Discussion What % do you consider yourself of your cisgender?

[Forever Sleep]

Richard O'Brien, the creator of 'The Rocky Horror Show' has said in interviews that he considers himself 70% man and 30% woman.

Obviously, I know we have a number of trans members in the community so, obviously ignore the thread if it's too triggering.

I'm curious though- how people view themselves. I have maybe a nuanced experience of it but then, I suppose all our experiences are individual and nuanced. But, I see biological gender and cultural gender as separate things.

I'm biologically female and straight. Biologically speaking, while I don't like my actual body for how fat and unfit I've let it become, plus, I f*cking hate periods, I have no deep hatred of the female form. I'd like to be male in order to find it easier to be stronger but, asides from appreciating the male form in a fanciable way, I have no great desire to have it personally. Especially not the sexual organs. I've never had penis envy. Lol. So- bare basics, I identify strongly as biologically female- maybe 95%.

In some ways, I also have certain character traits (probably genetically from my Mum) that are considered more feminine.

Stereotypically though- what is expected in terms of gender roles, clothing, interests, I'm far more male. I've always hated girly things. I then grew to resent the pressure to look sexy to attract men. I found most of the clothing, shoes, make up, undearwear hugely restrictive and uncomfortable. So, asides from a brief fling with it to try and attract a guy I was limerent on, I largely rejected all of that. I was as a child and continue to be, quite a tom boy. So, culturally speaking, I feel like I'm maybe more 50, 50% each gender when it comes to cultural gender.

How about you, how do you experience it? I wonder if there are people who feel they are all man or all woman through and through. I wonder if they are happier.

I suppose my slight gender blur has caused discomfort at times. People mistaking me for a guy or, the usual teasing at school. I'm grateful I was at least allowed to be my own self growing up though. I was allowed 'boys toys' for instance. Kind of surprising in a way, because in other ways, my upbringing was quite strict and restrictive. I was quite a disappointment to my family that I wasn't more girly but overall, they accepted it/ me.

What are your views? Do you suppose we are largely taught to be the cultural genders we are? Were you taught to like boys or girls things or, given the freedom to choose?

One thing I am grateful of is to at least be living now. Obviously, it's still not exactly great. People still don't have the complete freedom to be who they feel they are but, it's not as restrictive as it was I suppose. My Grandma told me that one of their neighbours caused a stir when they first moved in because she wore trousers instead of skirts. I think I would have got on well with her.

 

[Pluto]

 

[Ch4in3dcr0w]

i actually feel like its really hard to tell i would tell im 60% men 40% women. I feel like in the most importnant things that for me define myself and what gender i feel myself in im a men but on alot of things i like "femine" things. I like cute things, i prefer to play female characters in game and stuff like that and im genrally really femine in things, but i still never had any gender dysphoria and feel like a "men" whatever that means. It might be just from my age and the enviorment i grew up and media i consumed but i feel more femine than other men my age.
I guess u are more manly than me hehe XD
Much love

 

[avalokitesvara]

Gender is a system of power and control. I wish it was possible to completely opt out of it. However the long history of humanity will always mean my sexed body is "read" as its corresponding "gender" no matter how I act, what I wear, even if I altered the appearance of my 2ndary sex characteristics with surgery. I used to be kind of into thinking about trans and gender stuff and if I was younger I think I'd have probably ended up identifying as non-binary. But as it is I just accept that my body has an indelible sex and that that means people have innate preconceptions about the kind of person I am. Internally I just don't think or have any feelings about gender. It's boring.

 

[YarXn]

Richard O'Brien, the creator of 'The Rocky Horror Show' has said in interviews that he considers himself 70% man and 30% woman.

Obviously, I know we have a number of trans members in the community so, obviously ignore the thread if it's too triggering.

I'm curious though- how people view themselves. I have maybe a nuanced experience of it but then, I suppose all our experiences are individual and nuanced. But, I see biological gender and cultural gender as separate things.

I'm biologically female and straight. Biologically speaking, while I don't like my actual body for how fat and unfit I've let it become, plus, I f*cking hate periods, I have no deep hatred of the female form. I'd like to be male in order to find it easier to be stronger but, asides from appreciating the male form in a fanciable way, I have no great desire to have it personally. Especially not the sexual organs. I've never had penis envy. Lol. So- bare basics, I identify strongly as biologically female- maybe 95%.

