Discussion Would you tell people you care about, before ctb?

[MMB]

So there is one person in the world that I care about enough that I want them to know my exact reasons for ctb. I want them to know that my reasons were not due to anything that they did or didn't do. I want to give them time to get used to the fact that I will ctb.

I know that it will be very very hard for them to hear it, and they'll be upset but would they be more upset hearing about my death after the fact?

Would you tell them? Let's for now ignore the possibility of them informing LE or anybody else. Interested to hear people's thoughts.

 

[WornOutLife]

Nope, they would just try to stop me from ctb.
However, I would express all my feelings and reasons to have ctb in my notes and videos I'll leave behind.

 

[hfdepression30]

Nope, they would just try to stop me from ctb.
However, I would express all my feelings and reasons to have ctb in my notes and videos I'll leave behind.

Exactly what he said ^

 

[WatermelonMel]

Nope, staying quiet is the key to succeeding: nobody can interfere.

 

[suicide4me]

No, it's very difficult to stay quiet and act like everything is normal and fine, but the second I would tell someone, they would try and "help" me and foil everything. No one close to me knows anything about my plans or my date and they won't know until it's too late, because I am going to succeed and taking no chances on this getting fucked up

 

[FuneralCry]

I think you should only do this if you want to be locked in a psych ward for eternity.

 

[russlinjimmies]

I agree with what others are saying. I'd have several I'd want to let know by way of a note me reasons, to let them know it wasn't because of them, and here would have been no way to prevent it, hoping they wouldn't torture themselves looking for "warning signs" in their memories.

 

[Bedrock48]

It depends on the person, if you're already open and honest about mental health and such with them before they might listen. Otherwise they'll likely just be heavily against and maybe not fully understand what you're saying.

The one time I told a few friends I was about to ctb they were obvs freaked out. I remember one said "the fact you're telling us means you don't want to do this". I understand the thought behind it and I really appreciated them replying but it was very opposite to how I was feeling. I knew it was what I wanted, even though SI ultimately stopped me.

I'd say you're better off leaving them something you think would help them understand, a note, a video, a book of drawings etc.

 

[Rustysoupcan]

I just found this thread because I was going to post the same thing. I want to tell my boyfriend I'm going to ctb without telling him the exact date. I dont know exactly how he would react. I just dont want to make it a surprise for him because I know he will blame himself forever

 

[RedEther]

My friend stared having panic attacks, trouble sleeping, and switching between understanding and doing everything she could to stop me. I regret telling her and switched over to pretending to haven't made up my mind. To be fair most of my friends are faraway and work ungodly hours so its not like they can drop everything and get to me

 

[Stopthepain]

Hm people I am close to and my family already know my Plans. They even know i have N. But i am severly sick for 3 years and my health is so bad that only the little stupporn friends would still tell me not to do it.. there all were at least watching me on my deathroad. And my reasons are too clean and rational to Argue against them the dumb Phrase u are only 26 it still can get better.. yeaah.. after trying every shit i could to get better and still degenerating after 3 years to the point i can barely move and talk and feel retarted in my cognitions..
I think it Depends on how smart or empatathic your friends are.. and how reasonable your problems for normal people are. I only have to ask : would u like to have lo live like me or rather be dead. And nobody would wanna live the way i have to..
The last Response from the last old But very good friend was:" it is your life and your decision i wont say u shouldnt do it."

But still i wouldn tell when i qm actually plan to do it.. sadly it isnt possible. You dont know how parents and friends react when the time has come. Society tells people it is good to prevent people from comitting suicide and Saving a life no matter miserable the life of the Peson was.
(Stupid stupid selfish and dumb society). Only one Person has to Start panicing out of selfish reasons dont wanna Lose you, lieing to themself that they do the right thing by calling the ambulance and you are FUCKED. They will raid your apartment, "save" u by Petting you into the mental Hospital. Take away your N, SN( or whatever u are gonna use ) or even worse you already started your ctb and u wake up as a vegitable. Easy answer why nobody tells people when they gonna suicide. It is sad that we cant be open about it, but the risk is too high.

We HAVE to withdrawl and secretly and silently end our misery like we commit some Crime. Because Society and people arent understanding and selfless enough to go the death road with you.

Pretty sad after years of horrible suffering..