Discussion What good things can happen after 30 years old anyway?

[JustBe]

I mean killing yourself in your early twenties to me is a terrible move, tons of things can happen between 20 and 30.

But when you're in your 30s... I mean what's the point?
You have your job, your traumas are deep inside you if you couldn't patch them, you life is pretty much set and your sole job is to keep on going and get small improvements.

So when you have a total shitty life, that it's unbearable, what's the point? Nothing will change, you'll just suffer more. Depending on your health it can keep on going for 30-40 years of endless suffering.

In my case, I'm 31, I'm stuck, both financially and in my professional career, I've been a burden to everyone I ever met, I had some fun for a year and a half in my twenties I'd say but my fun was detrimental to people I was with. I'm just a burden to everyone sooner or later. Moreover, I have unfixable back pain issues which make me as physically mobile as a retiree.

So yeah, while I'm serious about killing myself and figured out how I'll go with helium, I still consider the possibility that I might make an error of judgment.

Do you think life is settled at 30 years old? Do you know anyone around you who got to have a better life after 30 after being a worthless loser?

 

[Dot]

Thnk = individul jst lke n.e.thng els

In grnd schme of thngs 30 = stll v yng

Ppl lves stll fll aprt whn thy r 35 40+ & thy strt agn & stll hve gd lves l8tr on

Thre r ppl in thr 40s & 50s rght nw wh/ r jst b-ginnng recovry frm dp addictns or injry or losng ppl etc & thy stll mange 2 mve 4ward

Th/ numbr = nt rlly a rliable metrc fr whthr thngs wll gt bettr imo bcse n.e.thng cn happn @ n.e tme of lfe gd or bd

 

[JustBe]

Think: you're an individual just like anything else.

In the grand scheme of things, 30 is still very young.

People's lives still fall apart when they're 35, 40+, and they start again and still have good lives later on.

There are people in their 40s and 50s right now who are just beginning recovery from drug addictions, injury, losing people, etc., and they still manage to move forward.

The number [age] is not really a reliable metric for whether things will get better, in my opinion, because anything can happen at any time in life, good or bad.

I couldn't agree less.

Even when life sucks it can get exciting and thrilling when you're young, so many things to do, so many opportunities to have.

Expecting a worthless loser to move their ass and change their life at a moment when it's significantly harder [than to change your path at ~22-25yo] seems a bit delusional.
Life isn't a fairy tale. Free will is always limited to the fatalism induced in your life. Without going into details or politics, if you were born poor and didn't manage to climb the social ladder in your teens or as a young adult, you will be poor for life. And this principle extends to so many others.

Honestly, all the rehab stuff you're using as examples is hypocritical. In the end, their life is even more miserable than before. they're back at work, but it doesn't change anything. their life still sucks as much as before, but they can't cope, and furthermore who wants an ex addict who looks like shit anywhere else than at a low wage position, or cleaning toilets. Instead of drowning their sadness in drugs, they just puts up with it. I don't know which is worse, honestly.
But yes, "hooray, congrats, you managed to stop," okay, but what about the rest of your life, the one that made you sink into drugs? What's that like?

So yeah, accept that you're a loser and move on, life can keep on going. But do you accept it, or do you want to get the way out? Do you even want this life for your kids?

 

[Tired_birth_1967]

I'm 60 years old, and since I was 20, I've never seen a purpose in existing, and perhaps I'm only alive because of my survival instinct. Be that as it may, I've arrived here without purpose, and somehow, even unconsciously, I may have redefined what I once valued. I don't know the answer to your question, but if I'm here, I know it's possible to continue. Stability? From a financial point of view, yes, mainly because my lack of pleasure in living has made it easy. I lived a minimalist life out of pure apathy, aware that life is just a mechanical and indifferent process. What truly bothers me is living without purpose, waiting for what life will give me, just like everyone else: an unpredictable, random, and indifferent ending, just as life itself arose millions of years ago. In short, I don't have the answer to your question. I believe you'll have to decide for yourself.

 

[Dot]

I couldn't agree less.

Even when life sucks it can get exciting and thrilling when you're young, so many things to do, so many opportunities to have.

Expecting a worthless loser to move their ass and change their life at a moment when it's significantly harder [than to change your path at ~22-25yo] seems a bit delusional.
Life isn't a fairy tale. Free will is always limited to the fatalism induced in your life. Without going into details or politics, if you were born poor and didn't manage to climb the social ladder in your teens or as a young adult, you will be poor for life. And this principle extends to so many others.

Honestly, all the rehab stuff you're using as examples is hypocritical. In the end, their life is even more miserable than before. they're back at work, but it doesn't change anything. their life still sucks as much as before, but they can't cope, and furthermore who wants an ex addict who looks like shit anywhere else than at a low wage position, or cleaning toilets. Instead of drowning their sadness in drugs, they just puts up with it. I don't know which is worse, honestly.
But yes, "hooray, congrats, you managed to stop," okay, but what about the rest of your life, the one that made you sink into drugs? What's that like?

So yeah, accept that you're a loser and move on, life can keep on going. But do you accept it, or do you want to get the way out? Do you even want this life for your kids?

Nothng wrng wth dsgreeing - ur xperncs r goin2 shpe ur perceptn jst as slf hve

Slf usd addictn as xampl bcse slf knw multple ppl wh/ bcme sobr & thn mrried & hd famlis & wre v hppy whn slf lst sw thm

Slf knw ppl wh/ dvorcd in thr 40s & startd agn & r hppy

Obv tht = nt goin2 b th/ cse fr evry1 - sme ppl r goin2 spirl & strggle & thngs mght nt gt bettr

Am jst sayng tht jst bcse thngs r nt rght whn r 30 ds nt mn tht lfe hs 2 b ovr fr evry1 - = goin2 b dffrnt fr dffrnt ppl & dffrnt stuatns whch affct thm jst as mch if nt mre thn ag ds - ur xperncs r ur own

Slf lfe = basclly ovr & am trappd in st8 of purgtry bcse of fear of ctb - bt hw old slf am = prbbly only 30% factr in tht