Discussion Were your "cries out for help" ignored by everyone?

[Sad_Autistic_boy_101]

Does anyone else feel like their "Cry out of help" were ignored by everyone?

I feel like I have done everything suggested by mental health campaigns, I've spoken to every professionals possible such as doctors, social workers and psychiatrists. I've told my therapist how i'm really feeling and how CTB feels like the only way out of my life. I've tried suicide crisis text lines in the past who were useless and just repeat the same phrase over and over again. But still no one actually helps or validates. I just feel so alone. I don't see a way that my life can improve anymore, especially as in June the last tiny bit of support I have is being taken away and I'm left with nothing. This helps me to actually confirm that CTB is the right choice for me. I've written my notes but the method is still confusing. I have stolen a bag that says high risk of suffocation so I'm wondering if this will work. . I'm going on holiday first before I attempt, just listening to the waves and getting drunk. It will be the first proper time this year of getting away from the house as I'm housebound. I feel for once that I'm at peace with death and the countdown to it will feel like Christmas day.

 

[Neon Grave]

I can empathize with this. I'm sorry that the people in your life failed you when you made clear attempts to express your feelings and concerns. I hope that you find peace whether that is in life or death.

I would highly encourage you to utilize the resources here and more extensively research what method suits your needs and accessibility best, should you choose to go that route. Often things will warn "suffocation" or "poison" risk for the sake of protection from lawsuits, but in reality they're usually extremely difficult or painful to use as a method for CTB.

 

[Ichigo]

Does anyone else feel like their "Cry out of help" were ignored by everyone?

I feel like I have done everything suggested by mental health campaigns, I've spoken to every professionals possible such as doctors, social workers and psychiatrists. I've told my therapist how i'm really feeling and how CTB feels like the only way out of my life. I've tried suicide crisis text lines in the past who were useless and just repeat the same phrase over and over again. But still no one actually helps or validates. I just feel so alone. I don't see a way that my life can improve anymore, especially as in June the last tiny bit of support I have is being taken away and I'm left with nothing. This helps me to actually confirm that CTB is the right choice for me. I've written my notes but the method is still confusing. I have stolen a bag that says high risk of suffocation so I'm wondering if this will work. . I'm going on holiday first before I attempt, just listening to the waves and getting drunk. It will be the first proper time this year of getting away from the house as I'm housebound. I feel for once that I'm at peace with death and the countdown to it will feel like Christmas day.

Have you tried seeking supporr online? Maybe that would help.. Sometimes people online are way more easier to speak to than some mental health doctor.
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Does anyone else feel like their "Cry out of help" were ignored by everyone?

I feel like I have done everything suggested by mental health campaigns, I've spoken to every professionals possible such as doctors, social workers and psychiatrists. I've told my therapist how i'm really feeling and how CTB feels like the only way out of my life. I've tried suicide crisis text lines in the past who were useless and just repeat the same phrase over and over again. But still no one actually helps or validates. I just feel so alone. I don't see a way that my life can improve anymore, especially as in June the last tiny bit of support I have is being taken away and I'm left with nothing. This helps me to actually confirm that CTB is the right choice for me. I've written my notes but the method is still confusing. I have stolen a bag that says high risk of suffocation so I'm wondering if this will work. . I'm going on holiday first before I attempt, just listening to the waves and getting drunk. It will be the first proper time this year of getting away from the house as I'm housebound. I feel for once that I'm at peace with death and the countdown to it will feel like Christmas day.

And if you have supportive parents you could try speaking to them about it. .but i know you might not...have them.
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Does anyone else feel like their "Cry out of help" were ignored by everyone?

I feel like I have done everything suggested by mental health campaigns, I've spoken to every professionals possible such as doctors, social workers and psychiatrists. I've told my therapist how i'm really feeling and how CTB feels like the only way out of my life. I've tried suicide crisis text lines in the past who were useless and just repeat the same phrase over and over again. But still no one actually helps or validates. I just feel so alone. I don't see a way that my life can improve anymore, especially as in June the last tiny bit of support I have is being taken away and I'm left with nothing. This helps me to actually confirm that CTB is the right choice for me. I've written my notes but the method is still confusing. I have stolen a bag that says high risk of suffocation so I'm wondering if this will work. . I'm going on holiday first before I attempt, just listening to the waves and getting drunk. It will be the first proper time this year of getting away from the house as I'm housebound. I feel for once that I'm at peace with death and the countdown to it will feel like Christmas day.

And if you have supportive parents you could try speaking to them about it. .but i know you might not...have them.
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Does anyone else feel like their "Cry out of help" were ignored by everyone?

