What's the worst thing people do or say to you when you are in depression ans having suicidal thoughts?

[mirzani]

What's the worst thing people do or say to you when you are in depression and having suicidal thoughts? And who said it?

 

[Laklusta]

I don't want to say who it is because it was a relative, but they told me to "go to the nearest train and jump in then" and it remained stuck to me ever since. I wonder how much pain and time the method requires though, especially if I miss my head.

 

[Obliviate]

My own abusive mother selfishly said to me that I should live for her and that I should learn how to drive to give them rides....basically I should continue living to be a servant for them. Alot of parents have children as an investment to serve them. My own grandmother said that my body figure is so nice why would I want to kill myself......my brother smacked his teeth and said to me "man whatever" in an annoyed voice. Everyone totally disregarded my feelings/sufferings/suicidal thoughts/basically being a human. Multiple people in my family/my abusers dismissed my trauma and abuse saying that I am over reacting exaggerating. I told my mom she should have aborted me and she said if I knew back then I would have. She also said if I get raped, then I get raped that too by my brother. She has never raised him right and won't discipline him saying all this knowing I am suicidal. My family also have said I have done absolutely nothing at all for them/helped them when actually whenever something happens they run to me for help.
*sigh* I am tired of being perceived as worthless, I'm tired of living, I'm tired of breathing. I'm tir-

 

[mirzani]

I don't want to say who it is because it was a relative, but they told me to "go to the nearest train and jump in then" and it remained stuck to me ever since. I wonder how much pain and time the method requires though, especially if I miss my head.

So sorry to hear that. People really just become more and more selfish. They don't even try to step in other people's shoes. Humanity is at loss

My own abusive mother selfishly said to me that I should live for her and that I should learn how to drive to give them rides....basically I should continue living to be a servant for them. Alot of parents have children as an investment to serve them. My own grandmother said that my body figure is so nice why would I want to kill myself......my brother smacked his teeth and said to me "man whatever" in an annoyed voice. Everyone totally disregarded my feelings/sufferings/suicidal thoughts/basically being a human. Multiple people in my family/my abusers dismissed my trauma and abuse saying that I am over reacting exaggerating. I told my mom she should have aborted me and she said if I knew back then I would have. She also said if I get raped, then I get raped that too by my brother. She has never raised him right and won't discipline him saying all this knowing I am suicidal. My family also have said I have done absolutely nothing at all for them/helped them when actually whenever something happens they run to me for help.
*sigh* I am tired of being perceived as worthless, I'm tired of living, I'm tired of breathing. I'm tir-

That's so sick. They mock you yet they're running to you for help. Don't forget U need to think and prioritize yourself as well. Wish the situation improves.

 

[Laklusta]

So sorry to hear that. People really just become more and more selfish. They don't even try to step in other people's shoes. Humanity is at loss

What irks me is how they told me CTB would be very selfish of me. What's selfish to me is forcing others to keep living + dismissing their experiences in life and why they don't want to live anymore. I've met too many people who say "at least [insert severely traumatic experience] didn't happen to you" or "be happy because others have it worse". It's like people have a qualification process to when it would be valid (and selfless) for you to CTB.

 

[aticeret]

My mother seems to know I'm suicidal, so she has threatened me with psych ward incarceration and also told me "I should go and do it." Assistance, please?

 

[bloodblacknothing]

when i was thirteen, my family sat me down in our living room to talk about my depression. my mother and father thought it would be a great idea to bring my biggest abuser into the room, after which they proceeded to tell me that i hated them, and that i "enjoyed being pitied". i can't honestly say what followed that, since the trauma of it has pretty much erased everything but that moment from my memory.

like, yes, i totally enjoyed having my self-esteem eviscerated beyond repair, all from the ripe old age of thirteen! i love being so afraid of human contact that it is nearly impossible for me to not shake violently when talking to strangers! i absolutely cannot thank them enough for beating every single aspiration out of me and leaving me an adrift, hopeless disaster - bonus points to them for making physically-intimate romance impossible for me, as well.

so much enjoyment derived from my suffering.

