What will they say about you?

[Ashpac]

Just been thinking about when I die and what people will say about me.

I am a good person, i dont cause trouble, but my family members know what ive been through yet choose to ignore it and wont talk about it.

Lets all be honest about this as you will see from my example.

When im gone through unnatural causes the majority will say, what a shame, he had a horrible life, i hope hes at peace now, none of them can say I had something to live for or something to look forward too. I am not a happy go lucky person and I push everyone away so my social life has done a 180 compared to what it used to be. So, they wont even be able to say I put a smile on peoples faces, because i dont, my presence might make people happy, but my humour does not if that makes sense.

Would i like them to say i had it all, that my life was worth living, well they could say that but they would be lying.

So in conclusion, they would say, i dont blame him for commiting suicide. Wow, some legacy that i must say.

So what would people say about you when you end your life?

 

[NOT]

People like winners.
So even if you CBT sucessfully you will be respected.

 

[Tally]

Just been thinking about when I die and what people will say about me.

I am a good person, i dont cause trouble, but my family members know what ive been through yet choose to ignore it and wont talk about it.

Lets all be honest about this as you will see from my example.

When im gone through unnatural causes the majority will say, what a shame, he had a horrible life, i hope hes at peace now, none of them can say I had something to live for or something to look forward too. I am not a happy go lucky person and I push everyone away so my social life has done a 180 compared to what it used to be. So, they wont even be able to say I put a smile on peoples faces, because i dont, my presence might make people happy, but my humour does not if that makes sense.

Would i like them to say i had it all, that my life was worth living, well they could say that but they would be lying.

So in conclusion, they would say, i dont blame him for commiting suicide. Wow, some legacy that i must say.

So what would people say about you when you end your life?

The notion of needing to leave a legacy is a bizarre one to me. Ultimately we all go, the universe dies and there is no such thing as legacy

 

[Ashpac]

People like winners.
So even if you CBT sucessfully you will be respected.

Not to most of my family, they will see it as selfish.
But i must admit, i do think im a winner for leaving shit hole behind. Ill be the only one who thinks that though.

 

[Asacschrader33]

He was a good kid.

 

[Ashpac]

I dont want to leave a legacy behind, but id rather leave people with something positive about me, they wont be able to say anything positive.
Thats where the sarcasm came into it when i said ''some legacy that'' I guess people missed that. Its all good though.
Just wanted to see if other people would be remembered as happy people, or does people in your life know you wanna end it or will it come out of the blue and everyone around you will be shocked it happened. The ones that say we didnt see the signs.
Im always interested in peoples stories.

 

[Tally]

I always think it odd, when people say about someone who has died "she loved life". To me that means you really haven't got, how shit the world is. It's almost selfish to be happy.

 

[Dandelion]

Nothing good that's for sure.

 

[Fadingfast]

I wasted everything, even myself.

 

[Bärchen]

Nothing, i'm alone.

 

[Final Escape]

I think some people might say what a waste. The ones who know me more closely I think will understand I was a difficult stubborn person unwilling to change. The only person who can rescue yourself from this kind of mental state is yourself. There are things u can do on your own to begin to help yourself but if u don't try, and other people don't think u are interested in helping yourself they won't try to help either. Anyway, yea I'm sure there will be mixed feelings from people I know about my death. I imagine they will figure that she was such a miserable tortured soul, she is out of suffering now and at peace. They will be totally fine since I wasn't a huge part of most people's lives that I know.

 

[omoidarui]

that i'm "cowardly" or some other generic crap they say about suicides

 

[JadedGray]

Only my parents will know and they will be glad that I'm no longer suffering. I just hope that my mother doesn't tell her extended family because they're extremely religious (Christian), although I haven't had any contact with them in 13 years.

 

[FauxEmotions]

I'd imagine (if anything) they'd say, "Didnt see that coming, but makes sense". A side from family of course.

It just sucks that there's a "gameplan" as to how life goes for people and if one doesn't fit that cookie cutter, then there's something wrong with them. Haven't we learned by now that nothing is black or white. Besides, the best parts of life are in the grey area. Anyway....

 

[Final Escape]

People like winners.
So even if you CBT sucessfully you will be respected.

