What's your worst social habit?

[GhostInTheMachine]

More specifically, what's something that you do regarding socialization that hinders your ability to be social? For me, I tend to very quickly lose tolerance with people and easily start to only see the worst in them. It makes it so that I very quickly stop hanging out with new people because I don't find much about them to keep me spending any more time trying to get to know them further. I still have plenty of friends, but even among them I have to remind myself to not cut them off hastily.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I hope it's more concealed for me but, working around others obliterates my confidence. If I make a mistake, it's even more horrendous. I'll spend the next few hours telling myself how shit I am, remembering all the other times I screwed up, remembering probably every insult I've ever received which inevitably- leads to more mistakes and more remarks- if I'm unlucky. That's certainly the worst for me.

I struggle generally though. Meetings- bad, food- worse, parties- horrendous. I'll pretty much always do something embarassing. Get a pen stuck in my hair, mistakingly drink someone else's drink, just sit there like a deer in headlights. I struggle especially eating around others. In part because I'm embarassed about my weight. But yeah- all bad.

Sometimes, I'll also come across as rude or strange I'm sure because I seemingly can't bring myself to talk to someone. Point out a mistake or, whatever.

I really should have done more to tackle my social anxiety... I dread to think what I'd be like now- seeing as I've lived and worked alone for so long. It's too cringey.

 

[Ferdinand Bardamu]

Doing dumb shit to get a laugh, and distrusting everyone, out ofthe fear that they have ulterior motives.

 

[Ashu]

Not looking people in the eye when I talk to them, I'm told, but I know I look at them when I'm listening.

 

[darksouls]

I have gotten along well with animals my whole life
but not with people
I think I am more like a dog

 

[limpimitation]

Being too scared to speak up when I have something to say

 

[Pluto]

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

My problem is bluntly and directly stating the obvious truth that everyone else is too polite to say or too frustratingly stupid to see what's right in front of their face. I get exasperated and verbally kick peoples' doors in. Analytically and factually I'm almost always right about the point I'm making. But they way I do it leaves everyone hating me, which makes me useless. Wrap that problem up in the fact that I'm tired of all this shit called life, and I just don't care. When I was young I used to feel so bad about not having social skills.

 

[psp3000]

For me, I tend to very quickly lose tolerance with people and easily start to only see the worst in them.

This.

-distrusting everyone
-thinking everyone has some kind of ulterior motive
-bad at making eye contact
-hearing difficulties
-forgetting to breathe when talk either due to nervousness or excitement, stuttering too
-accidentally talking over people when excited and because I don't talk much on a daily basis
-being an extremely private person

 

[The Actual Devil]

I've been told that I usually come off as being very flirty when I'm in a good mood, giving the wrong signals to women, enbys, and gay men alike. It has gotten me into a lot of trouble, especially when I'm in a relationship.
But when I'm not in a relationship, well... it's fun getting into trouble!
Sorry, I had to.

 

[LostLily]

Being extremely shy and I tend to overthink things. If I mess up, it will haunt me and I will ruminate over it for a while . Constantly comparing myself to other people, which fuels my depression

 

[FoxSauce]

Well nervous as in start to tremble, talk to much to point I jump to other topics. Laugh when im uncomfortable, pulling my hair when im talking to someone. Not standing up for myself and Im weird so..

Overthing everything, thinking everything I day can be used against me. I'll totally freak out inside if i made you wierded out or uncomfortable.

 

[bleeding_heart_show]

My worst social habit is socializing at all.

 

[Rust]

I am a serial ghoster. I don't intend to do it maliciously. I just get a bit overwhelmed and simply shut down. My social battery is like one button press on a TV remote and then it's hibernation time.

A lot of people think I hate them, and they therefore start to hold a grudge against me. And unfortunately I can't just go and say "sorry, I was mentally overwhelmed and needed two months to recuperate", because that'll somehow come across as even more disingenuous. I did recently respond to two people though, so hey, that's progress.

 

[Emerita]

I often am extremely inhibited in social situations. From what I have been told, my behavior tends to be too withdrawn and distant. I find myself going nonverbal and retreating into my own little world instead of engaging with others. Overall, I would describe my issue as avoidance.

 

[liea]

Very quickly losing losing focus in in-person verbal conversation. It ends up making conversations difficult to keep up with and it exhausts me having to try to process every sentence. If it's trying to conversate with a group it gives me massive anxiety and I end up not talking to anyone. I always end up really tired too.

 

[LaetumCat]

Lying for no apparent reason. Well, sometimes. But I lie to everyone. Either because knowing the truth could worry them or could make them uncomfortable, or because the truth isnt "Interesting" enough. When i was in elementary I lied to fit in and I guess I never got rid of that..

 

[Griever]

With every teeny-tiny thing, if I think I've said or done something wrong, then I want to kill myself on the spot

 

[bankai]

I prefer being alone.So I always end up making social decisions that keep me alone. I don't message anyone who reaches out to me. I'm always polite, but I just don't Make any more effort than that.

 

[anonymouswebuser]

the timing is crazy
but it's frequent and sudden isolation that i just faced the consequences of 2 minutes ago. i do it whenever i feel just slightly unwanted or that i'm not good enough to be amongst those people and now not only is it hurting me, it's hurting others

 

[littlepup159]

Getting crashout and everyone has to take care of me even i don t want that help.

 

[wham311]

I'm needy and mean