Discussion What did someone say that offended you so badly you couldn’t process it until years later?

[idelttoilfsadness21]

For me, it's being guilt tripped into believing I should be a girly girl. I am a DID personality, but I know for a fact this hit home for me and couldn't wrap around my identity for years until I realized that I was someone's persona from trauma when they wanted to be girly, and she never could be that. I, for once, didnt feel confident enough - despite what was much easier for me with the stuff she was forced to live with - because I had felt or believed I had to date and that deeply offended me without ever realizing I don't care to change myself further for such men and their stupid ego when I offended them and was made to be treated as trash for my behavior.

My host was suffering anyways and would be guilt tripped much later and wondered now how things would've turned worse for me that it still bothers me, as I feel what she goes through.

 

[Grumpy Frog]

For me it was my best friend in high school agreeing with my shitty ex boyfriend and said "maybe you are an attention whore". I forgot the situation but it hurt that someone so close to me could say that to me. Maybe I was/am an attention whore but there are nice ways to say that if they find a problem with it.

Also, this wasn't said but when I was a kid a "friend" choked me on the playground while a recess monitor watched. I thought it was funny in the moment because I was a kid and we were friends. I didn't realize how fucked up that was, she was threatening my life while an adult just watched and said nothing.