Rounded Apathy
Longing to return to stardust
- Aug 8, 2022
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I'm mainly posting this about a housemate, but it is something I have noticed a pattern of in myself. I have this deep need to connect with people - share, learn from, interact, whatever - and this is my default behaviour. But when people don't reciprocate, it hurts. Even worse when they behave negatively despite my way of interacting with them. This one housemate I'm always asking about, offering random food, drinks, advice about health and diet stuff - some of these when asked for...and I basically never get anything of the like in return. Usually it's just no interaction, or being told some behaviour of mine (like briefly altering the thermostat by a single degree) isn't acceptable (according to only this one person, not a consensus).
When on a day like today it's the first thing that occurs between us it makes me feeling like fucking shit, but the pattern continues. Me continuing to be the way I described, and them the same. As much as I would hope the other party's behaviour would change I'm not delusional - why would you stop being cold or standoffish and still get the benefits from a nice person? But I'm confused and irritated with myself. Why don't I just start acting the same way? Why the fuck am I being nice to this person who isn't giving me anything back, expect for intermittent jerky attitude? Is it because I'm so fucking isolated outside, and even inside, my living space? Am I just a fucking idiot?
I fucking hate this part of myself.
When on a day like today it's the first thing that occurs between us it makes me feeling like fucking shit, but the pattern continues. Me continuing to be the way I described, and them the same. As much as I would hope the other party's behaviour would change I'm not delusional - why would you stop being cold or standoffish and still get the benefits from a nice person? But I'm confused and irritated with myself. Why don't I just start acting the same way? Why the fuck am I being nice to this person who isn't giving me anything back, expect for intermittent jerky attitude? Is it because I'm so fucking isolated outside, and even inside, my living space? Am I just a fucking idiot?
I fucking hate this part of myself.
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