What's the best way to ruin someone's life?

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I feel like that's the question I'm asking when I think about my significant other. I want to ask "what's the best way to leave them without hurting them?" But I know, no matter what, I'm going to rip a giant hole in their heart, and I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm incompatible with life itself, in every way. I'm weak. I'm pathetic. I'm overemotional. I can't hold a job which I need to be able to survive. I can't communicate with people. It's like my brain works in slow motion when I'm speaking. If people communicated in half-speed, maybe I'd have a chance. I'm not a human being; I'm a robot with the ability to feel, so a failure of a robot and a failure of a human.

What's the best way to ruin someone's life? Should I stay with my partner until the day I ctb and give them every last moment with me? Should I break up with them and then ctb after? Give them a chance of not knowing and moving on? What way would they prefer to have their life ruined? We've been together since the lower grades of high school, for around ten years. What high school couple stays together afterwards and for so long? It was my luck and their unluckiness, I guess. If I could go back in time, I would never get with them, so they wouldn't have to deal with me being gone. It got to the point where I didn't want them to suffer either so I asked if we should ctb together. I'm so stupid to believe that I had a chance of living, and now that I know I don't, I'm stuck. I wish my attempts from before I met them succeeded. I never wanted to hurt them.

But, I guess what I'm asking is, would breaking up with my partner hurt them less in the end than still being in a relationship with me when I ctb?

 

[color_me_gone]

Whether you break-up with your SO or not, it will be equally devastating for them. Sorry.
Wishing you all the best, what ever you decide. ❤❤

 

[leeloosnow]

my first thought when i read the title of 'what's the best way to ruin someone's life' was ... well, easy, just be me. >.< but seriously tho, it sounds like you have been with your partner for a long time and maybe they see something in you that you can't see. I hope y'all can keep talking about it and be honest and open with each other, that's always the best policy (with someone you love and trust) even if the situation is really hard and outcome maybe not good.

 

[downndone2]

I ruined my life and my exes through terrible decisions several yrs ago and it is why I still want to ctb to this day.
I'm sorry you're going thru this and hope everything works out

 

[FuneralCry]

I believe that breaking up with them would hurt them less as even know they would suffer either way, if the relationship ended they would likely eventually forget and move on.

 

[color_me_gone]

I hope y'all can keep talking about it and be honest and open with each other, that's always the best policy (with someone you love and trust) even if the situation is really hard and outcome maybe not good.

100% agree with this.
It is probably the best way to reduce the amount of devastation to your SO.
Love is not selfish.
If they realize that you are doing what you have to do,
and they are not the cause,
then they will find peace in knowing they let you go.

 

[lionetta12]

I feel like that's the question I'm asking when I think about my significant other. I want to ask "what's the best way to leave them without hurting them?" But I know, no matter what, I'm going to rip a giant hole in their heart, and I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm incompatible with life itself, in every way. I'm weak. I'm pathetic. I'm overemotional. I can't hold a job which I need to be able to survive. I can't communicate with people. It's like my brain works in slow motion when I'm speaking. If people communicated in half-speed, maybe I'd have a chance. I'm not a human being; I'm a robot with the ability to feel, so a failure of a robot and a failure of a human.

What's the best way to ruin someone's life? Should I stay with my partner until the day I ctb and give them every last moment with me? Should I break up with them and then ctb after? Give them a chance of not knowing and moving on? What way would they prefer to have their life ruined? We've been together since the lower grades of high school, for around ten years. What high school couple stays together afterwards and for so long? It was my luck and their unluckiness, I guess. If I could go back in time, I would never get with them, so they wouldn't have to deal with me being gone. It got to the point where I didn't want them to suffer either so I asked if we should ctb together. I'm so stupid to believe that I had a chance of living, and now that I know I don't, I'm stuck. I wish my attempts from before I met them succeeded. I never wanted to hurt them.

But, I guess what I'm asking is, would breaking up with my partner hurt them less in the end than still being in a relationship with me when I ctb?

To answer the original question of the thread which is what's the best way to ruin someones life, I always think of people who get pregnant with someone and then leave them to take care of that kid alone, I know that if someone did that to me I would feel as if my life was ruined. Nobody wants to raise a kid alone or be abondoned after having a baby with someone.

For the other question of would it hurt more to break up or CTB, I think they will both equally be as painful.

 

[WaitingToGo]

Yes I think either way will be devastating. Difficult one to resolve

 

[novem]

I think that things are not too bad for you just yet.
Usually partners ditch you when you are not good enough compared to others.