Discussion What if having children was the answer ?

[zdeweilx]

Currently going through an existential crisis that makes me go insane. I really never wanted to make other people exist and suffer in this absurd universe but I've been thinking, objectively, wouldn't having children be a good way to find a meaning to life ? Every person I know who became a parent is too busy to think about the absurdity of their existence so they can't really get depressed and spiral because of it. What if this was the answer ?

 

[Hvergelmir]

...wouldn't having children be a good way to find a meaning to life ?

Yes, but so would other important responsibilities.
I think serving a cause greater than oneself, is a very good way to find meaning. Your children's wellbeing is definitely one such cause. I think the key is that one must consider ones own contribution indispensable. It doesn't have to be anything others recognize as important.

 

[byec560]

How to have a mentally ill child: Step One

 

[Pluto]

 

[PanaxMan]

Currently going through an existential crisis that makes me go insane. I really never wanted to make other people exist and suffer in this absurd universe but I've been thinking, objectively, wouldn't having children be a good way to find a meaning to life ? Every person I know who became a parent is too busy to think about the absurdity of their existence so they can't really get depressed and spiral because of it. What if this was the answer ?

Sure but do you have the responsibility to even have children. Do you have the willpower to do that?

 

[turned_to_one]

there's no inherent meaning to life. trying to seek meaning through others is bound to blow up in your face, and they'll be negatively affected when you don't end up completely fulfilled by them.

having children is not a bad thing, but having children to fulfill personal emptiness is dangerous. They're meant to be an extension of love that you carry within yourself, not a means to an end

 

[zdeweilx]

How to have a mentally ill child: Step One

Yeah that would be the downside. By doing that one would be repeating the same mistakes their parents made by having children for superficial reasons