Why regret something you onced wanted?

[Butterflycharm3636]

Why regret something you once wanted?

Q/A: What do you regret?

A: for me it's a lot of things. I somehow regret ever feeding into my depression, and regret how I make myself feel (i.e. Suicidal) I regret cutting myself but I also don't at the same time. My arms are now littered in scars and I can't even step out of the house without someone asking me if I got into a fight with a tiger. Or just calling me a downright tiger because of the stripes on my arms. I've been very lost recently, and i don't know what im doing with my life. I move into college in 4 days. I don't know if i'll be able to handle everyone staring at me because i'm different and they can obviously tell i hurt myself. I don't know If i can go through that again. I hate myself so much for it, and that's why i regret it. But I think if i had the choice i would still do it again.

sorry if that was a lot of contrindication I was just venting, But y'a…

 

[DarkFriend.]

I say that I regret nothing because I know that I wouldn't be who I am now without the exact experience I've underwent... but is it really true?

I'm unsure. Sometimes I regret not killing myself earlier in life but there are also times that I'm proud of what I've become. Sometimes I regret even being born but that's silly now isn't it, since I had no control over that...

I feel you on the contradiction part. I don't know how long I'll be able to tolerate it either--before I throw my hands up and say to hell with it all.

Please don't be so ashamed of your scars. Some people have them on their livers and brains, even their hearts from the punishment they've inflicted on themselves. At least the supposed detriment of yours is mostly cosmetic. You're different, and that's okay. It's our individual experiences that make us all unique.

 

[Holu]

Why regret something you once wanted?

Q/A: What do you regret?

A: for me it's a lot of things. I somehow regret ever feeding into my depression, and regret how I make myself feel (i.e. Suicidal) I regret cutting myself but I also don't at the same time. My arms are now littered in scars and I can't even step out of the house without someone asking me if I got into a fight with a tiger. Or just calling me a downright tiger because of the stripes on my arms. I've been very lost recently, and i don't know what im doing with my life. I move into college in 4 days. I don't know if i'll be able to handle everyone staring at me because i'm different and they can obviously tell i hurt myself. I don't know If i can go through that again. I hate myself so much for it, and that's why i regret it. But I think if i had the choice i would still do it again.

sorry if that was a lot of contrindication I was just venting, But y'a…

Are… are people actually saying that about your scars, or is this just like family or an exaggeration

I have very few noticeable arm scars, since I predominantly cut chest and stomach. I've always had a love-hate relationship with my wounds, but was always afraid of arm scars because it was too obvious and I didn't want these kinds of responses.

I'm so sorry if people are treating you like that. That's nothing but disgusting and not in the slightest but funny.

 

[CW36]

Don't have regrets; every experience is a learning curve.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I regret a few decisions many years ago that lead to the (financial) disaster I'm in now and to a life with no bright future ahead in my age anymore.

 

[CW36]

I regret a few decisions many years ago that lead to the (financial) disaster I'm in now and to a life with no bright future ahead in my age anymore.

At least you took risks. Life is all about risk and reward. Better to have loved and lost and all that, than forever live a humdrum existence.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

At least you took risks. Life is all about risk and reward. Better to have loved and lost and all that, than forever live a humdrum existence.

Yeah your right! I know that I've lost the gamble in 2019, hence CTB is on the plan! And probably inevitable.

 

[Butterflycharm3636]

Are… are people actually saying that about your scars, or is this just like family or an exaggeration

I have very few noticeable arm scars, since I predominantly cut chest and stomach. I've always had a love-hate relationship with my wounds, but was always afraid of arm scars because it was too obvious and I didn't want these kinds of responses.

I'm so sorry if people are treating you like that. That's nothing but disgusting and not in the slightest but funny.

More than less people have a comment about my scars. It's always the "what happened to your arm?" LIKE it's SO FUCKING OBVIOUS WHAT HAPPENED TO MY ARM! you don't just wake up and have fucking scars all over your arms. the kids at school used to call me tony the tiger because of the "stripes" on my arms.

 

[carac]

My sister in law had some treatment for her sh scars on her arms, i think it took a while and quite a few visits but there are things that can be done and in the future treatments might improve. Also bear in mind they didn't effect here finding a partner (my brother) and having children (my nieces and nephews)

 

[silentcicada]

I kinda feel you. I hate when people mock or make "jokes" poking fun at my scars when they clearly understand they were self-inflicted. I don't regret harming myself, just the scars themselves.

 

[Butterflycharm3636]

My sister in law had some treatment for her sh scars on her arms, i think it took a while and quite a few visits but there are things that can be done and in the future treatments might improve. Also bear in mind they didn't effect here finding a partner (my brother) and having children (my nieces and nephews)

thank you I needed to hear thjs

 

[FeyB]

Personally, the only way I could accept my mistakes troughout my healing process is understanding that I did it cause it was the right choice with the mentality I had at the time and the choices I was presented with.

Don't have regrets; every experience is a learning curve.

basically CW36 response was the way I could only accept myself as a life kinda worth living still not sure though


Talking about the self harm specifically, i totally get you. I don't have visible noticible scars so nobody outside my friendgroup and my parents know. Nevertheless, some of my friends are cutter and I can't stand the face of horror they are confronted with when someone eventually notices them.

Tried to bring it up with my conservative friend and they say it's more of a tought of like "I wish it wouldn't happen to anyone" something like pity but disgust is undirectly present in their eyes. Still I personally don't get it and to me makes no differences outside of an estetic preference like strech mark or something else that is mostly outside of your control.
Idk where you live but with the rampant number of cases in Italy I think people start becoming more accepting and I hope you can find someone in your collage who would be able to see through your scars.

 

[MyChoiceAlone]

eople mock or make "jokes" poking fun at my scars

i was talking to someone i met here that was upset. i never knew anyone personally that did this. so i came to my own conclusion that it is just another addiction. everyone will most likely develop an addiction i.e. i smoke (alot). kids can be.. well.. 'kids'. am glad you were able to get through it thus far. i wonder which addictions the people that teased you will get?

 

[F&Inside]

Hi Butterflycharm.
I'm sorry you have to deal with such disrespectful people out there, those kind of people are immature and uneducated, they should grow up. Do not worry, you will not have those setbacks with considerate people and with good manners.
Best whises.

 

[Aloneisbestforme]

What the?

I don't understand how people can be like this and feel good about themselves I just don't get it
making fun of anyone gets you nowhere. I am so sorry to hear that

Hopefully that changes later on for you

More than less people have a comment about my scars. It's always the "what happened to your arm?" LIKE it's SO FUCKING OBVIOUS WHAT HAPPENED TO MY ARM! you don't
just wake up and have fucking scars all over your arms. the kids at school used to call me tony the tiger because of the "stripes" on my arms.