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Darkover

Darkover

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why happiness is bad metric for measuring life quality because you could be in one of the worst circumstance and still be happy provided your brain is being pump full of happy chemicals just like depressed people are said to have brain imbalance the same could be said for those that are happy even though the circumstance which life finds it self in are bleak

1. Happiness Can Be Chemically Induced, Regardless of Reality

Just as depression can result from a chemical imbalance, so can persistent happiness. A person might feel euphoric in objectively terrible conditions simply because their brain is flooded with dopamine or serotonin—whether from drugs, brain injury, or genetic quirks. In that case:

Feeling good doesn't mean things are good.


2. Subjectivity Masks Objective Harm

Happiness is inherently subjective. A person could adapt to suffering or become desensitized to abuse or deprivation and still report "being happy." But that doesn't mean the circumstances are just, safe, or desirable.

Example: Someone in a warzone or extreme poverty might learn to "make the best of it," but that resilience shouldn't be confused with a high quality of life.

3. The Brain Can Lie

The brain is an evolved survival machine, not a truth engine. If hijacking the reward system helps an organism persist (e.g., through delusion or false hope), evolution will favor that—even if the experience is detached from reality.

So people might feel purpose, joy, or meaning in systems that exploit them, abuse them, or are ultimately unsustainable. The brain rewards adaptation, not truth.


4. You Can Be "Happy" in a Simulation or Cage

This is the classic "wireheading" or experience machine argument: If you could plug into a simulation that makes you feel eternally happy, would that be a good life? Most people say no, because:

It's not real.

You're powerless.

You're cut off from truth, autonomy, or meaning.

Thus, happiness alone doesn't define a worthwhile or real life.

5. It Ignores Structural and Moral Factors

If we judge society or a life by happiness levels, we ignore:

Injustice

Inequality

Lack of freedom

Environmental destruction

Exploitation

A slave might feel "content" if conditioned well—but is that a good life?


It Reduces Existence to a Feeling

Life is more than just maximizing pleasant sensations. A life can be full of depth, meaning, insight, creativity, and truth—even if it comes with pain. Reducing quality of life to happiness is like judging a book only by how entertaining it is—not its truth, depth, or moral weight.
Summary

Happiness is a side-effect, not a compass.
It can't tell you if life is fair, meaningful, sustainable, or good—only if the brain happens to be in a certain state.

A better metric would consider truth, autonomy, absence of harm, access to needs, and the ability to flourish consciously—not just the presence of pleasure or chemical reward.

How can anyone truly be happy knowing that everything they are, everything they love, everything they build—will rot, fade, die, and be forgotten?
 
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Well living a happy life is also pointless since you will remember none of it
 
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What's your proposed alternate metric which can be measured?
consider truth,
Can't be measured. Vague. Subjective

autonomy,
Can't be measured. Subjective

absence of harm,
Silly to pick the absence of one variable in a complex equation as the only thing that matters. Also subjective like happiness

access to needs,
"Needs" determined subjectively. Happy people would say they have all they need and you'd need to find some new way to correct them

and the ability to flourish consciously—not just the presence of pleasure or chemical reward
Subjective. Completely immeasurable

You just want to be the decider because you don't like the determination others make, because it defeats your defeatist outlook.
 
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I'd argue differently. It is true you could have what appears on paper to be a quality life, but if it doesn't make you happy then what's the point?

Maybe you have what should make you happy, but you have a problem that needs addressing to appreciate it. Cool, your lack of happiness is a clue to lead you down that path... and if you fix that, then you'll be happy with the life you already have.

If your happiness is not a glitch, but rather an accurate representation of not having the life you need to be happy... then you either need to change your life OR conclude that you can't change your life. Again, the lack of happiness clues you in on your path.

And the same things don't make all people happy. I've never wanted wealth. Give me just enough to live on and save a little and I'm fine. I don't have expensive tastes. Many people would not be happy with that, they always want more and more. My meager life would be depressing to anyone who wanted to be rich and powerful.

What would make me happy would be to have a partner in my life, a girlfriend who understood and loved me, and I loved her. All the other problems in life that come up would be so much more manageable if it didn't always fall on me alone. I feel like the other problems are possible to work through if I have a partner. But alone? The smallest stuff piles up in a hurry.
 
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I'm sorry, but I don't think you understand what true happiness and joy are then~ :( Distracting yourself, especially with vices like drugs, alcohol, etc. or even other things like video games and entertainment certainly aren't happiness~ One needs fulfillment~
 
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This is kind of off-topic but what I don't understand is why Finland is always one of the "happiest" countries in the world yet they also have higher suicide/depression rates than their counterparts. And no I don't think "less mental health stigma" would be the reason, nor the long winters because wouldn't that affect the happiness rate as well?
 

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