Discussion Will you leave a goodbye note?

[zoyam]

Few days ago, I wrote my note to be prepared. But yesterday, I just burned the note and decided not to leave any message behind. Why should i give others closure of they just keep pretending that they care about me. But in reality they just care about their image in the society.

What will you do?

 

[death137]

No

 

[aligatorek]

I'm sorry you feel unloved. How exactly do they behave and why do you think they are pretending to care?

I've already written an almost 4-page letter to my parents. I know they will be devastated and want to give them as much peace as possible. I described, among others, why I leave, that they did everything they could, and that they are the best parents I could imagine. I recalled some memories that we share, how I made carrot cake with my mom (now I can smell this cinnamon scent in the kitchen!) or made bike trips with my dad when I was a little girl and we always stopped to buy ice-cream. Life used to be so easy back then.

 

[Harleyyy]

Yes, i think no one should blame themselves for my death, however there are people to be blamed kind of but no, I wouldn't want that for them. My family has been nice to me. I wouldn't want them blaming themselves atleast. The trauma will be too much already

 

[HeadPressure]

I'd leave a note only addressing the good people in my life

 

[lotus11]

I doubt ill leave a note. I used to think there is one person would bother to say goodbye to but now I doubt it. It does annoy me though the type of bullshit opinions people are likely to say about your death after your gone....but still not likely to change that much even with a note. I'll probably leave nothing although still very undecided about it

 

[WFJ74]

I've got notes written and sealed to my wife and other family members.

 

[VIBRITANNIA]

i'm planning to leave a note, but not for some "goodbye"s or "i'm sorry"s. it'll just be explaining why i did it, and what led me to ctb. i want to have at least one sign of my true self before people try to paint me as something i'm not.

 

[pillowbrat]

i plan on just leaving a note with my post-mortem wishes, what i want my family to do with my body etc.

 

[7ighway]

it's hard to leave a note when you know you'll never be able to truly convey what led you up to this point

 

[Stick]

I'm going to leave a note because I have been having conflict with some of my family and I want to make sure as best as I can that they do not blame themselves for my actions. Even if it doesn't make them feel better, I don't my personal struggles to be known as something they aren't. I want them to know what I really feel once I ctb.

 

[allTheDevilsAreHere]

No. I'm done talking and explaining. I've used up too many words already anyways.

 

[Rue89]

I wrote three notes, one each for my mom and dad, and my "last statement" to pro-lifers.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Yes but it will be anonymous and won't be addressed to anyone specific or personal.

 

[Nymph]

No

 

[OnlyTheWind]

I want to leave a whole notebook detailing reasons, beliefs and instructions. Can't ctb until this is done, but at least I don't need to set a date.

 

[TAW122]

Originally planned to in the past, then deliberated between yes, no, maybe, and then recently, back to no. I don't plan on leaving a note because of the extra effort, time, and energy expended to do so would not likely change what others' think of me. They already have their preconceived (inaccurate and oftenly wrong) opinions about me and my reasons so my note isn't likely going to change it. They will be mourning and grieving no matter what so regardless of what I say, it's likely they will either dismiss or misinterpret it, thus no point in doing so.

 

[mapletree]

I think a short note is good to at least rule out foul play. I would hate for them to like, not figure it out or assume something else and go through an expensive autopsy or something vs "Yeah this is what happened, here's a guide for what I want done with my body but it's no big deal just some suggestions to take the load off a sudden death". Especially if you choose a method that could be really ambiguous or have a risk of you not being found if you were doing it off in the woods or something (I would probably pre-mail a letter in that case). It would really suck if it was a weird ambiguous method that could look like foul play and some innocent person got accused...which is why I would try to leave some kind of note even if I don't have much eloquent stuff to say

now if everyone you leave behind is an asshole then it matters less lol

oh, If theres ever a chance that there could be toxic fumes or substances around your body...I think you're obligated to leave some kind of warning to whoever could find you

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

 

[Superdeterminist]

I like the idea of a note but:

1.Not really sure what to say in the note
2.I don't want a note to be found if I attempt to ctb and fail, it would be humiliating.

 

[foxdie]

I've been going back and forth on this for weeks. A part of me thinks leaving a note will do more harm then good. Another part of me thinks it'll help to bring closure for those remaining on this nightmare rock. It's tough, right now I have my letters written but I may just tear them up and throw them out. I don't know, it's hard...

 

[lost guy]

I have typed up about two pages worth of explanations. It mostly revolves around the woman who left me after spending 11 years together. About how much pain it has caused me. It also details how my anxieties have cost me pretty much everything I cherished and worked toward outside of my relationship with her.

I have also typed up what to do with my assets and how to allocate them according to my wishes.

The only thing left it to type up personal letters to my parents and other loved ones that I know will believe it was their fault. I want them to know that this is my decision and that it is too late for me to put in the time and effort to pick up what's left and move on.

It is not their fault. Hopefully they understand that.

 

[Nephthys22]

I am honestly writing a "goodbye" journal. I do want people in my life to know exactly why. Thing things that I have been though, The reasons I have made the choices that I have made, and the plays I have going forward until its time to CBT.

 

[Shades of Grey]

I've agonized over this, and have decided that I probably won't leave a note. I worry about misinterpretation, inadvertently leaving people with more questions than answers, or somebody feeling the need for clarification they'll never receive. Too much potential for unintended consequences. (Or maybe I'm just a terrible writer. I don't know.)

One friend may receive a brief note expressing my appreciation (as I fear that she may wrongly place some blame on herself and that kills me). My mom might get a short "you're awesome, I love you, and I'm sorry,"... but there won't be a real "note".

 

[foxdie]

I've agonized over this, and have decided that I probably won't leave a note. I worry about misinterpretation, inadvertently leaving people with more questions than answers, or somebody feeling the need for clarification they'll never receive. Too much potential for unintended consequences. (Or maybe I'm just a terrible writer. I don't know.)

One friend may receive a brief note expressing my appreciation (as I fear that she may wrongly place some blame on herself and that kills me). My mom might get a short "you're awesome, I love you, and I'm sorry,"... but there won't be a real note.

Misinterpretation is unavoidable in your final letter. But I get your hesistense for those left behind. It's hard. I try to take solice in the fact that death is the end for everyone. Doesn't help much but it helps I guess lol.

 

[Wayfaerer]

I think that would be best. I don't want to give them the impression that it was sudden and impulsive. I had thought about it for a long time now and I still haven't changed my mind.

 

[HowSoonIsNow]

I just wrote one, if you guys want to read it I would love to share

 

[Shades of Grey]

I was the recipient of a suicide note in my early teens, but was lied to about the cause of death and didn't realize that was what it was. I was both appreciative and confused. The note was lost in a move, so I'll never have an opportunity to read it in the manner it was intended, and that saddens me.

I suspect that if I were to lose someone, I'd prefer to receive that final communication even if it left me wanting... but I still can't bring myself to leave one.

 

[NeedToD]

Writing a note or anything of the sort definitely wouldn't achieve anything. All that it would do is make me look like more of a bitch in the eyes of people that hate my guts.

 

[foxdie]

I'm so conflicted on the idea of a note. I can't decide if it'll help or hurt (or both) once I'm gone.