Discussion When I think about what I'm supposed to look forward to in life

[dödsängel]

What exactly am I supposed to look forward to or enjoy? My life is so mundane and I don't even know what I'm supposed to be doing that I will enjoy

When I ask people what they enjoy or look forward to in life, or for things to do, I hear one of these:

>friendship/a relationship
I honestly just don't like most people and most don't like me. I find them boring and have different interests, and I guess they think I'm weird too. I've genuinely tried to talk to people but I don't enjoy any of the interactions.

>going out
and doing what? I don't know what exactly it is I'm supposed to in a city. I like buying stuff for my hobbies and eating good restaurant food, but that's it really. I don't care about going to bars or clubs or anything. Music is probably my biggest interest but I don't even really care to go to a concert for something I like, I'd rather stay at home and listen to it on my own

>a family, stable life
Just sounds like the worst of it all. Forced to live in some boring suburb house with no freedom and a ton of annoying responsibilities. I don't really like living with other people either.

>some sort of organization
Again I don't like dealing with most people and I just lack interest in most of these organizations. Whatever it's centered around, I'd rather just do that on my own.

>Some new form of media
This is the one I get the least. I don't really thing it's worth slogging through life just to see another movie. Most of the media I really enjoy are already finished anyway. And I'd honestly be even more depressed if such a minor thing was what kept me going

>Some kind of achievement
I guess this is something I understand the most but not really in most cases. Just going to work and climbing up the ladder doesn't really feel like an achievement to me, it's a pretty stable and stagnant life. I'm naturally a competitive guy, but it's far too late for me to start and be competitive at most things. Besides, I know what my talents are and aren't. So far, I've had decent achievements, and never really felt anything when I accomplished them. For me to feel satisfied, it'd need to be something monumental, or for me to create something truly great. And this is something I can strive for, but it doesn't change how I feel now, and I know realistically this not only has a lot to do with luck, but also being top 0.1% in talent.

Aren't a lot of these things what most people enjoy and claim makes their life meaningful/fun? It doesn't really mean anything to me
The only things that still really give me joy (that I can actually do) is leisurely living and hobbies, but this can get boring fast. Even with anime for example now, what used to be a big hobby of mine, I can tell I'm slowly running out of good ones. This is true for varying genres of games too.

If I think about what I can look forward to, there are only really a couple possibilities. The first one is just some sort of unrealistic dream. I guess I have to accept that won't happen. The second is more realistic, but will require years of work. Which is fine, but it just makes me question what the point of it is. I already hate my life now, do I really want to go through years and years of work just for temporary pleasure, and then go back to the life that I hate?

But what I came around to after thinking is that the only life I can really see myself enjoying (or at least one that wouldn't require 10+ years of work beforehand) would be to just save up a decent amount of money, and travel around certain locations (like the contiguous US, or Europe, or places in Asia). To enjoy myself seeing the different sights, eat the local foods, have some sort of project to work on while traveling, maybe take up temporary jobs while doing it, and so on. To me, that sounds like the ideal.

What do you think?

 

[Rocinante]

It looks like traveling is all you have to look forward to. Staying in the same place doing the same shit becomes monotonous. Enjoyment from all my good copes has lessened significantly. Even something passive, like putting on & listening to music, seems like a chore.
Being born into a good life is a privilege not many get gifted. I live in a shit city, with low life criminals and hicks, so interacting with people irl doesn't exist. Plus a majority of people in my city are old and decrepit. Most young people move out of this hell hole.
Not that it matters since most people hate me. It is what it is.
I don't even care for most things in this life, I just want to accomplish something that transcends my time here on earth.

I gave up on my goal of being a guitar mogger


Edit: nvm that video inspired me to play guitar again

 

[Zegers]

and doing what? I don't know what exactly it is I'm supposed to in a city. I like buying stuff for my hobbies and eating good restaurant food, but that's it really

That's what i think every time someone tells me how lucky to live in a big city where there are so many things to do.. yeah, i guess there are things to do if you have a family, friends or something going for you.

If i were healthy i would also be interested in travelling and maybe moving to another place, but with a disability and barely wanting to get up, it's not a feasible possibility so all i want is leave the earth at the earliest.

 

[Twoped538]

Motivation is one of the biggest problems for young people at this moment in time. Unfortunately I can't answer the questions you have about the best way (for you) to conduct your life. Try reading some of the many books written about this subject.

Starting a family usually makes life interesting and worthwhile, and you may really create something truely great (or even a couple of them). I know this seems to be an outdated concept, but for me and countless other persons, it worked well. Ask old people about what made their life interesting and often happy .... the answer is usually: my children.

