im a bisexual woman. i'm attracted to all types of people physically, i would say personality and vibes are more important. anyone who seems high maintenance (man or woman) is a no from me.
in modern dating there seems to be a huge emphasis on not compromising on what your "ideal" relationship or person should look like, and not "settling". i think this was a good sentiment for women especially to hear because historically women had very little say in who they had to marry and what kind of life they were going to live after they got married. this is still the case in a lot of cultures where the wife/woman is just expected to put her needs and preferences aside to satisfy those of her husband and family.
however, i think this can be a dangerously immature mindset since, if you look at people in happy relationships, they might vary in how similar they are to each other, how compatible they seem on paper, etc, but one thing that is always true is that they are willing to compromise for each other.
the my-way-or-the-highway attitude is so easily recognizable and instantly offputting.