I am highly perplexed by statements "Good"PersonEffed made earlier about a post I made here and in other threads. The other quotes of his are out of context, so let us focus on the one here, where everything can be read in its entirety. The US media does a good enough job with taking things out of context as is. Will everyone read comment #28 and explain to me what was so horrible about what I said. I want to see where the communication breakdown is. I tried working with GoodPersonEffed on this but he refused, claiming that me trying to have a discussion on this was also me being manipulative. Definitely a no-win situation. I find it distasteful that someone tries to vilify you in a public forum and denies conversation. Even more disheartening is that his bullying hate speech has likes.
In comment #28, I was not dismissing what other people were saying. I was saying that I found certain ways of judging others to be detrimental. I believed that some of the prior ideas would quickly mark some good people as bad, and if the good are instantly marked bad, then you are only left with the bad. If one wants to have the Partner Megathread useful, then this would have the opposite effect.
One person said that if they saw a post that had a guy looking for a female partner to CTB with, then its an automatic red flag . I disagreed with this statement. A man seeking a female partner to CTB with seemed like a natural preference to me and I am not sure how it could be interpreted automatically in any other way. Should I also automatically assume a straight woman looking for a male partner or a lesbian/gay looking for a same sex partner is equally a red flag? I wasn't in anyway saying the person that made the statement was a horrible person for making it. I imagine we are all adult enough here to have a discussion, which sometimes equals one person disagreeing with another? I quoted the person at the time, on the off chance they wanted to discuss their point of view, as I have no problem having a conversation.
In the last paragraph of post #28 I agreed there are toxic people out there. Then I clearly said let us all work together and come up with ways to protect people from the toxic and harmful types while also working towards making the partner megathread more useful (the part that wasn't quoted earlier and has been ignored). I truly do not get how what I said in #28 is creepy, manipulative, shaming and so forth (claims made by the other user).
I admit I am not the brightest guy on the block, and perhaps my wording could had been better, or I could had used a better example, but to have such a strong reaction to what I said, I am seriously at a lost here. I hate derailing this thread further and hearing more hateful speech thrown at me, but I am beyond confused.
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