a classic warning of suicide: giving things away

[Fadeawaaaay]

The past few months, I've gotten serious about giving away things that I've collected over a lifetime. My partner is older and feeble, and I question whether he would have the strength to go thru my things, and attend to finding "new homes" for them.

He's also trifling as hell, and would probably call garbage men and take all my nice stuff to the dump. (before taking the energy to go thru things.)

I'm old, and it's not easy getting rid of things you've owned since the 1950s. At first I thought it would be an unbearably emotional experience, going thru memories and objects from a lifetime. But it has become a relief.....knowing my nice things will get a new home, and not be sent to the dump. There are two charity thrift stores nearby that I'm donating to, when I get a 5 box delivery ready. (5 boxes is their limit on donations at this time)

Getting rid of things is a classic feature of impending suicide. My partner has a Masters in Counseling, but has failed to notice I'm getting rid of a LOT of stuff. and I do mean a lot. and there's more to go. An example how far removed he is, when it comes to anything about me.

Any of you folks experiencing this? or have experienced it?

Yes absolutely. Suddenly all of my valuable possessions are worthless. All these beautiful things that have been collected in my family going back 100 years. There's nobody to pass them onto. It's really tragic because the stuff is so beautiful… Asian art dating back centuries. And all sorts of other things with immense sentimental value. There's actually too much to sort through… I just partly why I want to CTB- It's too much to deal with. And you're right, it's a classic symptoms that one is ready to leave.

 

[Hateyouprolife]

Even morecserious sign is writing your testament and leaving note how to organise funereal.

 

[Mlee75]

The past few months, I've gotten serious about giving away things that I've collected over a lifetime. My partner is older and feeble, and I question whether he would have the strength to go thru my things, and attend to finding "new homes" for them.

He's also trifling as hell, and would probably call garbage men and take all my nice stuff to the dump. (before taking the energy to go thru things.)

I'm old, and it's not easy getting rid of things you've owned since the 1950s. At first I thought it would be an unbearably emotional experience, going thru memories and objects from a lifetime. But it has become a relief.....knowing my nice things will get a new home, and not be sent to the dump. There are two charity thrift stores nearby that I'm donating to, when I get a 5 box delivery ready. (5 boxes is their limit on donations at this time)

Getting rid of things is a classic feature of impending suicide. My partner has a Masters in Counseling, but has failed to notice I'm getting rid of a LOT of stuff. and I do mean a lot. and there's more to go. An example how far removed he is, when it comes to anything about me.

Nobody's noticing that I'm giving away my stuff, thank goodness. At first, I was very emotional about giving some things away. After some thought, I realized that I won't care about my stuff after the deed is done. I put some thought into other people's things that I have received through the years, very few things have emotional importance to me. I feel others will probably be the same way. Also, I am frugal by nature and was upset at the cost of some of the things going away. But what's it to me?
I started to feel like I was pushing things on people . So, I just let my storage go - lladro's, nambe, jewelry, tools and all. It will make some storage buyer very happy. I would donate them but my store's far away and I do not have help to pack . I've decided to concentrate more on getting my legal affairs in order to make it easier for whomever deals with the estate. Would you want your partner to notice?

Speaking as a male. Your partner loves you very much. He has his own grief and worries and may not be "ignoring" you in the sense that you feel he is. You see him toil and go through his day not giving you attention but he has you on his mind. It's not that he doesnt notice or think about what hardships you are going through or anything like that. You want the advice of a younger man? Hold your husbands face gently, ask him to look you in the eyes gently, ask him to go to a simple lunch or dinner. Tell him you dont want to drift. Tell him you love him. Tell him to go back to the "honeymoon phase". You are a woman and you have no idea the power you have over a man. Use that power. Get him to not be busy for a moment and talk to him about how you feel. You dont have to tell him about your depression but tell him how you feel. He loves you. Command him and he will do it. Did You lose this power? Take a bath together. Go for a walk and actually talk about mutual things together. He has his pains also. Remember that before you misjudge him or take his actions as a misunderstanding.

Aww so romantic. You should write a romance novel, you have a gift.

 

[Mlee75]

Speaking as a male. Your partner loves you very much. He has his own grief and worries and may not be "ignoring" you in the sense that you feel he is. You see him toil and go through his day not giving you attention but he has you on his mind. It's not that he doesnt notice or think about what hardships you are going through or anything like that. You want the advice of a younger man? Hold your husbands face gently, ask him to look you in the eyes gently, ask him to go to a simple lunch or dinner. Tell him you dont want to drift. Tell him you love him. Tell him to go back to the "honeymoon phase". You are a woman and you have no idea the power you have over a man. Use that power. Get him to not be busy for a moment and talk to him about how you feel. You dont have to tell him about your depression but tell him how you feel. He loves you. Command him and he will do it. Did You lose this power? Take a bath together. Go for a walk and actually talk about mutual things together. He has his pains also. Remember that before you misjudge him or take his actions as a misunderstanding.

Your thoughts were so beautiful to me that I went and read them again. Also I am old and bad at internet and I think I replied to something else