Sanctuary
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- Nov 30, 2022
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THIS.Never been able to really connect with people. Just been wired for shame and fear all a long.
THIS.Never been able to really connect with people. Just been wired for shame and fear all a long.
Sorry you feel your dad was so evil. He did give you some of his strength, perhaps he did it badly. I still have to feel a bit envious, that you had the type of dad that eally was a badass. I like to think that most badass dad's are not really evil, but aggressive and will tolerate no crap from their boys. Would love to hear what he did that was so evil.
Having no father figure or a support network especially from close family is a big red flag, especially in a society as a crazy, hateful, jealous, delusional, greedy, angry, with their questionable morals believes and values. I' ve been there. I relate to those circumstances alot.dad, although present and not a bad man, showed no interest in spending quality time with me and my brother. That lack of a father figure is profoundly damaging. I suppose I could call my uncle and grandfather a father figure, but it's just different.
Being bullied and honestly not able to remember a day of school I enjoyed. I hated my school and they
To me you are right, a man and in my case, a hard man would have done me a world of good.Culmination of things that started as a child.
I was slow to start reading but eventually caught up and soon became one of the "smart kids" but reserved and always anxious.
I lived (and still do) a sheltered life so never hung out with school "friends" and that probably didn't help with social anxiety.
My dad, although present and not a bad man, showed no interest in spending quality time with me and my brother. That lack of a father figure is profoundly damaging. I suppose I could call my uncle and grandfather a father figure, but it's just different.
Being bullied and honestly not able to remember a day of school I enjoyed. I hated my school and they people so much I refused to get my photo taken and never went to the dinner/dance shit. I was dragged to go to the ceremony. This was by design, without my photo, the year book would be blank under my name and thus be forgotten by those assholes. My first suicide thought was due to the bullying.
Not succeeding in goals. Original plan was to have a masters in engineering. While intellectually I am capable, psychologically, I'm a mess and am so hard on myself that I panic and get embarrassed or ashamed for every little thing.
Im short and skinny. While I have had relationships and even hookups, I know I'm not sought after. It's still very much a world where the tall, fit, beautiful get the most advantages in life.
With all this in mind, I often feel useless and not a "real man". Unable to control emotions properly and getting upset (crying and paniking) over the smallest things is emasculating and demoralizing.
Sorry, didn't mean to write a novel or hijack the thread, just think that with people such as us, it's not just one thing.
I love you. I miss you.Existentially I just don't feel like I should be here anymore.
I don't feel like I belong in a world that I cannot enjoy. There has been no net-gain from me being alive, and at some point you naturally weigh the odds of that changing or getting better. If it continues to get worse or stay the same, then the natural reaction (for me atleast) is to want to end it to prevent future suffering.
I can find little ways to make it better, corner myself off into a bubble and give myself distractions to cope. But in the back of my mind, I just can't appreciate a society so cruel and devoid of meaning. I want more, this all just seems so futile, fragile, and toxic. And over the years I've watched it get worse.
I wish I could just accept it for what it was and grasp on to my own meaning like normal people; whether that be for love, for faith, or whatever. But even if I could medically induce myself to that sort of mindset, I don't know if that is even a life worth living.
I'm so sorry you are going through that. It sounds awful and not getting support from your family too is so messed upI am 24 but I've created problems for myself that I can't ever solve due to being in psychosis for 6 months from a bad reaction to adderall. no one will ever look at me the same, but tbh my family is basically nonexistent and didn't seem to care enough to help me to do anything when I was having paranoid delusions, and they quickly treated me like a homeless person they might catch a glimpse of in passing. I don't like playing into the victim mindset, and I understand that we're all just running our own programs and i shouldn't take personally but God damn I can't seem to be able to ignore the pain. I landed back in this dimension about 4 months ago and the best way to describe it is that i woke up to the reality that my life is a nightmare now.
it hurts so much that I almost wish that I stayed crazy, and the weight of this knowledge finds it's way to my dreams, and takes over my thoughts 24/7, I'm constantly living in unbearable pain and feel like I'm being traumatized over and over again. This is what has brought me here and what will carry me past the point of no return, into nirvana...
So tell me, What brings you here?