Hi all, I'm sorry to take up space here but I feel like there's something propelling me to seek advice from people on this forum to try and pave a new way forward from myself. Basically I went sober two months ago and that pulled the veil from my eyes to a life I feel I've been sleepwalking through. I have been really challenged to find anything at all that sticks in my life that interests me, period, which I believe led to the masking of my vagueness/dullness through drugs and alcohol. Even what seem to be universal pleasures - books, movies, socialising, team sports etc. Nothing has seemed to stick, and I don't find joys from any of these things. I find my ego has been so dominant that I've only focused on myself and rarely even facts about my family members which has lead into a perpetual cycle of self loathing and rumination. With no particular aspirations or want for self betterment I find myself at a bit of a cross roads. Has anyone felt this way before?
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dreamscape1111
all is well
- Feb 1, 2023
- 346
Definitely, we don't get taught much about how to live a good life these days,
and much of what's advertised as solutions is often just designed to trap or, as you said, medicate you.
The good news is that it's also possible to use many of these modern technological advancements to your benefit.
For the first time in history, high-quality resources are freely available to pretty much everyone.
Here are some inspiring leads you may wanna check out:
Personality Tests:
16personalities.com
Enneagram (truity.com)
CafeAstrology.com
Books:
The Big Leap, Hendricks
Towards a Psychology of Being, Abraham Maslow
Mastery, George Leonard
Do You!, Russel Simmons
The Wheel of Time, Carlos Castaneda
The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, Deepak Chopra
The Hero with A Thousand Faces, Joseph Campbell (Bill Moyers also did a wonderful interview series with this wise man)
YouTube Channels:
Actualized.org
Eternalised
Einzelgänger
Psych2Go
Teal Swan
Aaron Abke
Yoga with Adriene
YourHigherSelf
"Man's predicament is that he intuits his hidden resources, but he does not dare use them.
Man needs now, more than ever, to be taught new ideas that have to do exclusively with his inner world."
— Carlos Castaneda
"We choose only once. We choose either to be warriors or to be ordinary men." — Carlos Castaneda
"If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you'll be unhappy for the rest of your life."
— Abraham Maslow
"You will never be able to escape from your heart. So it's better to listen to what it has to say."
— Paulo Coelho
"The best job of all is doing something that doesn't feel like a job at all."
— Gay Hendricks
"I do not believe that you should devote overly much effort to correcting your weaknesses.
Rather, I believe that the highest success in living and the deepest emotional satisfaction comes from building and using your signature strengths."
— Martin Seligman, PhD
"Art is a personal act of courage, something one human does that creates change in another."
— Seth Godin
"Sometime in this country, we get soft. Don't get soft. Don't wait for something.
Hit the streets today and hustle like you're an immigrant."
— Russell Simmons
"Hold a picture of yourself long and steady enough in your mind's eye, and you will be drawn toward it."
— Napoleon Hill
"There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure."
— Paulo Coelho
"What are our limits? The truth is we do not know.
The fact is that so many individuals have created what they wanted in the face of presumed limitations,
that it seems unrealistic to impose limitations on ourselves before testing the waters."
— Robert Fritz
"You enter the forest at the darkest point, where there is no path.
Where there is a way or a path, it is someone else's path. If you follow someone else's way, you are not going to realize your potential."
— Joseph Campbell
"People who work creatively usually have something in common: they love the media they work with.
Musicians love the sounds they make, mathematicians love numbers, entrepreneurs love making deals, great teachers love teaching."
— Ken Robinson
"Passion is caring enough about your art that you will do almost anything to give it away,
to make it a gift, to change people."
— Seth Godin
"The successful people are the ones who start working on their jobs whether there seems to be any money in it for them or not."
— Russell Simmons
"The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are."
— Joseph Campbell
"My heart is afraid it will have to suffer. Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself.
And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams."
— Paulo Coelho
"If a warrior is to succeed at anything, the success must come gently, with a great deal of effort but with no stress or obsession."
— Carlos Castaneda
and much of what's advertised as solutions is often just designed to trap or, as you said, medicate you.
The good news is that it's also possible to use many of these modern technological advancements to your benefit.
For the first time in history, high-quality resources are freely available to pretty much everyone.
Here are some inspiring leads you may wanna check out:
Personality Tests:
16personalities.com
Enneagram (truity.com)
CafeAstrology.com
Books:
The Big Leap, Hendricks
Towards a Psychology of Being, Abraham Maslow
Mastery, George Leonard
Do You!, Russel Simmons
The Wheel of Time, Carlos Castaneda
The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, Deepak Chopra
The Hero with A Thousand Faces, Joseph Campbell (Bill Moyers also did a wonderful interview series with this wise man)
YouTube Channels:
Actualized.org
Eternalised
Einzelgänger
Psych2Go
Teal Swan
Aaron Abke
Yoga with Adriene
YourHigherSelf
"Man's predicament is that he intuits his hidden resources, but he does not dare use them.
