Discussion What would it take for you to be happy?

[Noctis]

And I'm not talking about some bullshit "Visualize your dreams, now achieve your dreams!" I mean if you had an omnipotent magic wand with unlimited uses, what would it take for you to never dream about catching the bus again?

I'll start. I would have to start life over. I've made a lot of terrible choices that I can't reverse. I would get away from my terrible parents as soon as I can, I'd avoid a lot of toxic friendships, I wouldn't sacrifice so much for fake people who were laughing at me behind my back, and I would get a better support system much earlier in life. If I could transfer my memories into my four-year old body, I'd work to be happy.

Short of that, I think I'll always be planning my suicide. Sometimes it's just in the back of my head, and sometimes it's the only thought process I can manage.

 

[Mashedout]

A different reality, with a completely different set of rules for conciousness; one where it wasn't necessary to kill in order to exist. I'll never be happy here no matter what trivial changes take place in this brief human time. I wouldn't want to be either, that would mean I was cosigning all the fucked shit happening here.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think for me, there would be nothing. I simply do not want to exist, nothing would ever make me want to live. I think in my case, no matter what my circumstances were I would still feel empty. I have no interest in living. I do not understand how anyone could be happy in a world where there is so much suffering, they must be delusional.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Enough $ that I can enjoy life and not work

 

[Crazy4u]

That is all I need: find a very stable job (e.g. think government) with good salary and reasonable hours 30-36 hours a week. The job needs to provide free mental healthcare, standard healthcare, and dental care.

This will help me overcome reasons for ctb:
- I will be able to buy a small house for myself and feel secure in the same house in the same city for many years
- I will be able to address health issues
- I will be able pursue and develop interests for stuff outside work (e.g. volunteer work, gym, cosmetic surgeries, going outdoors, casual relationships)

 

[Snake of Eden]

I know that nothing can makes me happy. I am flawed and so the rest of the world to achieve any tangible level of sustained happiness. Even if I was so rich, I would still feel like shit to learn there are so many unhappy souls in the world. Also if I had things worth living for in life like a partner or money, I would worry so much about being left, being loved for my money only, run out of it. Etc…

It is a no win situation.

 

[9BBN]

Friends absolutely make or break my experiences. I wish I could spend more time with friends and less time worrying about pain and money.

 

[8AEM]

Be born in a different country & be exposed to different philosophies.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

What would it take for you to be happy?

I can't form real relationships, so it would have to be android gf:

 

[Snake of Eden]

Be born in a different country & be exposed to different philosophies.

There is no escape from the ever spreading consumerist religion of the world. All philosophies and ideologies wont matter at all any longer.

 

[Onthe29th]

A lot of money, honestly. so many problems would be solved with strong financial stability.

 

[t-rex]

Long term, I'm not sure. Like @FuneralCry I don't really have any goals or aspirations. Depression has robbed me of that.

Short term, I would like to escape to a remote Buddhist monastery and live and work as a layperson there for a few years, growing in discipline and virtue while living communally and with only very simple needs. I want to strip my life down to its bare elements and sharpen my mind and soul in an encouraging environment around others who are doing the same.

After a year or two or three, hopefully I've experienced such peace and clarity that I'll develop some aspirations and know how to re-enter the world and what to do.

The only thing stopping me from doing this now is my terrible depression. I cry nearly all the time, have no energy, etc. I probably wouldn't be a very good community member and they cannot provide psychiatric services at a monastery. My latest plan to is try and get ECT, and hope that makes me well enough that I can actually begin to execute on this plan. I am lucky enough to have the freedom (no partner, no kids) and money saved to be able to do this if I can some baseline level of mental health first.

 

[Belljar]

I would get a house by the ocean. But I'd still be traumatized so probably still want to die.

 

[Snake of Eden]

Long term, I'm not sure. Like @FuneralCry I don't really have any goals or aspirations. Depression as robbed me of that.

Short term, I would like to escape to a remote Buddhist monastery and live and work as a layperson there for a few years, growing in discipline and virtue while living communally and with only very simple needs. I want to strip my life down to its bare elements and sharpen my mind and soul in an encouraging environment around others who are doing the same.

After a year or two or three, hopefully I've experienced such peace and clarity that I'll develop some aspirations and know how to re-enter the world and what to do.

