Saturn_
Arcanist
- Apr 22, 2024
- 423
Alltheywanted
Nobody knows what I see
- Mar 6, 2023
- 331
An artist but I doubt I will ever become one
However I will keep trying ;3
However I will keep trying ;3
crystal_meth97
Nie mam zamiaru się poddać
- May 1, 2024
- 155
I have the brains, I have a high IQ if that means anything, but I don't have social skills and can't deal with people at all in professional settings, so my only option is to work remotely as a content writer. I have 5 years of accumulated experience doing this and I'm quite good at it, apparently. I would have liked to have a more creative, artistically inclined job, such as tattoo artist, but the stress and responsibility of that would be unbearable, so I have to accept I will never be able to do it.
sserafim
brighter than the sun, that’s just me
- Sep 13, 2023
- 9,013
I have the brains and a high IQ as well, but I don't have social skills and can't deal with people either. I hate how life is so dependent on socializing and social interaction. I just wasn't born with the rulebook that everyone else has. My social skills also degraded due to lockdown and they never came back. Honestly, I would grudgingly tolerate a remote job if I had to work, but having to work in person sounds like torture. I don't want to have to be around people all the time. I don't enjoy socializing, nor am I good at it. It honestly feels like people are speaking a foreign language to me. I also just don't like talking to or interacting with people
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crystal_meth97
Nie mam zamiaru się poddać
- May 1, 2024
- 155
Me too, I hate how you have to socialize in a professional setting, be able to work in a team, and have a nice, ass-kissing, obedient attitude. It's repulsive tbh. Working in person was a major fail for me, no matter the field - call center, salesperson, retail, hotel receptionist... I just can't and my options are thereby limited. Even though I have Asperger's, I usually understand people and the reasons behind their attitude, and this makes me even more repulsed and makes me want to detach myself from them even more. I just don't have the energy or patience to play social games and pretend for the sake of politeness.
ham and potatoes
Just some hillbilly
- Mar 27, 2024
- 405
I mean, as fun as banging hot chicks all day sounds, I'm sure even that would get old doing it 40 hours a week, 52 weeks a year, for decade after decade
See, I've got the brains, a degree, and the social skills. But I just lack the drive and motivation.
Waking up every day and going to the same bullshit job, day after day after day, until I'm old and decrepit is no way to spend your life
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sserafim
brighter than the sun, that’s just me
- Sep 13, 2023
- 9,013
I also have the brains and a degree, but not the social skills. I guess I also lack the drive and motivation. I'm a NEET right now and the only reason why I'm thinking about careers is because my mom is pressuring me to get a job. Waking up every day and going to the same job, day after day, sounds like torture. I don't want to have to work my life away until I'm old and decrepit. In that case, I'd also end up dying anyways, so what's the point of the struggle? It's not like working will prevent death or make me stay young forever. Everyone dies in the end, and I'd rather die now, honestly, without having worked for my whole life. What's the difference in dying now versus dying after having lived a "full life"? It's just that one will have made you a slave to the system lol
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migimortis
Love It Or Waste It.
- Jan 15, 2024
- 149
self employment. doing something I enjoy. there's no other way.
ham and potatoes
Just some hillbilly
- Mar 27, 2024
- 405
I thought it would get easier/better as time went on.
Nope, it's been 10 years since I finished school and started working full time, and every day it just gets a little harder to drag myself out of bed to go to work.
I seem to have developed an avoidance tactic of getting short term/seasonal work where there's no need to integrate with colleagues. I used to love the community of all being 'in the same boat' with working overseas (e.g ski seasons) and all sorts but getting older meant I stuck out more and society told me I should try getting something more 'stable'. I tried a couple of longer term jobs but ended up essentially panicking and throwing my toys out the pram. Now seasonal/temp/tourism jobs fit with the fact I have essentially run away from my previous life - I can keep my head down in somewhere obscure, no questions asked (they're desperate for staff in tourism areas as accommodation is impossible etc).
Kind of confusing and can't explain it.
I have always found I like learning and feel more comfortable with new jobs and being able to play the 'newbie' card or just being the lowest level so don't feel any pressure to perform or be responsible in any way. Any jobs I've been in any longer term, the moment I have been expected to show experience or responsibility I've shit myself and bailed.
But I definitely prefer anything thats on my feet/'doing' which keeps me busy and distracted.
Kind of confusing and can't explain it.
I have always found I like learning and feel more comfortable with new jobs and being able to play the 'newbie' card or just being the lowest level so don't feel any pressure to perform or be responsible in any way. Any jobs I've been in any longer term, the moment I have been expected to show experience or responsibility I've shit myself and bailed.
But I definitely prefer anything thats on my feet/'doing' which keeps me busy and distracted.
If your mom really makes you get a job I'm wondering if she would accept you participating as a research subject or something like that where you get a small amount of compensation to be in studies. I remember you saying you live in a major city so it may be possible at the universities there. That way you could say you're engaged in something but you don't have to show up regularly. I used to do online surveys. Once I made $50 to record all my food and feelings for 2 weeks.