In some ways, I also have certain character traits (probably genetically from my Mum) that are considered more feminine.

Stereotypically though- what is expected in terms of gender roles, clothing, interests, I'm far more male. I've always hated girly things. I then grew to resent the pressure to look sexy to attract men. I found most of the clothing, shoes, make up, undearwear hugely restrictive and uncomfortable. So, asides from a brief fling with it to try and attract a guy I was limerent on, I largely rejected all of that. I was as a child and continue to be, quite a tom boy. So, culturally speaking, I feel like I'm maybe more 50, 50% each gender when it comes to cultural gender.

How about you, how do you experience it? I wonder if there are people who feel they are all man or all woman through and through. I wonder if they are happier.

I suppose my slight gender blur has caused discomfort at times. People mistaking me for a guy or, the usual teasing at school. I'm grateful I was at least allowed to be my own self growing up though. I was allowed 'boys toys' for instance. Kind of surprising in a way, because in other ways, my upbringing was quite strict and restrictive. I was quite a disappointment to my family that I wasn't more girly but overall, they accepted it/ me.

What are your views? Do you suppose we are largely taught to be the cultural genders we are? Were you taught to like boys or girls things or, given the freedom to choose?

One thing I am grateful of is to at least be living now. Obviously, it's still not exactly great. People still don't have the complete freedom to be who they feel they are but, it's not as restrictive as it was I suppose. My Grandma told me that one of their neighbours caused a stir when they first moved in because she wore trousers instead of skirts. I think I would have got on well with her.

100% male
100% masculine gender expression
I'm cis

 

[a-fond-farewell]

i see myself as completely neutral. i suppose that's not surprising considering my ideal existence would just to be an incorporeal, silent spectator for eternity.

the percentages are interesting to think about. for my case, i'd add a third percentage for neutrality or absence because i'm not always feeling masculine or feminine. a lot of it is just empty space. and the percentages would fluctuate over time, tending towards a more a feminine neutral state. i don't like to think about my masculinity due to my dysphoria, but if I were this hypothetical perfectly neutral being, i'd definitely feel better about expressing that side a little, but it would still be consistently under 20%. i'm not completely against my own masculinity, but it's the fact that i'm forced to be this way by my body whether i like it or not that bothers me the most. i don't want body hair, i don't want a deep voice, i don't want my face and shape to look like this. in an ideal world, i'd be perfectly androgynous human with no genitals nor sexuality so that I can choose what i want to be. if I want to present femininely, i'd be free to do that.

 

[TBONTB]

I've never questioned my gender identity (female). However i have some traits that are more traditionally considered male (analytical, not emotional).

I've always just thought that calling those traits male is a problem with societal ideas of gender, rather than truly thinking they are male traits.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

Just plain regular male. I wish I had stronger bones and a wider jaw and shoulders.

 

[Cauliflour]

I'm very female, I've been certain ever since I found out I look hot in a suit. I don't have a specific spot on the good ol' lesbian spectrum though 'cause I like to flip flop like I like wearing suits but I also like wearing poofy dresses. I like being straightforward in the gender aspect at least. Suppose it does make life easier but I wouldn't know as I have nothing to compare to as cisgender is the norm. Your percentage system doesn't seem to have anything arbitrary and seems to be solely based of vibes which makes me wonder how sexuality affects this system as the 2 aren't dependent on each-other but the 2 do influence each-other.

 

[LigottiIsRight]

I see myself as agender. Identifying as male or female sound equally alienating.

 

[CatLvr]

Bless you, my child. You NEVER disappoint!

 

[Amviii]

Richard O'Brien, the creator of 'The Rocky Horror Show' has said in interviews that he considers himself 70% man and 30% woman.

Obviously, I know we have a number of trans members in the community so, obviously ignore the thread if it's too triggering.

I'm curious though- how people view themselves. I have maybe a nuanced experience of it but then, I suppose all our experiences are individual and nuanced. But, I see biological gender and cultural gender as separate things.

I'm biologically female and straight. Biologically speaking, while I don't like my actual body for how fat and unfit I've let it become, plus, I f*cking hate periods, I have no deep hatred of the female form. I'd like to be male in order to find it easier to be stronger but, asides from appreciating the male form in a fanciable way, I have no great desire to have it personally. Especially not the sexual organs. I've never had penis envy. Lol. So- bare basics, I identify strongly as biologically female- maybe 95%.

In some ways, I also have certain character traits (probably genetically from my Mum) that are considered more feminine.