I think people who find out will think the opposite. I wonder what my mother will think? I have a feeling she will not be genuinely upset or sad. She may possibly use it for attention. I don't know but I heard this is what narcissist parents do. They can't love u and lack empathy. She will probably be mad because of the cremation expense. Or transport of my body costs. I probably should look that up. What all this stuff costs. I didn't even look this up lol!

 

[Apostle]

He was a good kid.

This is about the extent of what they could say about me (along with "what a waste" as has been mentioned), and it wouldn't even be true.

No disrespect to my family, but knowing how sentimental they are, I'm sure they would still find more to say about me, though it would be much more emotionally charged than factual. Because I've never been or done anything worth remembering. A totally distant, uncaring slob from start to finish.

 

[Alchemist]

Not to most of my family, they will see it as selfish.
But i must admit, i do think im a winner for leaving shit hole behind. Ill be the only one who thinks that though.

They'll say you're "an hero".

IDC what they say, most likely will not be true since nobody has ever bothered to know me. And that's boldly assuming someone will even say anything.

 

[Deardaddy]

Nobody will talk bad abt the dead . But in the hearts they might pity u and it's not true.

 

[ScorpiusDragon]

My friends would probably say "She had a bright future." I'm no longer contact with my parents, but if they found out, they'd think I'm a failure and worry about my suicide embarrassing them in front of their friends. After all, their perfect little Ivy League daughter that they always bragged about CAN'T possibly be suicidal or depressed.

 

[Superfluous]

In my case,, hopefully nothing, but you know how people like to gossip...

 

[KnightBlade]

Everyone but my closet friends would be surprised. Hmmm...they'd probably say,

"He was a nice person. Odd, but nice."
"He was so intelligent."
"He had so much going for him!"

My narcissistic mother, from whom I'm estranged, would be overjoyed. She will stumble over herself for the life insurance and Hoover up any money she get out of my corpse. And the sympathy points she would get would take her into overdrive!

 

[Monster]

"He was very quiet, he should've opened up more"
"He should've just listened to me and done what I said, then he wouldn't have killed himself"
"He had no reason to be depressed. He should've just tried being happier"
"He was a lazy fucker"
"What was wrong with him?"
"He didn't try enough"
"He should've told someone so he could get more help"
"He should've let people help"
"He was pathetic"
"He wasn't a real man"
"How could he do this to me?"
"He was so happy as a child"
Some other crap like that.

 

[Apostle]

"He was very quiet, he should've opened up more"
"He should've just listened to me and done what I said, then he wouldn't have killed himself"
"He had no reason to be depressed. He should've just tried being happier"
"He was a lazy fucker"
"What was wrong with him?"
"He didn't try enough"
"He should've told someone so he could get more help"
"He should've let people help"
"He was pathetic"
"He wasn't a real man"
"How could he do this to me?"
"He was so happy as a child"
Some other crap like that.

These are some "good" ones too, I think people would say most of this about me, and probably think all of it.

 

[usernameNotFound]

Alot of people would be shocked and confused at my death. I'm not very personable or fun though so I don't think it will affect their lives that much.
My mother though - it would break her heart, and I try not to think about it.

 

[Monster]

@Apostle What you said before would also probably be true for me. They'd say some emotional things (I don't know what though) but there isn't anything special or good to say about me, unless they maybe try to say some stuff from when I was a young child.

 

[Lisa]

I always think it odd, when people say about someone who has died "she loved life". To me that means you really haven't got, how shit the world is. It's almost selfish to be happy.

I agree

 

[tomz323]

That they always new I was weird, I guess? Hard to say. I'd like to think some people thought I was a good kid.

 

[Mart]

Probably blow out of porportion the kind of person I am. I'm not someone to be remembered anyway so it doesn't really matter what they say about me. The fact is I'm a pretty useless person living a pretty worthless life.

 

[Mort]

Well for me nobody will say any thing about me after i die only people who mite miss me are my parents. They the only ones who knows i exist and most likely say at last he gone and we can get on with ower lives . Only ones at my grave side will be the grave diggers and mite say how long its going to take to fill in this fat barsted most likely have to go on over time LOL . Well they you go as you see unloved unlike a complete nobody never be miss . You know the odd thing about that i am glad I am a nobody no will miss me sort of makes things easier nice to know i be berryed sum were and forgotten.

 

[sweet17sour29]

"We all saw it coming".