 

[thovens]

My abusive parents while having a fight. Some years ago they told me that I'm a piece of trash and that everybody else is better than me. One day my father said that I should ctb because this would make them feel better. I know that I'm a weight on their shoulders for them and society. I want to thank them for making me feel like a rotten piece of meat all these years..

 

[Wyldfyre4948]

I've been hearing "hang in there" and "it will get better" a whole lot lately. When I'm told "hang in there" I will occasionally say something smart about hanging myself. I've been very open about my attempts, so it's not a secret but good for a cheap laugh.

 

[enough of this]

They say, "think of all the people who have it worse than you." It's such a discounting thing to say.

 

[Baron]

Everytime someone talks to me about my future plans. It's just so annoying, I can't tell them that I don't care about the future, because there will be no future me working somewhere in a couple of years. Especially my mother is bombarding me with these questions, it's getting unbearable.

 

[AllFoxedOut]

In the psych ward I've had nurses tell me "it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem". that induced an eye roll.

also "oh but you're just a baby" (I'm in my mid twenties).

 

[mirzani]

What irks me is how they told me CTB would be very selfish of me. What's selfish to me is forcing others to keep living + dismissing their experiences in life and why they don't want to live anymore. I've met too many people who say "at least [insert severely traumatic experience] didn't happen to you" or "be happy because others have it worse". It's like people have a qualification process to when it would be valid (and selfless) for you to CTB.

Agree.. it's so sick to force someone to live while the person themselves have a really unbearable life. Those person who force us to live they have no idea how does it feel. And of course they wont even available 24/7 after saying so. They'll just leave us to deal with it and snap out of it. That's the definition of selfish not those who ctb.

My mother seems to know I'm suicidal, so she has threatened me with psych ward incarceration and also told me "I should go and do it." Assistance, please?

Idk what to say. I've watched one of the documentary from bbc i think, that the condition in psych ward is really bad as they don't even see you as human again. They'll just shame you on what you did or felt. But, i don't think that's how all the Psych wards are. If you really want some help, you can seriously find information on the facility around you and make decisions accordingly. And anyway, it's messed up for your mom to threaten you. She should talk nicer.

when i was thirteen, my family sat me down in our living room to talk about my depression. my mother and father thought it would be a great idea to bring my biggest abuser into the room, after which they proceeded to tell me that i hated them, and that i "enjoyed being pitied". i can't honestly say what followed that, since the trauma of it has pretty much erased everything but that moment from my memory.

like, yes, i totally enjoyed having my self-esteem eviscerated beyond repair, all from the ripe old age of thirteen! i love being so afraid of human contact that it is nearly impossible for me to not shake violently when talking to strangers! i absolutely cannot thank them enough for beating every single aspiration out of me and leaving me an adrift, hopeless disaster - bonus points to them for making physically-intimate romance impossible for me, as well.

so much enjoyment derived from my suffering.

Oh my, what kind of world do we have here right now? Makes you wonder if this world still worth a fight, eh?

when i was thirteen, my family sat me down in our living room to talk about my depression. my mother and father thought it would be a great idea to bring my biggest abuser into the room, after which they proceeded to tell me that i hated them, and that i "enjoyed being pitied". i can't honestly say what followed that, since the trauma of it has pretty much erased everything but that moment from my memory.

like, yes, i totally enjoyed having my self-esteem eviscerated beyond repair, all from the ripe old age of thirteen! i love being so afraid of human contact that it is nearly impossible for me to not shake violently when talking to strangers! i absolutely cannot thank them enough for beating every single aspiration out of me and leaving me an adrift, hopeless disaster - bonus points to them for making physically-intimate romance impossible for me, as well.

so much enjoyment derived from my suffering.

Oh my, what kind of world do we have here right now? Makes you wonder if this world still worth a fight, eh?

 

[busybee]

I was hospitalised as a teen and a few years later my father made jokes along the line of "you aren't gonna kill yourself over this are you?"
Made me feel like my feelings weren't taken seriously at all.