Stereotypically though- what is expected in terms of gender roles, clothing, interests, I'm far more male. I've always hated girly things. I then grew to resent the pressure to look sexy to attract men. I found most of the clothing, shoes, make up, undearwear hugely restrictive and uncomfortable. So, asides from a brief fling with it to try and attract a guy I was limerent on, I largely rejected all of that. I was as a child and continue to be, quite a tom boy. So, culturally speaking, I feel like I'm maybe more 50, 50% each gender when it comes to cultural gender.

How about you, how do you experience it? I wonder if there are people who feel they are all man or all woman through and through. I wonder if they are happier.

I suppose my slight gender blur has caused discomfort at times. People mistaking me for a guy or, the usual teasing at school. I'm grateful I was at least allowed to be my own self growing up though. I was allowed 'boys toys' for instance. Kind of surprising in a way, because in other ways, my upbringing was quite strict and restrictive. I was quite a disappointment to my family that I wasn't more girly but overall, they accepted it/ me.

What are your views? Do you suppose we are largely taught to be the cultural genders we are? Were you taught to like boys or girls things or, given the freedom to choose?

One thing I am grateful of is to at least be living now. Obviously, it's still not exactly great. People still don't have the complete freedom to be who they feel they are but, it's not as restrictive as it was I suppose. My Grandma told me that one of their neighbours caused a stir when they first moved in because she wore trousers instead of skirts. I think I would have got on well with her.

I honestly don't feel much of anything about my gender.

Biologically I am a woman. Internally I am just a person. I do not "feel like a gender" as I cannot name any way to feel like a gender that would not be just a stereotype or aesthetic.

I have some traditionally female traits, some traditionally male traits. I dress somewhere in the middle.

I think the whole idea of a gender "identity" is largely something created by society.

 

[Satori Komeiji]

Maybe 50/50? Liking computers the way I do is mostly a masculine thing now. Back in the early days of computing though (before the 1990s, roughly) women were pioneers in the industry and made substantial contributions. Growing up I was absolutely a weird girl who had no clue how or why my peers were interested in certain things. Never been interested in boys or clothing or shopping or all those other traditionally girly things. I'm quite self conscious of my body though. I've always worn loose and comfy clothes. Also, gender roles are dumb and I have always had that opinion even when I was a child...

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I've never felt even remotely female. Maybe in terms of how I communicate and how expressive I am but beyond that I've never had so much as a moment of dysphoria or anything. When Shania Twain sings "man, I feel like a woman" I can't relate at all, sadly.

 

[Namelesa]

As a trans girl, I don't feel at all cusgender or like a male at all even if some traits and interests could be considered "masculine" like game development. And if we are saying about my body, I have of course went onto hrt to feminize my body which has made me feel much less dysphoric about it and made me more comfortable and happy with it. Tho I do feel comfortable with a penis and don't see that as being a exclusively a male thing really. I however didn't feel comfortable with my testicles which is why i got surgery to remove them. I feel more like a girl with how i dress, the personality traits i have and with other interests and likes. Some percentage part of me tho doesn't feel like a girl but more non-binary so I sometimes say i identify as a demi-girl or enbygirl.

 

[Scythe]

This is an interesting concept, especially one that comes from cis ppl. I heard someone mention cis ppl who feel dysphoric but don't actually feel they want to transition. Nice to see it brought up.
I'm 100% male, I'm also trans, that probably affects things a bit.

 

[oatmeal.n]

Richard O'Brien, the creator of 'The Rocky Horror Show' has said in interviews that he considers himself 70% man and 30% woman.

Obviously, I know we have a number of trans members in the community so, obviously ignore the thread if it's too triggering.

I'm curious though- how people view themselves. I have maybe a nuanced experience of it but then, I suppose all our experiences are individual and nuanced. But, I see biological gender and cultural gender as separate things.

I'm biologically female and straight. Biologically speaking, while I don't like my actual body for how fat and unfit I've let it become, plus, I f*cking hate periods, I have no deep hatred of the female form. I'd like to be male in order to find it easier to be stronger but, asides from appreciating the male form in a fanciable way, I have no great desire to have it personally. Especially not the sexual organs. I've never had penis envy. Lol. So- bare basics, I identify strongly as biologically female- maybe 95%.

In some ways, I also have certain character traits (probably genetically from my Mum) that are considered more feminine.

