminal illness so I am headed for a painful death relatively shortly. nr brainer for me.

My partner ultimately shared that she simply can't find a satisfying relationship and wants wants to end her life.

Now my initial reaction(and pretty Shallow I'll admit) was that she must just be undesirable for some reason, bad attitude, lack of success or unmotivated, or Simply very unattractive. That can be hard and Know many on here can relate.

I was somewhat surprised when we decided to video chat that not only is she at the very least pretty but probably above average. She seems to be very nice, very intelligent and has a good caree, and a good group of friends that she socializes with regularly.

The issue appears that she has many men interested in her but she simply does not find them attractive. she was single for 10 years prior to her most recent relationship ending(this ended recently)

She admits that in almost every way this guy was a loser, but she found him very attractive. So the irony is this.

The men that find her attractive. many who are perfect in every other way, simply are unattractive to her.

While the men she finds attractive are not interested in her for whatever reason, one of which might be that they don't find her attractive.

I decided that I can't in good conscience be a part of this situation, While I believe everyone should be free to CTB for whatever reason, It should be objectively a good reason.

Thoughts please? I know I have disappointed her.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Yes very hypocritical. It is not your place to decide what is and is not a good reason to CTB. Everyone has their own problems and has their threshold. While not being able to get a relationship may be trivial to you, it is clearly not to her.

That being said, there are quite a few reasons why having a CTB partnership is a bad idea so it's probably for the best that you don't go through with it.

 

[FuneralCry]

The reality is that there is no such thing as good or bad reasons for ctb. We are all going to die eventually anyway, and death just happens, it doesn't need a reason for it to take place, so why would choosing not to delay our inevitable fate ever need a reason. Death is the most normal and expected thing ever after all, and nobody should be judged for wanting to free themselves from an existence that they never even asked for. And anyway there is nothing that is so valuable and beneficial about life to justify suicide needing a reason in the first place, people should be able to exit this world whenever they wish to, existence could simply never be an obligation.

But anyway, I just don't really think that the whole suicide partner thing is a good idea at all, I certainly think that it's best avoided. Involving somebody else in suicide plans has complications and risks associated with it so of course it's better to die alone. I don't get why anyone would wish to make the whole process of planning and going through with suicide more difficult for themselves.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I can see where you are coming from. It's different if you were both planning to CTB individually. I think- when we 'meet' people individually- we may not exactly understand their motives but we try not to undermine how serious their circumstances feel to them. Ultimately- it's their decision whether you support it or not.

I think the problem with a partneship is that you are both effectively witnessing one anothers deaths. You have sort of made a pact to do it. If either of you start thinking this isn't the best thing for the other- you might start feeling guilty that you are a part of it- despite the other person reasuring you that they are sure. I think that's how I would feel anyhow but I don't think I'd feel comfortable with a partnership full stop- unless we'd known one another for years. I guess they do work and I hope you can find one. The whole thing would make me more nervous I think though.

 

[epic]

I am torn about this situation and just need some objective opinions.

I began talking to a potential partner to CTB and initially we seem to be on the same page. I have a terminal illness so I am headed for a painful death relatively shortly. nr brainer for me.

My partner ultimately shared that she simply can't find a satisfying relationship and wants wants to end her life.

Now my initial reaction(and pretty Shallow I'll admit) was that she must just be undesirable for some reason, bad attitude, lack of success or unmotivated, or Simply very unattractive. That can be hard and Know many on here can relate.

I was somewhat surprised when we decided to video chat that not only is she at the very least pretty but probably above average. She seems to be very nice, very intelligent and has a good caree, and a good group of friends that she socializes with regularly.

The issue appears that she has many men interested in her but she simply does not find them attractive. she was single for 10 years prior to her most recent relationship ending(this ended recently)

She admits that in almost every way this guy was a loser, but she found him very attractive. So the irony is this.

The men that find her attractive. many who are perfect in every other way, simply are unattractive to her.

While the men she finds attractive are not interested in her for whatever reason, one of which might be that they don't find her attractive.

