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Kali Yuga

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what would happen in this scenario?:

suicide note is sent to a family member by delayed email a month or 2 after suicide person has actually CTB...
The suicide person was not thought to be, nor reported, as missing prior to note.
The suicide person does not have an address to check on. phone will obviously be disconnected.
they have no job and minimal contact with outside world that would normally draw attention to them being missing early on.
of course eventually someone would notice that they are missing in time.
suicide person has been known to go off grid before.
suicide person has set up future transaction to send life savings to family member he emailed.

so... I assume the family member's first response would be to try call the suicide person but their phone will be off. They do not have an address that can be checked. Nor many people to call to ask "have you seen suicide person"... the suicide person has lost contact or fallen out with their many friends as a part of their illness. They are only in contact with one family member from an otherwise very dysfunctional family.

the suicide note requests not to bother looking for them as they are in fact gone. it doesn't say where or how as they may be hard to hear, only that they went off to be in peace and wanted to minimise inconvenience to others (innocent person discovering body, arranging funeral etc) ... It isnt doubted by family member, as the suicide person suffered mental illness, left job, isolated, etc.

My questions...

Will the family member have to report the suicide note to the police even if the note requests not wanting to draw attention?
if they dont, will the family member potentially face legal consequences or become a suspect ( they received bank savings)?
if they do report it, will the suicide person's life become investigated as a missing person e.g search party, interviews, internet search history, bank accounts etc?
or will the suicide note and clearly missing presence be enough proof for police it was a suicide....?
Will they try to locate a body?
how will they try to locate a body, i.e phone location, search dogs in nature reserves?
If no body is located, will there be legal complications for family?.. e.g closing bank account or anything suicide person left unaddressed.
Will the grief process be harder if there is no body, even though the person is clearly dead and it was their wish not to be found or have a funeral?
If a body is located, what will happen now that it is decomposed/ing

SCENARIO 2:

suicide person instead sends delayed email to police so they can locate a body and go through the conventional process.
person suicides in car in remote location away from public with inert gas.
suicide person leaves notes with their body for loved ones.

Questions:

Will there be an autopsy despite death (inert gas method) being seemingly clear.
Will suicide notes be passed on to family or kept as evidence.
How much investigation is required to rule suicide in this case...
Would this be less shocking and traumatising for a family member to find out this way as opposed to first scenario.
Would a family likely want a funeral even if suicide person didnt?

I'm driving myself insane trying to find answers to these specific scenarios.
Which scenario do you think will be easier for those left behind?
Much appreciation.
 
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lukas19

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Jan 17, 2023
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Scenario 2 seems best. Will be closure for family and proves no foul play.
 
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Im not an expert so this will just be speculation, but from just reading i would say scenario 2 would be better. It shows the whole picture.

In the first scenerio i feel like the family member would want to find the SP and if i were in the situation i would also report it. Especially knowing they are the only person really in contact with SP. In the first situation even though SP has history of mental illness, a note is not enough to show it is not murder or kidnapping. Anyone could write a letter and send it, or force SP to write it and send it.

Scenario 2 kind of gets rid of that problem, and if there are no clear signs of struggle etc i dont think the police would do an autopsy, maybe only if the family member requests so. If you dont want a funeral i think all SP could do is write that very clearly on their paper and hope for the best... Hope this helped a little
 
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lebrodude

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I'm planning on sending delayed emails to the police to the location of where I'll be.
I plan to be somewhere remote where I won't be found, I don't want to put my family through unnecessary uncertainty whilst I'm "missing".
 
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depressedlover

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scenario 2 would be better off,because there's room for closure after finding the body.Scenario 1 leaves the family with lots of unanswered questions.
 
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I'm planning on sending delayed emails to the police to the location of where I'll be.
I plan to be somewhere remote where I won't be found, I don't want to put my family through unnecessary uncertainty whilst I'm "missing".
I've decided ima do the same.
How fast do police respond to email? I don't want it to be too long if I AM gonna be found.
Otherwise I'm wondering if I could call, tell them my name and where they'll find my body and that they'll need a 4x4. I'll point them to an email for further directions where I'll point out specifically all the turns and send a satellite photo. by the time they find me I'll be dead even if they were to rush. I will be off track so will take a little while and my method is quick… within 10 minutes from gas bag in car.

I'll tell them not to bother rushing as it will not be an emergency as I will be dead. Then hang up before they can hold me on the line….
Thoughts?
 

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