Stereotypically though- what is expected in terms of gender roles, clothing, interests, I'm far more male. I've always hated girly things. I then grew to resent the pressure to look sexy to attract men. I found most of the clothing, shoes, make up, undearwear hugely restrictive and uncomfortable. So, asides from a brief fling with it to try and attract a guy I was limerent on, I largely rejected all of that. I was as a child and continue to be, quite a tom boy. So, culturally speaking, I feel like I'm maybe more 50, 50% each gender when it comes to cultural gender.

How about you, how do you experience it? I wonder if there are people who feel they are all man or all woman through and through. I wonder if they are happier.

I suppose my slight gender blur has caused discomfort at times. People mistaking me for a guy or, the usual teasing at school. I'm grateful I was at least allowed to be my own self growing up though. I was allowed 'boys toys' for instance. Kind of surprising in a way, because in other ways, my upbringing was quite strict and restrictive. I was quite a disappointment to my family that I wasn't more girly but overall, they accepted it/ me.

What are your views? Do you suppose we are largely taught to be the cultural genders we are? Were you taught to like boys or girls things or, given the freedom to choose?

One thing I am grateful of is to at least be living now. Obviously, it's still not exactly great. People still don't have the complete freedom to be who they feel they are but, it's not as restrictive as it was I suppose. My Grandma told me that one of their neighbours caused a stir when they first moved in because she wore trousers instead of skirts. I think I would have got on well with her.

this post is really interesting, i like it.

personally i would say im 70% male, 30% female. i dont feel a strong preference towards either sex, but if i had the chance to choose before i was born, id prefer to be a man. culturally though, ive had a fulfilling experience being a female, and i don't think id be where i am today if i was born male. stylistically, 60% female, 40% male. i don't really associate sex with clothing, usually i just wear plain sweaters and jewelry. i don't think sweaters are primarily a female associated clothing item, but i also don't see many men in my area wearing sweaters. on another note, i would definitely feel much less dysphoria with a flat chest.

 

[SchizoGymnast]

Richard O'Brien, the creator of 'The Rocky Horror Show' has said in interviews that he considers himself 70% man and 30% woman.

Obviously, I know we have a number of trans members in the community so, obviously ignore the thread if it's too triggering.

I'm curious though- how people view themselves. I have maybe a nuanced experience of it but then, I suppose all our experiences are individual and nuanced. But, I see biological gender and cultural gender as separate things.

I'm biologically female and straight. Biologically speaking, while I don't like my actual body for how fat and unfit I've let it become, plus, I f*cking hate periods, I have no deep hatred of the female form. I'd like to be male in order to find it easier to be stronger but, asides from appreciating the male form in a fanciable way, I have no great desire to have it personally. Especially not the sexual organs. I've never had penis envy. Lol. So- bare basics, I identify strongly as biologically female- maybe 95%.

In some ways, I also have certain character traits (probably genetically from my Mum) that are considered more feminine.

Stereotypically though- what is expected in terms of gender roles, clothing, interests, I'm far more male. I've always hated girly things. I then grew to resent the pressure to look sexy to attract men. I found most of the clothing, shoes, make up, undearwear hugely restrictive and uncomfortable. So, asides from a brief fling with it to try and attract a guy I was limerent on, I largely rejected all of that. I was as a child and continue to be, quite a tom boy. So, culturally speaking, I feel like I'm maybe more 50, 50% each gender when it comes to cultural gender.

How about you, how do you experience it? I wonder if there are people who feel they are all man or all woman through and through. I wonder if they are happier.

I suppose my slight gender blur has caused discomfort at times. People mistaking me for a guy or, the usual teasing at school. I'm grateful I was at least allowed to be my own self growing up though. I was allowed 'boys toys' for instance. Kind of surprising in a way, because in other ways, my upbringing was quite strict and restrictive. I was quite a disappointment to my family that I wasn't more girly but overall, they accepted it/ me.

What are your views? Do you suppose we are largely taught to be the cultural genders we are? Were you taught to like boys or girls things or, given the freedom to choose?

One thing I am grateful of is to at least be living now. Obviously, it's still not exactly great. People still don't have the complete freedom to be who they feel they are but, it's not as restrictive as it was I suppose. My Grandma told me that one of their neighbours caused a stir when they first moved in because she wore trousers instead of skirts. I think I would have got on well with her.