Man needs now, more than ever, to be taught new ideas that have to do exclusively with his inner world."
— Carlos Castaneda
"We choose only once. We choose either to be warriors or to be ordinary men." — Carlos Castaneda
"If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you'll be unhappy for the rest of your life."
— Abraham Maslow
"You will never be able to escape from your heart. So it's better to listen to what it has to say."
— Paulo Coelho
"The best job of all is doing something that doesn't feel like a job at all."
— Gay Hendricks
"I do not believe that you should devote overly much effort to correcting your weaknesses.
Rather, I believe that the highest success in living and the deepest emotional satisfaction comes from building and using your signature strengths."
— Martin Seligman, PhD
"Art is a personal act of courage, something one human does that creates change in another."
— Seth Godin
"Sometime in this country, we get soft. Don't get soft. Don't wait for something.
Hit the streets today and hustle like you're an immigrant."
— Russell Simmons
"Hold a picture of yourself long and steady enough in your mind's eye, and you will be drawn toward it."
— Napoleon Hill
"There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure."
— Paulo Coelho
"What are our limits? The truth is we do not know.
The fact is that so many individuals have created what they wanted in the face of presumed limitations,
that it seems unrealistic to impose limitations on ourselves before testing the waters."
— Robert Fritz
"You enter the forest at the darkest point, where there is no path.
Where there is a way or a path, it is someone else's path. If you follow someone else's way, you are not going to realize your potential."
— Joseph Campbell
"People who work creatively usually have something in common: they love the media they work with.
Musicians love the sounds they make, mathematicians love numbers, entrepreneurs love making deals, great teachers love teaching."
— Ken Robinson
"Passion is caring enough about your art that you will do almost anything to give it away,
to make it a gift, to change people."
— Seth Godin
"The successful people are the ones who start working on their jobs whether there seems to be any money in it for them or not."
— Russell Simmons
"The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are."
— Joseph Campbell
"My heart is afraid it will have to suffer. Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself.
And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams."
— Paulo Coelho
"If a warrior is to succeed at anything, the success must come gently, with a great deal of effort but with no stress or obsession."
— Carlos Castaneda
Sounds like you do most things for a superficial sense of gratification. Maybe go deeper. Is it possible? By depth I mean sensory depth. Connection, feelings, and not just a dopamine chasing hunt
Source Energy
I want to be where people areN'T...
- Jan 23, 2023
- 705
Also check out:
Thought provoking books (fiction):
- The Midnight Library by Matt Haig
-The Good Samaritan, The Passengers and The One by John Marrs
- Veronika Decides To Die by Paolo Coehlo
- Dark Matter, Recursion and Upgrade by Blake Crouch
- Observer by Robert Lanza
- Someday trilogy by David Levithan
- Game Changer (and everything by Neal Shusterman)
- Just Like Mother by Anne Hetzel
Non fiction:
- The Power of the Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy
- Ask and It is Given by Esther Hicks (all her books too)
- The Game of Life and how to Play It by Florence Scovel Shinn
- Who You Really Are and How Reality Works by Andrew Soltau
- I am, I Create by Erin Werley
- Neville Goddard's books
-Chaos, Creativity and Cosmic Consciousness by Rupert Sheldrake (or anything by this author)
YouTube channels: Neyah; Sammy Ingram; Kim Velez
I hope this material helps someone on the way to recovery!
Thought provoking books (fiction):
- The Midnight Library by Matt Haig
-The Good Samaritan, The Passengers and The One by John Marrs
- Veronika Decides To Die by Paolo Coehlo
- Dark Matter, Recursion and Upgrade by Blake Crouch
- Observer by Robert Lanza
- Someday trilogy by David Levithan
- Game Changer (and everything by Neal Shusterman)
- Just Like Mother by Anne Hetzel
Non fiction:
- The Power of the Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy
- Ask and It is Given by Esther Hicks (all her books too)
- The Game of Life and how to Play It by Florence Scovel Shinn
- Who You Really Are and How Reality Works by Andrew Soltau
- I am, I Create by Erin Werley
- Neville Goddard's books
-Chaos, Creativity and Cosmic Consciousness by Rupert Sheldrake (or anything by this author)
YouTube channels: Neyah; Sammy Ingram; Kim Velez
I hope this material helps someone on the way to recovery!
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