Help a tough question

[cubibibibism]

hello everyone!

i have a bit of a grim request. can someone please talk me into not feeling guilty about what happens to my family and friends?

if i CTB, i want to do it was far away from civilisation as possible, but still, i'll never come back.

 

[Silver The Hedgehog]

the guilt is only temporary anyway. For me it doesn't matter when i remember if i'm dead i wont be feeling anything, no guilt, and i dont have to see their reactions. remind yourself its not your problem anymore soon. Kinda mean but....idk, it is what it is

 

[58Alice85]

i wouldnt worry about it, this world is cursed

 

[dead dav]

guilt
only lasts until your gone it's your decision

 

[Forever Sleep]

I can't move beyond the guilt myself to do it but, sometimes- I do try and reason it away.

As in- it isn't our fault we are in this position. Many of us would have chosen not to be born in the first place. So- it's actually someone else (our parents) who dumped us here, knowing how hard life was and how randomly bad things could happen- to begin with. Ironically, it's also them we are often most obligated to stay for.

Also, along the same theme- they were perfectly prepared to expose us to the pain of bereaving their death and others. Probably via natural death but- they had no way of knowing when that might strike. My Mum died when I was 3. So- there's a double standard to the whole thing. They've been willing to put us through the wringer but we're not allowed to consider doing the same. That simply isn't fair.

 

[isaac clarke]

Things like grief and guilt are up to the individual to let go. Everyone inevitably will lose someone beloved to them, its all just a matter of time.
Make no mistake: suicide is selfish. However, I also think that someone wanting their loved one to stick around on their own terms is also selfish. People move, set strict boundaries, and take sabbaticals that cut them off from loved ones. Is death not just another form of that? Something to think about.