What would you do if you could enjoy life?

[jodes2]

What would you do to get enjoyment out of life? Why can't you enjoy those sorts of things at the moment? What would need to change?

 

[Unending]

Probably the same stuff that I do now, but without needing large amounts of caffeine and gabapentin to be able to get anything done.
Internet browsing, studying philosophy, music, creative projects in general, etc.

Also, I'd probably actually go outside and try to make friends. My chronic distress makes it really hard to maintain friendships or see the good in having them so that would probably be the biggest/most unique change if I was to recover.

As it is, I don't leave the house except to smoke on the porch so I imagine I'd end up going on more walks and meet ups.
But anyways, it's all just speculation. Maybe the recovered version of me would actually just continue to stay inside as much as possible, who knows.

 

[ever so lonely]

i think for me it is ocd, ptsd, depression, panic disorder, with a little social anxiety thrown in, i am a mess brother, a total and complete useless mess, i cannot even function as i should let alone enjoy anything, anybody relate ?, i wished i could go back to my old self, but i feel it isnt possible, i have had many family members pass away too, bereavements, it has never been the same, i dont feel the same zest for living i used to feel, i am just tormented by my thoughts, with very little respite, nothing i have tried has worked, from cbt thereapy to meds, i wished i knew a best foot forward approach mate, sadly whenever i do look like i turn a corner and take a step forward with my mental health i inevitably tend to take two steps back, i dont know what to do at this point bro, hope your feeling ok though, and doing well, i wish people here well, even if i feel a total loss, if i could enjoy it i would love a dream job, something i enjoy maybe, but i dont know i am planning to leave the uk soonies or hoping to, but it depends on how mental health holds up, i need change me thinks.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Money- basically for me...

I would have a creative job where I worked normal hours and got paid a living wage. In my freetime, I would enjoy myself visiting places, watching films, playing video games and feeling relaxed.

As it is- best case scenario: I have work- yay! Still- partly because I have such a bad business head and like to do the very best I can and partly because this is a very competetive industry- so firms exploit creatives- I get paid less than the minimum wage. I will work all hours while the job lasts and then, I will have no work and worry like mad till I can find something else. It's clearly not sustainable- so that really means finding a stable (likely wage slave job.) Perhaps I'll succeed in this and find something I don't hate- but I doubt it. I've had plenty of experience in the 'real world.'

 

[mothman._.]

i think i would have free time and not be working constantly, i would find a hobby i enjoy and settle down somewhere nice. i would be happy

 

[PrisonBreak]

I would love to go travel around the globe. Explore the wonders of the world. Go hiking, camping, paragliding, mountain climbing etc. I would also love to try all sorts of things(cultural foods, attend festivals). Places like Vietnam, Peru, Mutianyu, Napal, Giza to mention a few.

I can't access all these due to finance and health reasons (mainly health). I'm mostly housebound and dependent on parents.

A life without a debilitating illness would be great. Unfortunately, my illnesses are all permanent and I have little to no quality of life.

 

[NumbItAll]

It's hard to imagine since I've never really been interested in anything. I would probably be slaving away at a pointless job like everybody else, but I would think it was worth it for some reason. I might even have friends to do things with since I could have conversations without completely faking it. But really we are all just slowly rotting and I cannot remember what it's like to enjoy it.

 

[looseye]

I'd probably spend way less time on this site hahaha

 

[oneeyed]

Would have to be set for life financially. Assuming that, I would retire to a country of my choice, live off the passive income, have a "side hustle" where I continue to do my hobbies but can make a few bucks off it and occupy my time casually. Being able to do whatever I feel like.

 

[lofticries]

Get a career I could be proud of and love.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

My hobbies, work to make money, and go to Kpop concerts.

 

[Jarni]

Become a full time artist and writer and enjoy the best romantic things in artistic manner. Love and art are all for me.
(impossible because of very bad chronic illness caused by covid)

 

[Huntfish34]

I would probably have a dream job in what I'm most passionate about. ( my hobbies).... hunting, fishing, wrangling rattlesnakes, or..... Anything related / associated with weather.... meteorologist, storm chasing, camera man / photography, journalist...