I'm biologically female but I have a variety of gender presentations. I don't like gender stereotypes being forced on me, and I've had body/gender dysphoria since I was very young, to the point of self-harm.

I've never questioned my gender identity (female). However i have some traits that are more traditionally considered male (analytical, not emotional).

I've always just thought that calling those traits male is a problem with societal ideas of gender, rather than truly thinking they are male traits.

I'm not trying to pick on you here, but the idea that men are "not emotional" doesn't make sense to me. Men have no problem feeling and expressing anger and jealousy.

 

[Forveleth]

To me, gender is nothing more than a social construct meant to pigeonhole people into expected roles based on biological sex, something completely unrelated and irrelevant. I identify as female, but that is based on biology. I refuse to apply the concept of gender to myself.

 

[UtopianSoliloquies]

I would say I'm something like 51% man, 49% not man (could be woman or otherwise). I'm AMAB and identify as such, but I've had multiple people tell me jokingly that I must be trans, though their insistence and consistency in saying so makes me think they're not entirely unserious. I also remember these two trans classmates in my first year of uni that I worked with throughout the semester telling me that they think I could be an egg. I'm also quite curious about understanding trans people's lived experience (hopefully more as an ally rather than being creepy or patronizing). On the one hand, I am very aware of how I fit every egg_irl meme about looking up MTF HRT regimens while insisting that I'm cis. Yet, to me, the question isn't really about that anymore. It doesn't bother me, whether I'm cis or trans or somewhere in between depending on some fixed definition. Even if hypothetically I would be happier presenting feminine, I just don't feel the need to do so that I imagine others do. I'm happy presenting masc the way I do, and I'm mostly satisfied with my body as well, though having a slightly more sculpted figure couldn't hurt .I just think about how I'm already way past puberty and how many years it would take to appear in a way I would be satisified with and how much effort it would probably take for all that voice training only to be unsure of how my friends might react and I think "nah, I'm good".

 

[Ashu]

100% male
100% masculine gender expression
I'm cis

Me too.

We are what we are, all of us.

 

[Emillss]

Gender's always been pretty confusing for me because I feel pretty ambivalent about it. I'm biologically male, but I don't really have or relate to any traditionally "masculine" traits, and I don't exactly look or dress the part either. I'm uncomfortable with what I have down there, but I doubt I'd feel any better with the opposite. Pronouns don't bother me much, though I do have occasional preferences. IMO gender's just a label used for conveniency

 

[Akashaaa]

I never had any form of dysphoria, but I am an autogynephile.
I never had any form of dysphoria, but I am an autogynephile.

 

[FoxSauce]

Honeslty im a 100 woman

 

[fedup1982]

If you don't mind me saying so, if I had to guess your sex from your post ignoring explicit statements and just from style, I'd have been inclined to say you were male, is that what youd expect? Just curious.

I feel like I'm 90% cis male. I do feel like I might have leaned towards being even more feminine if it had been more socially acceptable.

I'm straight, but I can tell when a man is beautiful or attractive vaguel accurately, although strangely my gf and I have differing views quite often.

I remember one of my earliest memories: my parents asked me what kind of swimming costume a wanted them to buy me for my first one. I replied something like "the whole body type" so they corrected me and told me it was only for girls. That is both my first and clearest realisation that I dont entirely identify as male.

Since then, (please forgive any stereotyping), I've realised I have some other feminine traits. I'm left leaning politically, I have a slightly feminine body language, I have a unisexual name, and I'm not into sports at all, or competitive things (unless I'm such a clear winner that it doesn't count as competitive!)

 

[OvercastingClouds]

Hmm it's shifted from when I was younger. I used to definitely be considered "cis", 100% woman. As i got older it kinda shifted. My voice used to be mistaken for a guy's whenever I spoke online in party chats, I used to play it off cause I thought it was funny. Also I see to okay online games 'n stuff with guys, I didn't have any woman friends. That may have started shifting my identity.
Meeting new people anonymously and them not being able to tell what I am I just say call me whatever, and they call me they/them pronouns and I don't say anything against it.

I wouldn't say I'm nonbinary per se. I guess I'm technically more on the feminine side? But I guess I have masculine traits as well personality wise. I'd say I'm pretty neutral. Idk what to call myself. I can click with anyone regardless of gender. I don't care what people refer me as, though irl I'd be considered a woman. Maybe I could say 60% female and 40% male?

I do whatever! I'm me! Idc much about how I'm perceived gender wise