By the way, my response seems to be terribly pro-life and anti-suicide, but I am both pro-life as well as supportive of the idea that society should not block a decent way out if the time has come to end one's life.

 

[Pengu]

What exactly am I supposed to look forward to or enjoy? My life is so mundane and I don't even know what I'm supposed to be doing that I will enjoy

When I ask people what they enjoy or look forward to in life, or for things to do, I hear one of these:

>friendship/a relationship
I honestly just don't like most people and most don't like me. I find them boring and have different interests, and I guess they think I'm weird too. I've genuinely tried to talk to people but I don't enjoy any of the interactions.

>going out
and doing what? I don't know what exactly it is I'm supposed to in a city. I like buying stuff for my hobbies and eating good restaurant food, but that's it really. I don't care about going to bars or clubs or anything. Music is probably my biggest interest but I don't even really care to go to a concert for something I like, I'd rather stay at home and listen to it on my own

>a family, stable life
Just sounds like the worst of it all. Forced to live in some boring suburb house with no freedom and a ton of annoying responsibilities. I don't really like living with other people either.

>some sort of organization
Again I don't like dealing with most people and I just lack interest in most of these organizations. Whatever it's centered around, I'd rather just do that on my own.

>Some new form of media
This is the one I get the least. I don't really thing it's worth slogging through life just to see another movie. Most of the media I really enjoy are already finished anyway. And I'd honestly be even more depressed if such a minor thing was what kept me going

>Some kind of achievement
I guess this is something I understand the most but not really in most cases. Just going to work and climbing up the ladder doesn't really feel like an achievement to me, it's a pretty stable and stagnant life. I'm naturally a competitive guy, but it's far too late for me to start and be competitive at most things. Besides, I know what my talents are and aren't. So far, I've had decent achievements, and never really felt anything when I accomplished them. For me to feel satisfied, it'd need to be something monumental, or for me to create something truly great. And this is something I can strive for, but it doesn't change how I feel now, and I know realistically this not only has a lot to do with luck, but also being top 0.1% in talent.

Aren't a lot of these things what most people enjoy and claim makes their life meaningful/fun? It doesn't really mean anything to me
The only things that still really give me joy (that I can actually do) is leisurely living and hobbies, but this can get boring fast. Even with anime for example now, what used to be a big hobby of mine, I can tell I'm slowly running out of good ones. This is true for varying genres of games too.

If I think about what I can look forward to, there are only really a couple possibilities. The first one is just some sort of unrealistic dream. I guess I have to accept that won't happen. The second is more realistic, but will require years of work. Which is fine, but it just makes me question what the point of it is. I already hate my life now, do I really want to go through years and years of work just for temporary pleasure, and then go back to the life that I hate?

But what I came around to after thinking is that the only life I can really see myself enjoying (or at least one that wouldn't require 10+ years of work beforehand) would be to just save up a decent amount of money, and travel around certain locations (like the contiguous US, or Europe, or places in Asia). To enjoy myself seeing the different sights, eat the local foods, have some sort of project to work on while traveling, maybe take up temporary jobs while doing it, and so on. To me, that sounds like the ideal.

What do you think?

 

[Librarian]

I can relate to a lot of points you made, my life is painfully boring, all i do all day is browse internet forums, image boards, discord, trying to fill in time because there's nothing i like doing.
I don't watch movies, i play video games but i don't like it, i listen to music but that's not reason enough to live, my life is painfully boring and unenjoyable.
I used to go to college but it was even worse, why would i wanna wake up everyday at 6 am to study some bullshit i don't care about so i can wageslave for the rest of my life?
It seems you somewhat look forward to some things but personally there is nothing i look forward to but the cessation of my existence.
The only thing i really like is getting drunk or doing drugs because it makes time pass faster.

 

[Untimely]

What exactly am I supposed to look forward to or enjoy? My life is so mundane and I don't even know what I'm supposed to be doing that I will enjoy

When I ask people what they enjoy or look forward to in life, or for things to do, I hear one of these:

>friendship/a relationship
I honestly just don't like most people and most don't like me. I find them boring and have different interests, and I guess they think I'm weird too. I've genuinely tried to talk to people but I don't enjoy any of the interactions.

>going out
and doing what? I don't know what exactly it is I'm supposed to in a city. I like buying stuff for my hobbies and eating good restaurant food, but that's it really. I don't care about going to bars or clubs or anything. Music is probably my biggest interest but I don't even really care to go to a concert for something I like, I'd rather stay at home and listen to it on my own

>a family, stable life
Just sounds like the worst of it all. Forced to live in some boring suburb house with no freedom and a ton of annoying responsibilities. I don't really like living with other people either.