My anxiety, depression , self hatred, resentments, vengeance, low confidence / self esteem, self worth... I still do them every now and then, just not near as much as I used to. ( Lost a lot of drive and passion for them within the past few years)
When I do make it out to hunt, I just have to be careful/ mindful so I don't turn the gun on myself and blow my fckn brains out. Certainly a balancing act to say the Least. Fml. -

 

[WorthlessTrash]

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why do you like it? Girl kpop groups sound good, but kpop music with "male" vocalists sounds disgusting - they have voices like castrates))) Maybe I'm just used to heavy metal where the singers' voices sound so masculine and sexy. The deep voice of the singer of Unleashed sounds like pure testosterone))

Im only into female kpop artists as far as kpop goes.

Also i dont really like the look or sound of men nor do i like being one so i cannot agree with your opinion on them being sexy lol

 

[disillusion]

I would be on cruise for years and not worry about housework or responsibility or fake chitchat, grocery, bills, childcare etc. Just enjoying beach and food and play. $ and time is what makes it impossible.

if living in bigger nicer and safer home. If i could fix everything in our old home. ( no fund and even if i do, too anxious too lazy to call ppl or do myself). if i can revenge People who hurt me dearly. ( how??) and hurt them same but they will not feel nothing because they r sociopaths

If i i had nice, kind , untoxic parents or partner( how do you get new parents? By reborn? How do i replace with a nice partner with my aging and depression and when your not into flirting nor sex nor dressing up? And with young kid)

If i had live-in nanny. Childcare is Too exhausting but live-in nanny very expensive and you need bigger home( again i aint rich) or if i never had kid as I am so incapable



If can stop my deteriorating health and aging( but how ? Unless i can spend 2 million a year like bryan johnson)

If i dont have to follow social norms and be truly myself without stigmatizing or judging. ( the whole world and most People r very judgmental)
If all the judgemental cunts and petty ppl disappear from this world( how to do that?)

If i dont have to brush teeth daily nor shower. And still stay clean and healthy

if I am not always so tired physically and mentally and emotionally and had more energy

if i dont get hangover
if i live in warm place
if i could go yearly vacation like my acquaintances. Havent going to vacation fot years
if family stop picking a fight

Would be happier with multi millions so never ever worry about $ or treatment : healthcare or education or any materialistic shit $ can buy

Would be happy if i have personal chef. Partner never cooks so It is all my job. Fucking exhausting or if theres one pill a day for meal
Replacement hence i never ever have to buy food or go into kitchen or eat.

Would be happier if i no longer encounter karens or racists. But how?

Would be happier if there are less mean hurtful and dishonest People in this world

Would be happier if theres 0 rapist , murder , abuse. Hate crime and violence in this world

if family is less sarcastic
if my kid wasnt this difficult
if i have true friends not fake ones
If i never met my ex…
If i were never born
If euthanasia is legalized in every country no questions r asked and just like dogs if we are in physical or mental pain we can leave planet earth.
If i never have headache( constant migraine

If i have any libido left ever and met compatible partner to boink and get pleasure. Would be happier but i have 0 desire for years

 

[Anzhe]

"If all the judgemental cunts and petty ppl disappear from this world( how to do that?)"


Why do people make such things a problem? I get judged a lot, but I don't care what people think. Yes, sometimes these are obstacles and sometimes I have to lie and be hypocritical in order to get something from a person, but I am only interested in his opinion as a step that I can use on the way to achieving my goal. You just need to give less importance to the opinions of other people and you will become much happier))

Im only into female kpop artists as far as kpop goes.

Also i dont really like the look or sound of men nor do i like being one so i cannot agree with your opinion on them being sexy lol

If you suffer from the fact that you were born a man, but would like to be a woman, then I will make you happy - there is nothing worse than being a woman from birth - periods, fear of pregnancy, everyone wants to fuck you - even the tax inspector sets you up and fines you specifically to force you to meet him later. Luckily, thank tax amnesty - I didn't have to fuck with this freak. Being a hormonally woman is terrible, it is unbearable - my boobs hurts for 2 weeks in monath. Better rejoice in the fact that you were born a man))

 

[disillusion]

"If all the judgemental cunts and petty ppl disappear from this world( how to do that?)"