 

[WantsToJumpAlready]

I told my mom I wanted to kill myself after a lifetime of forcing me to have a relationship with my brother who molested me (she knew and did nothing about it) and was emotionally abusive towards me my entire upbringing. She very nonchalantly said "If you're gonna kill yourself, just go and do it already because I can't stop you."

 

[girlsboysthems]

my boss said to take more walks. will do, but i will walk my ass off a cliff lol

 

[sppplmgwiwlkiwbtft]

My father likes to tell me "go and do it, but don't run back to me crying that it didn't work"
Also it's not that bad, but every time I say anything suicidal, my mom starts bawling and says "you know in three days after you do it, my grave will be next to yours". I wish my ctb wouldn't affect people I love

 

[Lostandlooking]

When I was explicitly talking about suicide with my GP while I was in a crisis he told me that my reasons for suicide weren't good enough.

I will never contact any GP ever again when it comes to my mental health. And never in a crisis situation.

 

[(¥)]

"it is your fault i can not help you"
...

 

[marshmallowfluff]

All the 'you would stay alive for me', 'it's a permanent fix to a temporary problem' etc. or 'you are being negative. I read a great book on how to be more positive'. No Sandra, this is depression.

 

[mirzani]

My father likes to tell me "go and do it, but don't run back to me crying that it didn't work"
Also it's not that bad, but every time I say anything suicidal, my mom starts bawling and says "you know in three days after you do it, my grave will be next to yours". I wish my ctb wouldn't affect people I love

In a way, maybe in sick way, that's kinda comforting. Your mom really loves you.

When I was explicitly talking about suicide with my GP while I was in a crisis he told me that my reasons for suicide weren't good enough.

I will never contact any GP ever again when it comes to my mental health. And never in a crisis situation.

So annoying when people who supposedly be the help the just become another one who give the problems.

When I was explicitly talking about suicide with my GP while I was in a crisis he told me that my reasons for suicide weren't good enough.

I will never contact any GP ever again when it comes to my mental health. And never in a crisis situation.

So annoying when people who supposedly be the help the just become another one who give the problems.

"it is your fault i can not help you"
...

I really want to have a big loud laugh in front of this person

 

[alonely]

I hate "have to"s. You have to have hope. You have to keep living. You have to try. You have to push through the pain. You have to take one step at a time.

No i dont. Fuck off.

Then you ask "ok, why do i have to do that?" and they either have no answer or some "because life is beautiful and you matter" bullshit

 

[numbnesshuman]

They always say "Why you have this thought? Don't you know you are so lucky compared with others?"

 

[mirzani]

I hate "have to"s. You have to have hope. You have to keep living. You have to try. You have to push through the pain. You have to take one step at a time.

No i dont. Fuck off.

Then you ask "ok, why do i have to do that?" and they either have no answer or some "because life is beautiful and you matter" bullshit

True.. their positive reinforcement doesn't do anything and just make things worse. If they can't help The least thing they can do is to listen or just be there. Why is that so hard to understand

 

[Obliviate]

That's so sick. They mock you yet they're running to you for help. Don't forget U need to think and prioritize yourself as well. Wish the situation improves.

Oh and also she threatened to send me to a psych ward to lock me away, call the cops, recorded me etc etc saying I'm mentally Ill but doesn't see that she's the psycho. And thank you for your words but people like that won't ever change. It's a miracle I've made it this far

 

[StolenLife]

"You've decided to be sad." - my mother

 

[Praestat_Mori]

In general it all kind of toxic positivity that's not helping in any case and not solving the actual problem causing my depression & CTB thoughts and plan.

 

[Pidgeons_Sparrows]

I don't want to say who it is because it was a relative, but they told me to "go to the nearest train and jump in then" and it remained stuck to me ever since. I wonder how much pain and time the method requires though, especially if I miss my head.

wtf
literally wtf

 

[S like suicide]

:( i feel everybody of you sadly :(

"You've been going on like this for 10 years now, you better die." -my mother-

"cursed was the day you were born" -my mother-

"Go and do it, who cares" -My brother-
These are just a few of them.

 

[Coldpizza22]

"You're trolling" or "stop complaining, you're spoiled". I asked for advice on some forum for parents