>some sort of organization
Again I don't like dealing with most people and I just lack interest in most of these organizations. Whatever it's centered around, I'd rather just do that on my own.

>Some new form of media
This is the one I get the least. I don't really thing it's worth slogging through life just to see another movie. Most of the media I really enjoy are already finished anyway. And I'd honestly be even more depressed if such a minor thing was what kept me going

>Some kind of achievement
I guess this is something I understand the most but not really in most cases. Just going to work and climbing up the ladder doesn't really feel like an achievement to me, it's a pretty stable and stagnant life. I'm naturally a competitive guy, but it's far too late for me to start and be competitive at most things. Besides, I know what my talents are and aren't. So far, I've had decent achievements, and never really felt anything when I accomplished them. For me to feel satisfied, it'd need to be something monumental, or for me to create something truly great. And this is something I can strive for, but it doesn't change how I feel now, and I know realistically this not only has a lot to do with luck, but also being top 0.1% in talent.

Aren't a lot of these things what most people enjoy and claim makes their life meaningful/fun? It doesn't really mean anything to me
The only things that still really give me joy (that I can actually do) is leisurely living and hobbies, but this can get boring fast. Even with anime for example now, what used to be a big hobby of mine, I can tell I'm slowly running out of good ones. This is true for varying genres of games too.

If I think about what I can look forward to, there are only really a couple possibilities. The first one is just some sort of unrealistic dream. I guess I have to accept that won't happen. The second is more realistic, but will require years of work. Which is fine, but it just makes me question what the point of it is. I already hate my life now, do I really want to go through years and years of work just for temporary pleasure, and then go back to the life that I hate?

But what I came around to after thinking is that the only life I can really see myself enjoying (or at least one that wouldn't require 10+ years of work beforehand) would be to just save up a decent amount of money, and travel around certain locations (like the contiguous US, or Europe, or places in Asia). To enjoy myself seeing the different sights, eat the local foods, have some sort of project to work on while traveling, maybe take up temporary jobs while doing it, and so on. To me, that sounds like the ideal.

What do you think?

dude, this is exactly how i feel lol. you basically put it word for word. personally i don't see like "climbing the corporate ladder" as a legitimate achievement. I would want to do something that would hopefully make people's lives better.

and family is definitely an important one, but i feel like it will lead to more sadness than anything (divorce, breaking up) and then having kids is a whole new can of worms as they will have to deal with the same depressive shit i deal with and a horrible life lmao.

anyways if you want to talk more about this definitely feel free to pm me lol

 

[oneeyed]

People have been asking this since intelligent thought came about in early humans. Some people give meaning in having a family, preforming arts, creating a business, etc. The point is, it's different for everyone. On the other hand, some people don't see a point to any of it, there's no meaning to life, it just exists. That is what makes this question so difficult, only you can answer it for yourself and sometimes there's no answer and that drives people like us crazy. Hopefully you find what suits you but unfortunately that's all anyone here can do to help.

 

[FuneralCry]

There isn't anything to look forward to apart from more suffering, decay and loss which is all that is inevitable in existing. Life leads to nothing and nowhere other than deteriorating and being tortured by old age. To me the whole idea of people seeing existence as being something appealing is completely absurd, as this world is such a harmful place with potential for extreme torment to be experienced, life certainly is something so tedious, futile and unappealing to me, even without extreme suffering all that would be left is emptiness and dissatisfaction.
If life truly was such a great thing then humans wouldn't be desperately searching for some kind of meaning to delude themselves of the fact that life is truly futile and is just an unfortunate consequence of evolution. I think the whole concept of life is especially not suited for those capable of conscious thought as humans often yearn for there to be more, they are unable to accept the fact that their existence is completely worthless.

But seriously procreation truly is such a selfish and cruel thing, humans should be aware enough to recognise that it's compassionate to leave the nonexistent alone in peace, creating life is just creating unnecessary suffering and pain, this species should go voluntarily extinct. To burden people with existence could never be beneficial in this world filled with endless risks and harm.

 

[sserafim]

You're supposed to look forward to the sweet release of death

 

[iloverachel]

I don't have anything to look forward to
I wake up, eat, browse these forums and talk about how shit life is then i go to sleep

IF I do leave the house,im just reminded im a worthless outcast who doesn't belong and that makes me hate society more