Discussion What is the one mistake that has affected your whole life ?

[Painless_end]

What one mistake has impacted your life permanently and you can't reverse it under any circumstances.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Being born (male).

 

[7b48hl]

Moving to another country to live with my pedophilic father (wasn't really my choice but oh well), getting groomed by a 20 year old when I was 15. But I'm sure I would've been as miserable (if not more) if i stayed in my shithole eastern bloc RW country with my mother

 

[y'ffre]

There are many mistakes but nothing irreversible except the time that I wasted.

 

[Lily (Osako)]

Running away from home throughout my teen years.
If I could go back and do it over, I'd stay home, talk to my parents about my problems, ask them to go to family counseling with me, and be open about the things that were destroying us.

 

[samishii]

Not dying in April 2021.

 

[madebrief]

Indecent images and stuff

 

[Gaga786]

Not developing a healthy study routine and instead spending time on video games. My mother didn't care about that either - just sent me to a tuition centre where I would be taught by some random teacher for one hour(all subjects). Later, I would be expected to know it all

 

[Szinuus]

Gettin covid vaccine and ending up in autoimmune torture chamber.

 

[FuneralCry]

Not ctb at an earlier age as this has meant that I have had to endure a lot more suffering all for the sake of it, but maybe 'mistake' isn't the right word, it's rather something I regret but it's not my fault that ctb is this difficult. If it was easier to leave this world then I would have left a while ago. I wouldn't exactly say that the cause of my suffering is mistakes apart from being born of course. A mistake cannot possibly permanently impact someone's life as after all, all life is temporary, our lives will all be forgotten about eventually.

 

[ratgirl40216]

What one mistake has impacted your life permanently and you can't reverse it under any circumstances.

Living when I was born. I was born with the umbilical chord wrapped around my neck & was a blue face baby

 

[Astronauta]

Era cheia de energia e saudável. A vacina covid arruinou minha vida.

Recebendo a vacina covid e acabando na câmara de tortura autoimune.

Minha história é parecida com a sua , também vacina covid arruinou minha vida.

 

[whatstheporpoise15]

Being put on psych meds when I was a kid (not my mistake), and then listening to shitty doctors as they continued to give me meds that progressively messed me up worse and worse.

 

[👁️👃👁️]

Living in the lower chakras to much.

 

[sewercide]

Changed school and got bullied.

 

[Klophy]

The biggest one?

All the time that's been wasted because of my coping mechanisms

 

[Cunanan77]

it's an amalgamation of things, everything was fine up until young adulthood started, mental illness and drugs, troubled relationships
I fucked up my life, at 25 now my life is completely ruined, i fucked it all up, partly my fault partly because of things beyond my control.

When i was young i was liked, had friends, was bold and fearless, i was happy and rebellious, i played outside constantly with friends messing around.
16/17 years old is when things went bad, i mean as a kid my sister had bpd and anorexia, my home life wasn't the greatest but i was happy with myself at least.

 

[Wilting Daisy]

Attempting to take my life

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Allowing a predator bully tease me about looking south Asian and then dated a south Asian man while young and naive that coerced me into oral sex acts and breaking my heart/brain I gave too much trust to that man and I isolated became an alcoholic dropped out of uni. Threw off my entire life path and haven't recovered correctly.

 

[PrisonBreak]

I've made so many errors, mistakes. The one I regret most is making impulsive decisions.

 

[nosurpries]

so many things, i have so many regrets. agressively isolating myself in highschool, being a cunt to people who loved me, giving up on myself before i really even gave myself a chance.

i think back to years ago when i was so suicidal and thought i had nothing and laugh at myself because i actaully had things to live for back then. now i really do have nothing and no one, i was just so selfish and blind then.

 

[Andreea333]

Many things...mostly not being confident enough to do the things I was supposed to do at the right time. Move to a different country, travel more, work on my projects. I can't really complain about my current life - but I have so many regrets that I can't enjoy what I have because of it. Over the past few years, I've got a bunch of health problems that keep me from doing what I wanted to do...I should have trusted myself more and do what I wanted to do when I was able to. It's not impossible now either, but it's a lot more difficult and the stake is higher.

 

[Banshee]

Falling in love

 

[A.T.]

Being born (male).

Uhm, there´s something wrong with being male? I mean...what´s the difference? You should go to therapy, bro :c

 

[betternever2havbeen]

Medical shit mainly. My dad had prostate cancer and he could've had an operation which probably would've cured him but he decided to have radioactive seeds put in to kill the cancer instead. Unfortunately that treatment did jack shit and the cancer just kept growing and spreading. When he was first diagnosed it was supposed to be low grade and not likely to spread, but it turned out to be the opposite. I could've convinced him to have the surgery but I didn't, I thought the other treatment would work just as well. If he'd survived he would be in his mid 80s by now and I have no doubt he'd still be alive if it wasn't for that cancer.

I also feel guilty we downplayed it at first (even though his father had died of it) because it's supposed to be so slow growing and you are "more likely to die of something else" and this was after my mum had narrowly survived bowel cancer so my dads didn't seem a big deal-it's something a lot of older men get and manage for years and it never becomes a problem. We had no idea how aggressive his cancer would turn out to be, I just think what if he thought we didn't care... I hope I made up for it by doing all the research I could and going to all the doctors appointments in the last year, but it was too little too late by then I was also not very nice to him as a teenager and I regret that as well, he was a good dad just not very "hands on".

I let myself sink into a massive depression (although I was always prone to depression) after that happened and ruined most of my 20s doing bugger all and being miserable.

 

[JealousOfTheElderly]

getting married but even more than that, an interstate move I made in 2015. I've been on the downward spiral since both those events took place.

 

[Gordy99]

Being extremely naïve when I was younger and paying the price for it now that I'm older.

 

[R. A.]

so many things, i have so many regrets. agressively isolating myself in highschool, being a cunt to people who loved me, giving up on myself before i really even gave myself a chance.

i think back to years ago when i was so suicidal and thought i had nothing and laugh at myself because i actaully had things to live for back then. now i really do have nothing and no one, i was just so selfish and blind then.

Do you think future you might say the same thing about present you again? Not that it's easy to change the outlook; I've been wondering lately what I might say about the current me later on should/when things inevitably become worse for whatever reason. Problem is now I don't give a shit and that theoretical isn't enough to spur me into action...

Being extremely naïve when I was younger and paying the price for it now that I'm older.

I don't think it's your fault or mistake for not having sufficient guidance. I had basically no role model or mentor and luckily enough I didn't fuck up my own life horribly. Unstoppable life events and other things did me that favour

 

[TheManIllNeverBe]

Being put on psych meds when I was a kid (not my mistake), and then listening to shitty doctors as they continued to give me meds that progressively messed me up worse and worse.

This x10...

 

[lionetta12]

Trusting and consulting in a health professional and believing that they had 100% confidentiality when I was a kid, which was not true sadly. Ruined my entire life.