What has this dark moment/ loneliness teach you?

[hellispink]

For me i have learned that i only have me and that's so sad

 

[nys]

It's taught me that I cant rely on others to care abt me and theyre not gonna care abt me if I don't benefit them in some way or give them something in return. There's no such thing as unconditional love. The only person I can rely on to help me is myself bc everyone only cares abt themselves and if someone helps me, it's not bc they care abt me but bc it would benefit them in some way

 

[Celerity]

Everything comes to an end and priorities change. What is important and appealing now may not be later.

 

[FuneralCry]

I prefer to be alone personally, and I would say that my loneliness is more of a feeling of emptiness that nothing could ever take away. All my suffering has taught me that for me life could never be worth living and that there is no point to any of this. Why live in misery when instead I could be peacefully not existing.

 

[Julgran]

For me i have learned that i only have me and that's so sad

There's probably some truth to the quote "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger", which may be applicable to us here as well - meaning that we are finding ourselves in circumstances that make us want to end our lives, but if we could overcome those circumstances, we may live for many years thereafter, since few things are this horrible - unless something even worse comes along.

 

[VirtualSnow]

Similar to what OP said, but, the only person that's going to be there when you need it, no matter the circumstances, is you, so put yourself before anyone else.

 

[Lost Magic]

It has taught me that people who have good relationships are so blessed. I don't enjoy being alone anymore.

 

[MindFrog]

No one is going to save you, you have to do that yourself.. It's a shame I don't think it's worth the effort anymore.

 

[Marine]

That I need to master proper alignment with what I want I think.

 

[Sibyl Vane]

There's no savior, and time waits for no one. The clock will keep ticking at the same pace whether you're ready for it or not.

 

[outatime_85]

Even while I'm trying to cope with the darkness of my denial, anger, bargains I made, depression, loneliness, etc., I'm still learning.

I am learning to simply accept my life and the way I lived it and how it will end.

I am learning to not fear my death.

I am learning that I'll never find peace.

I am learning that I could survive all this, but I'll have no happy ending since I've got got nowhere to go and nothing to go back to.

Every day, I'm closer to accepting who I am, why I am this way, and how I got here.

All that said, the teachings won't stop for me; they will get darker, meaner, etc., but they're going to only end once I push that last chip forward and say "no more."

Until that time, me and the darkness are each other's company.

 

[FlaxFlower]

I have learned mostly to have more patience with others. Someone didn't come to this or that gathering, I chime in that they're probs too depressed to come hang out and that's ok. The cashier wasn't chipper enough you say, they're probably sitting at rock bottom right now and don't owe you a show. So and so doesn't text you regularly? That's a bummer but maybe they feel like they can't? I know how much I can't do when I am at my lowest low, and so I respectfully don't expect everyone to be on their 100 all of the time. I give others an out because I always want an out!

 

[Un-]

I think a lot of people here learned have this, as well.. That happiness is a privilege. Love is a privilege. A good life is a privilege. Privileges that not everyone has the benefit of having. Simply put, not everyone can, and will make it out..

 

[whatevs]

It's taught me that I cant rely on others to care abt me and theyre not gonna care abt me if I don't benefit them in some way or give them something in return. There's no such thing as unconditional love. The only person I can rely on to help me is myself bc everyone only cares abt themselves and if someone helps me, it's not bc they care abt me but bc it would benefit them in some way

And we shouldn't be bitter about it because most of us are the same. It's just how life works apparently. Transactional.

 

[hungry_ghost]

You know, I probably wouldn't mind my loneliness if I just had my own space.

I've learned that I'm completely fine being on my own, being alone, and often prefer it.

It's just unbearable when you're lonely around people who suck the life out of you.

 

[Catloaf]

That I had always had the potential to become a strong person and not just when the shit hit the fan.

 

[rainwillneverstop]

to shut the fuck up.

 

[Suspect_Device]

I'm not lucky, I'm not special, and things can always get even worse than I thought they could.

 

[AphidAttraction]

I learned that not everyone is going to stick around in your life, even those that you love and felt like you were close

 

[akana]

that i'm not meant for emotions or pain like this and i deserve a better life

 

[Insomniac]

I have learn that my brain can never conceive of the unimaginable pain that's to come. I can never prepare for disaster because it's always a trillion times worse that what I was expecting.

 

[S like suicide]

Pain.pain.pain.
It's all i got

 

[L I F E T O L O S E]

to feel full of hate and contempt.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

Self reliance is the most important thing a human being can have.

 

[theboy]

Not always someone will come to save you

 

[eve2004]

No one gives a shit. When I CTB, people will be traumatized by death more than they will be sad about me.

 

[foreverfalling]

People don't care about each other. I've stared at the abyss too long and I'll never be one of them that can believe otherwise. Lost all hope for the future.

 

[narval]

In the end, i only can trust in myself. Which is ironic as i don't trust in myself

 

[hamvil]

I honestly never wanted to be alone or lonely. I tried so hard all my life to get people to like me but I always got the opposite results. In the best case people would tollerate me for a bit but then would stop involving me in anything. I see friends from university go together in trips without inviting me. I see friends getting married and not inviting me. They are right to do so. I am too obsessive in discussion, if religion or politics pops up I tend to be very opinionated, not something you want during a wedding. I do not know how to function in this society, but I really did not want to end up like this, I really wanted to have friends, to receive from time to time a text or a call.