under members you can find a list and if you go down to the bottom or...i want to say the three dots in the top right hand corner (judging by the upper case im guessing youre on mobile) and you can see the active ones there. click on their name and youll see "start chat" "start conversation" pick one and message them.
also part of me wondered if it was my fault for saying "i want..." but that doesnt seem fair/nice. i mean i get that it could upset people but like i also said, i didnt give any details on what happened so no one can really make a judgment about it because they dont know anything, so whos to say whats right vs wrong. also even if it is wrong, i said im broken and by locking it because i said "i want.." is kind of like saying "shut up dont say it" so idk if it was my fault or not. if it is, sorry, i guess?