Keeping this brief; don't want to post repeatedly. Unfortunately, people are misrepresenting my words; quick clarification after analyzing this thread with a friend
This is a bit like Freud mentioning the oedipal complex, and everyone claiming he's advocating everyone banging their moms. No, I'm clearly cautioning AGAINST breaking up with Mr Sunshine — who's unfailingly courteous and beloved — for some slaphappy rando. Dumping Sunshine is the LAST priority — I literally enumerated it LAST
And then I spurted a bunch of sentences about how finding an abusive guy is a "rigged game". tl;dr: exhaust possibilities BEFORE breakup/cheating
She said the words that should chill anyone in a relationship: "this has made me kind of lose the feelings I used to have for him". Dissatisfaction. The problem is at an advanced stage. All this self-esteem kumbayah — which naturally I agree with — should be supplemented with feeding the beast a little. Otherwise, neuroticism may develop
When I broke down the theory, I mentioned NON-VIOLENT aspects: simplification, working out power dynamics, enjoying your partner's gender role. And I focused on safely escalating, to find the minimal effective doses
And guess what: I'm actually the normie here! In the Lex Fridman podcast I cited, Aella cited 60% of women reported being subs; 40% of males dom. Using the world's biggest dataset. FURTHERMORE, the book I cited explained why almost everyone here is a submissive/masochist of some sort, even if unconsenting. Because dominance hierarchies permeate current societies: boss vs wageslave, teacher vs involuntary student, domineering parents vs children, etc
Most people here might as well be wearing ball-gags, bending over everyday for people telling them what to do
They do not begin to perceive how absurd this timeline is
Hopefully this is my last post, I need to do higher-prio things. Normally I'm fine with being unusual; but we're literally on a suicide forum started by incels and somehow it's galling to be called "weird" by its denizens
Maybe I'll ask the mods to delete my posts in an hour; I think... I'm recovered and wasting too much time on this forum. I don't want to reach 600 posts