Yandere Thread

[Hikikomori1]

me - definitely more than tendencies

Do you ever feel lonely?

 

[crimsonpool]

Do you ever feel lonely?

yeah. 99% of the time

 

[Hikikomori1]

yeah. 99% of the time

Me too.

 

[Ultracheese]

I suppose this is me! Before I met my now ex-partner, I was obsessed with him to an incredibly unhealthy degree. Now that we are not together, in a way, my obsession has only increased, and it makes me feel way worse.

 

[No_Lxve]

No but a girl who I didn't date became obsessive. so, I decided to ask her why she was obsessive. and she gave me every little single detail about how and why. she even went as far as telling me she was going to stuff me in her closet and if I leave, she will slit my throat...yay cool....

a lot of people (assuming other stalkers and "yandere's") think it's "cute". but I think its adorable to see them try.

 

[Hikikomori1]

I suppose this is me! Before I met my now ex-partner, I was obsessed with him to an incredibly unhealthy degree. Now that we are not together, in a way, my obsession has only increased, and it makes me feel way worse.

Here is a hug from me to you.

 

[internetgirl]

i have some tendencies Id say, but not exactly in the traditional sense.

I haven't really even had a crush on people, I just create versions in my head and then get obsessed with them. suddenly all I'm thinking about is this person and what they're doing, finding out their whole life story without even talking to them. Being willing to change my whole life for them until one day I just stop and find someone new. so no real crush, just my delusion and coping kicking in. if I can think about them I don't have to think about all my problems . although if I did really have someone I'd do anything to keep them with me. it's dangerous cuz I'd probably scare them away or get hurt myself but if they really love me I probably wouldn't care

 

[psp3000]

what the difference between being an observant or nosy person and being a yandere ?

I find myself being nosy or overly observant of strangers and people I am friends with not with malicious intent but out of curiosity and wanting to know more about them especially if I find them interesting, strange, or suspicious

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm sure I'm prone to limerance (obsessive crushes on people.) I'm not sure whether that's the same thing but it's horrible!

 

[OceanBlue]

Spoiler: quote

ive never considered this as a possibility but as a kid i had a very unhealthy obsession with a boy in school that lasted for roughly four years until he eventually left school (i still worry if it was because of me). i would get really angry when anyone else talked to him, i remember when someone got a teacher to swap our places in a class where i sat next to him and i wanted to kill them. i copied everything the boy did, tried to figure out where he lived, would look at rings in a catalogue every day after school and very nearly got my parents to buy me matching rings so i could give him one, im very glad i didnt do that bc i have no idea what i would've done if he rejected it. he was very quiet and whenever i confessed my feelings to him he wouldnt say anything so i took that as him being ok with it. i would follow him around and touch him as much as i could. i realise now that i was basically bullying him, but i was so blinded by my obsession with him i didnt even realise as a kid. the funny thing is i eventually left school as well bc of mental health issues and somehow got put in the same specialised school as him, but by that time i had come out as trans so i have no idea if he knew it was me. he had changed a lot physically but was still very quiet, and anytime he said something to me (which probably happened twice in the whole three years we were in this school) i got sent back to feeling like that obsessed little kid, but it didnt last long thankfully. i have never told anyone about this in my life because im way too ashamed to admit it. its been eating away at me my whole life but nobody knows about it. i feel awful thinking about how my actions affected his mental health. he moved to my school and had no friends when i first met him, and i immediately was obsessed with him up until he left again, i feel so bad.

other than that, in my first relationship, i very quickly became obsessed with my partner, but we were long distance which made it especially hard for me bc i was constantly worried they were cheating on me, even tho they were a really lovely person and they would never do that (i dont think anyway) i was just paranoid. i eventually ruined this relationship with my constant paranoid questions and casually mentioning my suicidal thoughts which really affected their mental health which again i didnt realise at the time. i nearly killed myself multiple times after they broke up with me.

i got diagnosed with bpd last year so i think a lot of my behaviour is because of that. im glad i have that diagnosis now so i can try to recognise my behaviours in the future. i havent been in a relationship for a while because i really worry about how ill behave, and i also have major trust issues so it takes me way too long to warm up to someone and by the time i do theyve found someone else. im not currently obsessed with anyone thankfully. i feel like im going to be single for the rest of my life.

Strikingly written, it played out like a movie in my head.

"i feel like im going to be single for the rest of my life." Same, I'm uncomfortable with stability and unstable relationships are not worth it.

 

[JustLain]

Hello, definitely an IRL yandere here. I didn't realize it until I fell in love again recently. Before this relationship I was single for 4 yearsish. While I have no diagnosis, I suspect I suffer from OLD (Obsessive Love Disorder). I get violent thoughts at the idea of my SO just being around other people. I yell, I get angry, not good stuff.
I've started to notice I require her attention often, at least an hour a day, just to stay healthy. I have self-isolated myself and tend to avoid people besides my SO, going as far as to remove 90% of my friends. My entire world revolves around her and only her. From my waking to my dreams, she is often the only thing on my mind, I get sick when she isn't around.
I'm entirely not a good person, but I am extremely lucky to have found someone who accepts me despite my horrible behavior. She knows my darkest parts and we have had discussions about it. She finds my obsession "cute" and "addicting" which is a massive bonus to me since I am normally called a creep and get blocked when I make advances towards people.
Being a yandere isn't fun, in all honesty, but I've come to accept myself, this is just how I am, and I am super happy to be in a relationship where I am loved and appreciated, and not only fetishized for my die hard obsessive and possessive behavior.
I know I left tons of details out so ask me anything if you have any questions for me.

 

[Hikikomori1]

what the difference between being an observant or nosy person and being a yandere ?

A Yandere is someone who has a obsessive emotional/romantic attraction to another person to an unhealthy degree where it is stalker-like or even violent or possessive.

A few real life yanderes that come to mind are Yuka Takaoka Jennifer Pan Ming Sen Shiue Ricardo Lopez aka The Bjork Stalker and Telekla Patrick

 

[psp3000]

A Yandere is someone who has a obsessive emotional/romantic attraction to another person to an unhealthy degree where it is stalker-like or even violent or possessive.

A few real life yanderes that come to mind are Yuka Takaoka Jennifer Pan Ming Sen Shiue Ricardo Lopez aka The Bjork Stalker and Telekla Patrick

reminds me of erotomania I'm not sure or understand why people would like, enjoy, or be attracted to something like that

what is your opinion or stance on people who romanticize those tendencies or welcome them if you do not mind me asking?

(edit: thanks for clarifying, makes me realize that I have a few tendiencies that I should probably work on although they aren't violent)

 

[Hikikomori1]

what is your opinion or stance on people who romanticize those tendencies

Its mostly just kids and weebs who don't know better but yeah they are stupid.