I decided that I can't in good conscience be a part of this situation, While I believe everyone should be free to CTB for whatever reason, It should be objectively a good reason.

Thoughts please? I know I have disappointed her.

That's not a good reason to CTB . Your own life is much much more important than a relationship. If she gets this perspective she should be able to sail through her breakup, a perspective which can be attained and therefore it's not a good reason to CTB .

 

[subhumantrash]

Although I would personally believe that isn't a good reason in which I myself would pursuit CBT, I don't like valuating these kinda stuff for other people.
However I must say, who cares if you disappointed her? You owe her nothing and she should respect your choice to not be a partner.

Have a nice day.

 

[UKscotty]

Don't need a reason to CTB. A consenting adult has the right to check out of life.

Life is totally pointless and meaningless. Don't fall for the lie that it's worth a damn.

We are here to breed and slave away so 1% of humanity can live in luxury.

 

[SamTam33]

These thoughts seem contradictory to what you posted a few days ago in the thread titled "Random Thoughts Before I CTB."

Maybe the partner thing is freaking you out and you're manufacturing a reason not to participate.

 

[LadyApple]

are we really gonna do this? OP do you want me to post our skype conversation to show people what REALLY happened? You predator

 

[krxbs]

whoa, what? is there something else going on here?

 

[krxbs]

oh.. oh god. i'm so sorry to hear @LadyApple, and i'm glad things ended there. i've had people approach me for scams as well after i expressed my desire to ctb but i've never encountered something like that. that's why i think partners are such an awful idea... unfortunately catching the bus is one of those things where if you want to make sure you're doing it right, you need to do it on your own. either way, hope you're doing alright.

 

[brokenpersi]

This is one of the most intimate experiences you will ever have in your life - its end. What's partner for? During last moments I would like to remember for the last time the faces of people I loved, the places I visited.

We are born and die alone.

 

[stilhavinightmares]

This is fucking wild. Like yes definitely some random man on the internet with self esteem issues thinks I'm dateable so let me just stay alive for him!



I'm sorry @LadyApple. That's really hurtful. Trusting someone with all of that… in the end you can only trust yourself.

 

[blackroseRM]

Thank you everyone who supported me. Here's exactly what happened. I swear on my life I will be forever lonely and painful if I lie. OP is a 54 year old male who claims to have prostate cancer and no sex drive, straight off the bat, to let girls keep their guards down. He said his inert gas method would be painless and my SN method could go wrong. I trusted him. None of the reasons he said why I wanted to CTB were accurate, after weeks of talking he just doesn't seem to understand why people want to CTB.

He doesn't scam people for money, but he likes to target girls and try to make them book an airbnb with their money, and he would promise to send all the equipment needed to the airbnb and then he would show up to do the deeds.

He claims to be successful and used to have a company and sold it. Somehow he wants the girls to pay for airbnb, which I did. Remember the "I was been doxed" post? Yes he kept postponing the CTB date. First he said he wanted to be gone by the end of the January, then he said if his team won that would buy him two more weeks. It really just sounds like he wants to come, spend time with me alone in my airbnb I booked. God knows what he could do. Oh and he also said he had a wife who's 27 years old in philippines (yes one of those guys), so girls will probably think oh he has a wife so it's safe.

The shipment never came. He kept saying there's a mistake and I never seen the order confirmation. All he cared about was if "we were vibing"??? dude do you want to CTB or what. He did book his flight to come to my city, before I exposed him. I'm not stupid ok something just isn't right. Can you imagine a girl trapped with this guy alone in an airbnb for 10 days? He did look me up on facebook and saying wow you are so beautiful. but does it really matter for someone who wants to ctb? I know he never ordered the shipment.

Girls be aware. There are perverts here pretending to be suicidal and they will tell you they have painless method. Ugh so gross why would you even take advantage of people who were already suicidal. I'm now going to post our skype chat screenshot, and I'll let you all be the judge of it.

Not him limiting who can see his profile now that you've outed him!! I don't agree with posting screenshots with personal info but I will always believe victims