Venting a happy family

[endupdead]

I just wanted to vent, things have been tough. Well, almost forever. I've always loved my parents, I've always been grateful to them for the support they gave me and for being patient with me, but I feel like it's getting hard to live with them. I love my mom, I always help her with whatever and she's the one I spend the most time with, but I don't like her as a person, when I try to tell her how I feel, she always says that she's worse, and my intention is to never say who's worse, I just want to have a little mutual support. There are days when I don't want to talk to her but if I don't, she gets short with me and doesn't want to talk to me.

And with my dad, I feel like I see him as a stranger more and more, we almost never talk. He helps me with my college payment and I help him with things at work. But there are days when I'm pretty sure he looks at me with disappointment. One of the reasons I don't talk to him is because he almost always tries to humiliate me in any way, in front of whoever, it's been like that for as long as I can remember.

I swear there are days when I want to go with my dog and live somewhere else, I would like that. But now I feel too overwhelmed and I'm thinking about sh again.

 

[timf]

In the movie City Slickers one character describes his interest in baseball. He says that when he was still living at home, it was about the only subject he could discuss with his father. If you want better communication you may be the one that has to create it. This usually requires you to ask questions to which the other person recognizes as genuine interest and this can often get people to open up. You may not find that everyone is able to reciprocate. However, if you can find a subject of mutual interest, you might find a common ground.

 

[MyTimeIsUp]

Unfortunately, I understand how this feels. Some don't have empathy for others so they will make it about themselves, and it doesn't matter how many nice conversations you have, or how much you take an interest (which you shouldn't have to do with your parents, there should be things you can already talk about, but some parents are just shit, and have absolutely no empathy, it sadly just doesn't happen.

I would recommend moving out to allow you to be able to gain some independence and find yourself. You'll feel free, and you won't have to worry about this. Being an independent adult is so important for us all

 

[theboy]

It's a bit similar to my family situation

I understand your burden. Sometimes I also want to go away with my pet