EvisceratedJester
|| What Else Could I Be But a Jester ||
- Oct 21, 2023
- 3,432
Vizzle
Member
- Mar 4, 2024
- 6
Honestly I don't actually know. My whole life feels as if I have someone (my parents) controlling everything for me. I feel stuck tbh
BojackHorseman
The View From Halfway Down
- Feb 8, 2023
- 146
A friend of mine got an associates degree in computer programming. He said the field is being flooded right now to the point that an associates doesnt mean much. You have to go further and get a bachelors or something to stand out from the crowd and to make good money.
I had that same problem. I have wished I was dead since I was seriously 3 years old. High school though is when I decided I really was gonna end it. So junior year I realized why the fuck does honors and AP and being good matter if I'm just gonna die soon anyways, might as well get what little enjoyment I can out of this fucked up life for what little time I have left. I think you mentioned your parents wanted you to be a doctor, my family did too. A doctor or a lawyer or some shit like that. My whole life had been planned out. Well I said fuck it, fuck it all, I'm gonna die anyways. I dropped my advanced and AP classes, took early senior release, and did unsafe/stupid teenage shit.
Well flash forward a few years... and the end never came. It ended up being a lot harder than I thought. Since I dropped out of college I obviously had to work. So I just kinda fell into that work life habit. But seeing my coworkers, 80 years old and still working, it terrified me. I absolutely knew that could not be me. I knew I would rather blow my brains out now than stack lumber till I'm 80. So I found myself in your dilema: WTF do I do with myself now that I'm an adult, when I never planned to live this long to begin with. Like I wasnt supposed to make it to this stage in life, I never planned this far ahead, but it definitely wasnt suppoed to be THIS. It was an extremely unpleasant feeling of being trapped and lost. I'm sorry if your feeling that way too.
I have no sage advice, other than to avoid the medical field if you can. Unfortuantly I live in a small rural area. There are 3 main jobs here: retail, medical, and factory. Medical and factory are the only things that pay decent, and I couldnt handle the thought of breaking my body in a factory for some ungrateful company till I'm 80.
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sserafim
brighter than the sun, that’s just me
- Sep 13, 2023
- 9,013
Same. I'd prefer to be self employed and be my own boss. I would hate to have to answer to someone else
Ironborn
Specialist
- Jan 29, 2024
- 378
I trained as an electrician after I left school but at the time no one was taking on apprentices.
Been a truck driver for a few years now. I love driving them but the amount of bullshit you have to deal with in the industry is maddening.
If I could go back and retrain I would either go mechanic or carpenter.
Always liked machines, seeing how they worked.
Carpentry just looks relaxing.
Been a truck driver for a few years now. I love driving them but the amount of bullshit you have to deal with in the industry is maddening.
If I could go back and retrain I would either go mechanic or carpenter.
Always liked machines, seeing how they worked.
Carpentry just looks relaxing.
Zazacosta
Student
- Apr 29, 2024
- 101
Be careful what you wish for. Being self employed might mean that you will have to socialize much more than being employed in a company. It depends on the area where you will work of course (programmer and copy-writer or hairdresser and architect will have different situations). But you will have to find people who will give you a shit to do and then pay for it. It might be even more stressful than being employed.
However some office work, where you are employed for a company, but whole day you look only into boring numbers and charts a few times a day you send only some fucking report to your hated boss... Well, it is not a top notch job, but at least it will give you a money for the "average" living...
sserafim
brighter than the sun, that’s just me
- Sep 13, 2023
- 9,013
I guess that saying is true. Honestly, I'd be a programmer or architect. The only jobs I would ever do are intellectual white-collar ones. I heard that companies have benefits and other perks so it might be advantageous to work for a company instead of being self-employed. I just value freedom though. I don't want to have to answer to a higher-up. I want the freedom to dictate everything on my own terms
Zazacosta
Student
- Apr 29, 2024
- 101
If you can do something where you can self-employ yourself and you can handle that freedom, then I would go for that.
This is not my situation. I do only things where I would not be able to self-employ. I am a "standard office clerk".
This is not my situation. I do only things where I would not be able to self-employ. I am a "standard office clerk".
sserafim
brighter than the sun, that’s just me
- Sep 13, 2023
- 9,013
I already have a bachelor's degree in a different field (science part of STEM) from a top college. I want to break into CS but I heard that it's difficult to do so. Why do you say to avoid the medical field?
eatantz
I luv dolls
- Nov 4, 2023
- 559
locked*n*loaded
Archangel
- Apr 15, 2022
- 7,257
BojackHorseman
The View From Halfway Down
- Feb 8, 2023
- 146
In my experience, all health care professions that deal directly with patient care are insanely stressful. Atleast for someone like me with severe anxiety and depression and social issues it is. Someone feel free to disagree with me if you know of a medical profession thats not stressful, I'd love advice on switching careers. Maybe something in medical records, not directly responsible for patient care, wouldnt be so bad. That wouldnt pay half of what an RN makes though.
innominesatanas44
🇷🇸
- Feb 16, 2023
- 165
