Discussion What the longest time you gone with out sex

[almaranthine]

A wide range of periods. I often have casual sex but usually feel incredibly depressed after. Still doing it though, under the illusion that some connection will come from it. No fucking chance of that happening. The last time I had sex with someone and felt any connection, that was a long time ago.

Feeling disgust after sex is worse than no sex.

100% agree. No sex is far better. I've come to the belief that the "connection" happens before you even think to have sex with the other person and that sometimes, having sex disrupts that connection irreversibly.

 

[Final Escape]

Does masturbation count as having sex?

Lol! No

 

[Empty Smile]

Lol! No

Damn.... Well, in that case, it's been about 4 years for me.

 

[Roberto]

Me its bin about ten years and well as i am an ugly bugger i had to pay for it . When i first pop my cherry i was 25 and you guessed it had to pay for it . But the thing is i was like a tube of pringles ones you pop you cant stop LOL . At one point i was doing it every other day lets just things soon got out of hand next thing i know after 10 years getting my end away i was 20 grand in debt . So learnt that i need to control my self better so one way thays why i gone so long with out getting my end away. In fact i dont trust myself to start it up agen as i more than likey to go over bord and end up in debt ones more . Any way my looks have not improved so be hard to find sum lass who would want to have sex with me paid or unpaid . Mind you unpaid sex will never happen got better odds at winning the lottery than haveing a freebie LOL :)

I can't remember ... 3 years. But I've been more years in the past : about 10 years or more. Sertraline helps me with the desires.
I've tried paying in the past. But I just can't make love this way. I can't overcome the thoughts that she really doesn't want to. I need to feel an emotional connection it seems.

 

[MissNietzsche]

Hmm, I'm not sure..my last ex left me 4.5 months ago, but there might have been a longer time before that..I can't recall..I also don't know exactly what counts and what doesn't count lmao.

But for certain, I haven't had anything since my ex left 4.5 months ago, and I don't think that's gonna change anytime soon. I don't have casual sex anymore, and I'm not really in the position to have another relationship right now, so yeah. If I ctb soon, my ex will be my last. I don't derive pleasure from having sex with randos, so I'm not gonna "go out with a bang" hahah

EDIT: When I lost my virginity at 18, I was about to ctb, and I didn't want to die a virgin hahaha

 

[Mizzmini45]

most people are virgins with or without sex. Sex without emotional intimacy and mutual honest love is nothing trust me. without that its just two people using each other.

 

[Shaqxbb]

Maybe 3 months one time during a dry spell? Idk. It's good to have your standbys.

 

[56709]

All 22 years of my life.

 

[ValideSultana]

Frankly I could go the rest of my life without any sex and be a very happy bunny.

 

[justwhy?]

The old metaphor about the starving and well fed having differing attitudes to cheap food comes to mind here.

 

[zherhk]

Having sex will only make you happy if the problem is sex itself.

 

[Wayfaerer]

All my life... and I'm 22 so far.

It doesn't get depressing until after your 25. Then it gets really sad.

 

[Taki]

It doesn't get depressing until after your 25. Then it gets really sad.

Confirmed.

 

[ScorpiusDragon]

I was a virgin until I was 20. I had a relationship with a guy in my third year of college and a relationship with another guy in my 4th year of college. Now with my current boyfriend, we've been together for 3 years but we haven't had sex for maybe 4 months now (I actually really can't remember the last time we had sex). Super sexually frustrated but he pushes me away every time I try.

 

[mediocre]

my whole life.

 

[Wayfaerer]

I Super sexually frustrated but he pushes me away every time I try.

... and he was calling us losers? Sounds like he's low T.

 

[YukiFox]

Four years. I think I'm asexual. I didn't found a partner who felt satisfied (of any gender) . I was raped once.

 

[Manja]

5 years...and I don't miss it at all

 

[NoFOMO]

I'm celibate now. It's been 2 years. Too much hassle outside of a relationship so I'll keep it this way.

 

[Numbtopain97]

My entire life

 

[Wayfaerer]

Alright, so I just got back from a long overnight stay with a banging hot milf escort. I had my suspicions confirmed by the end of the night that people who say sex isn't important at all are so full of crap.

I should've done this at 19 instead of 27. I had learned some new and interesting things about myself during my stay, and it would've been a huge confidence boost at a time when it would've been much more useful, as opposed to now when it's basically worthless. If I had the night I had back then it literally could've saved my life but it's far too late now. I can't believe I went all that time without getting any at all during my prime years, I feel so robbed and cheated. It really would've made a world of difference back then. Anyway, it's at the very, least good to know that the monkey is no longer on my back (finally!) and I won't be dying a virgin. I utterly dreaded the thought...

 

[Xena87]

2018. I'm described as beautiful and sexy, I get sexually propositioned all the time, many men (and some women) flirt with me and i used to work as a call girl but since I became ill... Nothing. All I want to do is die!

 

[Forest Fire]

7 year anniversary for me tomorrow

 

[Roberto]

I can't remember. After my wife, about 10 years. Now about 3 years, or 4. I can't remember.

 

[peacefully31425]

Lost my virginity at 22, and the longest I've gone without it since is 10 months.

 

[verminoid]

i dunno, a year or so. i've been with my husband for 6 years but he's autistic and i suffer from ptsd due to sexual trauma so we basically never have sex.

 

[SuicidalSymphonies]

Since birth, 17 years. I did have a boyfriend I met in school, then moved away and he flew me to see him at 17 and that's when it happened. I was actually terrified of sex. I'm 22. Since then..I've gone a year or so.

 

[mathieu]

Maybe a year or two, I'm not sure. It's not hard to get laid if you're gay. Hard to find a relationship, though, nowadays.

 

[vonvonwantpeace]

5 Years ago with my classmate and it was awkward and uncomfortable

 

[ZemTee]

21. No real plans on breaking that streak either, if I'm being honest.