The only thing stopping me from doing this now is my terrible depression. I cry nearly all the time, have no energy, etc. I probably wouldn't be a very good community member and they cannot provide psychiatric services at a monastery. My latest plan to is try and get ECT, and hope that makes me well enough that I can actually begin to execute on this plan. I am lucky enough to have the freedom (no partner, no kids) and money saved to be able to do this if I can some baseline level of mental health first.

Wouldnt living in monestary life style make you even more unable to blend in back to the real world when you realize that all the peacefulness you gain from it, is all that you need or can salvage from being alive?

 

[t-rex]

Wouldnt living in monestary life style make you even more unable to blend in back to the real world when you realize that all the peacefulness you gain from it, is all that you need or can salvage from being alive?

It's possible. I'm sure that's what my family thinks, or is afraid of. Afraid because I might decide I need to stay forever...

I think at some point I would feel guilty about not contributing more to the world, and would come back to the real world with some new goals and aspirations. At least I hope so. If that doesn't happen and I'm happy to practice in the monastery I may just stay. I really have no idea what the experience will bring me.

 

[LittleBlackCat]

Love. and some money. But mostly love…

 

[WonderingSoul]

Quite the amount of things for me would be: Friends I can trust without them going behind my back, a lot of money, a therapist who doesn't zone out when I speak to them, to be able to collect video games, and an ACTUAL non abusive family.

 

[Darkover]

superintelligence, being immortal, lots of money, home, love, nolonger having to eat sleep drink poop or wee

 

[Sanva]

I feel like i would be happy if I didn't have anxiety and if i had friends that loved me. bonus points if i could live somewhere where it's warm and sunny most of the time, with enough money so i don't have to work.

 

[IsThisTheEnd?]

i was going to post a thread about never being happy then saw this.

 

[Snake of Eden]

I know that nothing can makes me happy. I am flawed and so the rest of the world to achieve any tangible level of sustained happiness. Even if I was so rich, I would still feel like shit to learn there are so many unhappy souls in the world. Also if I had things worth living for in life like a partner or money, I would worry so much about being left, being loved for my money only, run out of it. Etc…

It is a no win situation.

Feeling euphoric is being happy. The smallest irritant in life like a mosquito flying on your face, a spilling a glass of wine on your expensive sweater, hitting your pinky toe by the furniture can ruin your mood and the day for you even when you have everything possible to be happy.

 

[Somber]

Short term, I would like to escape to a remote Buddhist monastery and live and work as a layperson there for a few years, growing in discipline and virtue while living communally and with only very simple needs. I want to strip my life down to its bare elements and sharpen my mind and soul in an encouraging environment around others who are doing the same.

After a year or two or three, hopefully I've experienced such peace and clarity that I'll develop some aspirations and know how to re-enter the world and what to do.

Sounds like something you could actually achieve. Which is super positive!

 

[Alcoholic Teletubby]

Independence, self-reliance, the absence of intrusive thoughts, and self-assurance.

On the side, a few close friends.

(If I were to be completely honest and be given anything I desired, I'd pop out of existence. I suppose it's all part of the fantasy.)

 

[Hirokami]

Consistent financial stability, for one. I don't have to be rich, but if I could get around six figures a year, that would be great. I'd also remove problematic people from my life, too, as well as get rid of all of my mental disorders.

 

[LostMyWorld]

A time machine

 

[Gsvko]

A time machine

Second this

 

[ncmxm]

Having a different face, being forever young, having an unlimited amount of money, and being intelligent and talented

 

[mentalhealthfighter]

All I want is a girlfriend to cuddle with

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I would probably use such power to disperse my misery by spreading it to other people and allowing this power to absolutely corrupt me. I'd set myself at the top of every hierarchy and force everyone into servitude of me. Anyone who would oppose me would be immediately cast out to be tortured for the rest of their lives. There would be no mercy. CTB would at least be looked upon more favorably by the majority of the world though because I will ensure that even the happiest of normies will feel the crushing sense of futility and frustration that already plagued me.

Good thing I'm too lazy to ever come close to actually achieving this.

 

[gottago222]

honestly not much even rich people with supportive relationships have problems and stessors i just dont want to exist so i can never feel again