what if a family member ctb'd or is actively suicidal?

[Crazy4u]

If someone I am close to were to let me know they feel like me, I would first and foremost turn them on to this site, it has kept me here, albeit temporarily, and helped me feel less like a nasty freak and just a really cool freak. Second, it would depend on the person and their reasonings, though I adamantly feel no person has the right to determine for another what is or is not too much to deal with, sometimes just asking/being asked can alter a thought pattern. Third, I would NOT try to talk them out of it, while letting them know I am here for them as best I can be for who I am, however they need me, however hard that may seem and unless I find I cannot, then I will walk away and allow them to be who they need without me, my love and thoughts all the way with them. Fourth - I would leave myself open to the possibility I may have to endure this existence so that another can fully understand they are loved, if it would take my staying here to prove my love for another so that person could feel worthy to stay, I would, for the right person.

this is a perfect answer. This website is a lifeline for many members and helped so many stay alive. The understanding of the suicidal person's feelings is so important. Noone appreciates stupid statements like things will get better, your problem is temporary,....etc. Asking about the reason is good if they are comfortable talking about it. Sometimes, the person wants to live and wants solutions.

 

[jcksonb22]

my brother ctb when i was 6, he was 21 by drinking anti freeze which eventually shutdown his kidneys. i was too young to really understand the situation. i can't imagine how painful of a death that was