Why do people make such things a problem? I get judged a lot, but I don't care what people think. Yes, sometimes these are obstacles and sometimes I have to lie and be hypocritical in order to get something from a person, but I am only interested in his opinion as a step that I can use on the way to achieving my goal. You just need to give less importance to the opinions of other people and you will become much happier))

If you suffer from the fact that you were born a man, but would like to be a woman, then I will make you happy - there is nothing worse than being a woman from birth - periods, fear of pregnancy, everyone wants to fuck you - even the tax inspector sets you up and fines you specifically to force you to meet him later. Luckily, thank tax amnesty - I didn't have to fuck with this freak. Being a hormonally woman is terrible, it is unbearable - my chest hurts for 2 weeks a month and it becomes hard. Better rejoice in the fact that you were born a man))

Yes your absolutely right. I don't know. I just wrote whatever pop in my head. I guess i were hurt alot by my own judgemental culture( I am korean. It is very collective society) and judgmental parents. And harsh criticism from judgements. Maybe iam not using the words right as I am not native speaker. Years and years of being told I am wrong or only being disapproved because they r either too petty or don't understand " different", Not wrong. But they will never know as they r so self righteous and know it all

Dont we all meet those People in our lives. Maybe too many?

Bully and ostracization al happen due do judging… hatred and racism too and superiority complex

 

[movinout17]

What would you do to get enjoyment out of life? Why can't you enjoy those sorts of things at the moment? What would need to change

I would socialize, have friends that satisfy my needs, date, have a career/study that I'm interested in and love, I would be independent. Most of all, I would not be me.
I can't enjoy these things because of all the traits that make me myself, or because of the presence of all my issues.
I would either need to be free of issues, or have redeeming qualities that make it all okay.
I either need to accept myself, change, or both. And they seem to be so impossible or hard, I'll rather CTB

 

[BrailleTogepi]

I'd finish and publish my game. At the risk of tooting my own horn, I'm very proficient at all the skills necessary, including pixel art, drawing, game design, music composition, and programming. Only problem is I'm not motivated... Even less so now that I've decided ctb-ing may be for me...

 

[Kush-Chronic]

Ich would live my life. Without despression and despair.

 

[UntilTheLast]

I don't know if it's brain chemistry or old psychological wounds or what, but I literally can't experience happiness. Like, I've had people describe to me what they experience when they feel happiness or joy or whatever, and I just don't experience it. I laugh exactly like everyone else - laugh so hard that I can barely breathe if something tickles my funnybone at the right angle - but inside, there's no warmth. I can't remember a time when there was.

 

[dw33ter]

Is it weird to say that I don't know anymore? I'm having a difficult time describing it.

I thought I knew what I wanted and would make me feel better, but as I strive for these things during the recovery process, I realise they don't bring me any joy at all. It's so frustrating and I'm losing whatever little hope I have. I'm starting to doubt everything I wanted, maybe I never wanted them, but I thought I wanted them.

So yeah, I don't know what I want to do, I don't know why I don't enjoy those things, so I don't know what would need to change.

 

[jodes2]

Is it weird to say that I don't know anymore? I'm having a difficult time describing it.

I thought I knew what I wanted and would make me feel better, but as I strive for these things during the recovery process, I realise they don't bring me any joy at all. It's so frustrating and I'm losing whatever little hope I have. I'm starting to doubt everything I wanted, maybe I never wanted them, but I thought I wanted them.

So yeah, I don't know what I want to do, I don't know why I don't enjoy those things, so I don't know what would need to change.

I hope you find joy in things again soon

 

[Csmith8827]

If I had my Van and stuff (trying to get a van and convert it so I have a place to live...van conversion is huge these days...) then I'd surf and learn to play/make music honestly. That's for starters... I'd try to get into doing other shit as well. I'd cook my own food, start exercising, and...I don't know what else off the top of my head...but that's for starters...

 

[aweary]

I would find a calling and be valued, be challenged, and be busy. I would use my off-time to engage in hobbies. I am unemployed and so I have no calling, and that leaches my enjoyment of hobbies and life in general. I know this is true for everyone but it is seriously saddening to apply to so many jobs and receive no response.

 

[jodes2]

I would find a calling and be valued, be challenged, and be busy. I would use my off-time to engage in hobbies. I am unemployed and so I have no calling, and that leaches my enjoyment of hobbies and life in general. I know this is true for everyone but it is seriously saddening to apply to so many jobs and receive no response.

That's terrible. They should have the decency to reply whether you get it or not, maybe giving some feedback. Job hunting is hard

 

[MitakaAsa]

I'd work out more. I've always found working out to be relaxing, but my mental health has chipped away at my energy and self esteem so much that, on some days, I can't stand to even acknowledge that I'm a living, breathing person.

 

[jodes2]

I'd work out more. I've always found working out to be relaxing, but my mental health has chipped away at my energy and self esteem so much that, on some days, I can't stand to even acknowledge that I'm a living, breathing person.

That really sucks. I guess it's a good thing to have at your disposal just in case you feel ready