Discussion would you rather be forgotten or missed?

[february in alaska]

I find myself swinging between the two. For my close family, I want them to "move on" as best they can and I would be fine even if they just forgot about me completely. But for other people in my life, old friends, coworkers, etc., I hope they miss me. I hope that I made enough of an impact on some of these people for them to feel just a little bit sad or have some grief

I keep saying I just want to be forgotten but the truth is, the idea of everyone moving on and not really even caring is devastating for me to think about. Mostly because (for everyone besides my immediate family) I have a feeling it's going to be true.

 

[アホペンギン]

I'd rather be forgotten, as if I never existed because after all, the best fates were of those who never burdened with existence in the first place.

 

[gbi2]

Forgotten. I don't feel my life has amounted to anything, nor have I really changed anyone elses for the better. well I've made peoples lives at work better from automating tasks but that is rarely appreciated and at times met with hostility and bullying, but I'm not important and never have been.
With the cost of a death being estimated to be over a million to the economy, I'm only worth something if I die anyway.

I kind of like the idea that as government borrowing is done based on their ability to collect future taxes to pay off the amount borrowed, I'm putting a spanner in the works for them. The more people who die, the less likely it is the national debt is paid off and the greater the burden on the people who have mistreated me.

 

[leavingthesoultrap]

forgotten

 

[the_path_of_sorrows]

I want to be remembered as someone who tried hard to find a reason to keep living. I wanna be remembered as an example that it's possible to prolong suffering as a self punishment. I don't wanna be forgotten. Please, do remember the insane me. Know how far the suffering can go, look into those unseeing eyes.

 

[melancholia_melodia]

I've felt ignored my whole life, so I'd rather be missed than forgotten. I hope my family misses me the most.

 

[hi-okbye]

forgotten. i'd rather people forget me then have the pain of missing me.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

As long as I am dead, I don't care.

 

[numbed one]

Forgotten till i can't cause pain

 

[jinx <3]

Mostly forgotten, but I know several people in my life who'd like to remember me even with the pain. So for them I guess I'd rather be remembered; forgotten by everyone else though.

 

[Sylveon]

Forgotten by family, remembered by everyone else (don't ask why; I dont know myself).

Although it's defo gonna be the opposite if/when my fraidy ass manages to CTB.

 

[GlutenFreeCat]

I want to be completely forgotten by everyone I've ever had any kind of relationship with. I wish I could be erased completely from this world.

 

[Yaffle]

Forgotten. I don't fit in, life happens around me and I'm just watching.

 

[Abyssal]

Missed 100%, not in the crying in mourning way but the idealistic "they were a good person" way

I've experienced being forgotten, I don't want to live in a world where I don't matter to anyone. I don't want to go back to that.

 

[sanlcx]

i mean we'll all be forgotten, doesn't matter if we want to be missed or not, we won't in the long term.

 

[WonderingSoul]

I want to be missed at least by someone, I don't want to be completely forgotten.

 

[nightmare_moon]

It's hard to decide! I'm leaning towards being forgotten though. I don't want people to care too much and be hurt by losing me. At the same time, I want to be remembered by people who never knew me too personally y'know? Like, missing me and my company but not to the point of causing really any distress.

 

[Deleted member 65988]

Utterly forgotten, not a trace left of me because it's not significant that I once existed.

 

[february in alaska]

Forgotten by family, remembered by everyone else (don't ask why; I dont know myself).

Although it's defo gonna be the opposite if/when my fraidy ass manages to CTB.

Exact same situation here. I don't understand it either

 

[penguinl0v3s]

Forgotten. I would not want to make others suffer, and I know how much suffering comes from missing someone.

 

[Copier0997]

Sometimes I imagine people finding out and being devastated by the news. But at the same time I push people away almost to prove to myself that they don't care. I don't know why I think of that. I'm sure there is some interesting psychology behind it.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

As long as I am dead, I don't care.

This is my answer too. Though I can say that I don't really care right now either

 

[mywayout]

i don't know. i feel being missed would hurt as much as being forgotten.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'd like to be missed in a fond way but not a really upset way and then forgotten about mainly, to only be remembered every so often fleetingly. A bit how I remember friends who have passed on. I do feel sad that they're not in this world anymore but it isn't that terrible grief when a close family member dies. It's mostly a nice recollection of our happy memories.

 

[FuneralCry]

I just wish to eternally cease existing in peace and be forgotten about, ideally I'd wish to completely disappear so it's like I never existed at all. To me it's comforting to think of being forgotten about, I only see non-existence as desirable and I see it as better that existence is erased.