Who do you write letters too, and what do you include in them?

[technicallyAlive]

I know I'm gonna commit soon and I know the bottom line is that I should write letters to my family and close friends. But what about the people im not particularly close with? Do they deserve letters too? How will they know im dead? And I'm not sure if close friends should get letters different from ones that I'll give to my family. Like people within the 'close friends' category will get one letter and people in the 'family' category will get another? And should the letters be personalized for each person? I dont like writing, I find it to be a pain. But I'm wondering if i should just power through, considering my letter(s) will be the last time anyone hears of me.
Sorry for all these questions, I tend to overthink things. And despite joining in 2023 I've never really interacted much so I still feel like a new member!

 

[SilentSadness]

It's up to you. You are not obligated to explain ctb to anyone. If you are writing a note, I would suggest to make it clear so it is not misunderstood and to not write letters out of spite. There's not much point writing letters to someone you hate. Otherwise, I'm sure you can make a lot of decisions here and they can all work. Best wishes

 

[lastch]

I wrote the general letter of why I did it and how sorry I am. I also included the poem 'when tomorrow starts without me' and a list of songs to remember me by. I love music so I hope it to be a comfort for my family that I shared some songs that comforted me during this hard time.

 

[nooppop2]

I know I'm gonna commit soon and I know the bottom line is that I should write letters to my family and close friends. But what about the people im not particularly close with? Do they deserve letters too? How will they know im dead? And I'm not sure if close friends should get letters different from ones that I'll give to my family. Like people within the 'close friends' category will get one letter and people in the 'family' category will get another? And should the letters be personalized for each person? I dont like writing, I find it to be a pain. But I'm wondering if i should just power through, considering my letter(s) will be the last time anyone hears of me.
Sorry for all these questions, I tend to overthink things. And despite joining in 2023 I've never really interacted much so I still feel like a new member!

I had a plan to print out photos of everyone that I care about and place the photo in front of my phone and record a video for them individually (as if I was speaking to them) but i think that would be so much effort and so much more heartbreaking for those that have to watch it. A part of me wants to also leave a note for people that made life miserable but i don't know if i should put that energy into my last moments. So im in the same bucket as you, so much overthinking

 

[DontTouchMeImFamous]

I'm not gonna write any letters. Holy crap, the idea scares the shit out of me. I would never do it. I personally think that they would think that my death was natural or accidental especially since that I haven't shown suicidal motives, and that would be better for them anyways.

A part of me wants to also leave a note for people that made life miserable

There's not much point writing letters to someone you hate

I remember reading advice on the Lost All Hope forum that I think is very useful and would like to share it. It said that you should make sure that you are committing suicide because you actually want to die, and that your desire to commit suicide does not stem from a desire to avenge someone or to make them feel guilty. This is because that would mean that you don't actually want to die, but rather you want to hurt those people who hurt you through your death. I think that omitting mentioning them in your note is one way to make sure that you actually want to die.