I feel like I have done everything suggested by mental health campaigns, I've spoken to every professionals possible such as doctors, social workers and psychiatrists. I've told my therapist how i'm really feeling and how CTB feels like the only way out of my life. I've tried suicide crisis text lines in the past who were useless and just repeat the same phrase over and over again. But still no one actually helps or validates. I just feel so alone. I don't see a way that my life can improve anymore, especially as in June the last tiny bit of support I have is being taken away and I'm left with nothing. This helps me to actually confirm that CTB is the right choice for me. I've written my notes but the method is still confusing. I have stolen a bag that says high risk of suffocation so I'm wondering if this will work. . I'm going on holiday first before I attempt, just listening to the waves and getting drunk. It will be the first proper time this year of getting away from the house as I'm housebound. I feel for once that I'm at peace with death and the countdown to it will feel like Christmas day.

And if you have supportive parents you could try speaking to them about it. .but i know you might not...have them.

 

[TheUnkn0wn]

A couple years back when I hit the absolute lowest one could go, I begged for help from my doctor, hospital, psychologist, and hotlines. I realized I was on my own at that point as not once was I taken seriously. At that point CBT was the only eay out...so I made a plan, shared it with authorities the night prior...still no help from the system...I went missing the next morning and tried to CBT.

My friends/coworkers no longer interact with me, and based on how Ive been treated by the system...it appears i now have no support system apart from this forum.

I understand exactly how you feel OP.

 

[golta]

My cry for help were too ignored. Now, I don't want help and I don't want to anybody to give their opinion

 

[JKFleck]

"
Hi, I know I breached your boundary before and I'm doing it again and I'm sorry. This is the last thing I want to do to you again I completely understand if you're unable or unwilling to help, and I respect your decision either way. I'm willing to change and comply to your old and new (if any) boundaries you set and from your perspective you must be deeply hurt so much to do something against your will out of necessity when I started hurting both of us. It's on me and I'm responsible for starting therapy too late after our relationship already shattered.

I'm in a very serious situation now and I don't have much time left due to a mental crisis that only exacerbates when I talk to any other person. You're the only person I feel safe with, and I really need your support right now, I love you. Can we please talk?"

I sent this to my only friend and got blocked without a response

 

[Leiden]

I've reached out but in my case there's absolutely nothing anyone can do unless they want to blow my head off. Sorry that you are suffering and that you feel so alone. I wish you the best.

 

[Lookingtoflyfree]

'Cry for help ignored' assumes there's anyone around to listen. There are literally about 3 people - family essentialy. No friends. Even if I said something to any of the acquaintances (friends online, a few friends I've met in person) they really know so little about me I doubt they would be able to do anything. They barely know where I live, don't know the name of family members. People use you and throw you away like garbage.

I'm already a ghost. I don't need a cry for help because nobody will hear it. They don't interact with me when I'm alive, so they won't notice.

I have a coworker I've known for a few years where we chatted a lot online and now the 'friendship' consists of her sending memes. I'll say 'hey do you want to catch up on Zoom' and her response is to send me another meme. Would she notice if I deleted all my accounts? Probably not. Would she actually care? Nope. I don't care if she hurts if she found out. They didn't care when I was alive, fuck 'em when I'm dead. I can't wait to be free of suffering.

 

[dinosavr]

That's really sad and unfair, I'm sorry :(
In my experience what's the worst is maybe not lack of reaction but the fact that anyone who actually cares, forgets about it. And I get it, everyone is struggling and they have their own problems to deal with. And I'd be 100% fine with that if they didn't force us to stay here.

 

[thealteredmind]

no, never ignored. it's just that the "help" doesn't help.

 

[Heartaches]

The high school counselor literally ignored me when I told her I was suicidal and had been going through so much in my absence. She was one of the few options I had for help and her not taking my suicidal ideation seriously, while she expected me to do the ridiculous amounts of homework I had piled up like nothing, hurt me. It's one of the reasons I ended up dropping out.

At the same time, my then therapist dismissed my gender dysphoria and told me I just had self image and weight issues. I was starting to crack my egg as a trans person and her ignorance made me stay in the closet for a long time. She sent me a message later asking me how I was doing, and kindly, I told her to fuck off and blocked her. I don't regret it, looking back, she hurt me so much with her unprofessional practices.

Those aren't the only times, but they were the ones that stuck with me the most.

I'm sorry to hear your cries for help were ignored, the world is so cruel without a reason. Hope you can find peace, whatever you decide to do. Going to the beach and listening to the wave sounds nice, I hate the sun but I love the waves and the seashells, my favorite pastime was to look for them.

 

[Alex Fermentopathy]

My mother gives me money if I don't have enough for food or meds. But there are a rare disease center in my city and they are not interested to research adult cases even if I suggest to pay for it.

 

[Z-A]

I don't really talk about my problems with other people unless they have the actual ability to help me. Otherwise I'll only make them worry which is unnecessary. I can live with my feelings alone. I know some can't and of course anyone who's close to you, a tight hug and support is sometimes needed ;).

 

[TomatoSandwich]

I feel ya, My cries for help were ignored too, my therapist and psychiatrist know that I'm suicidal but they say that they can do nothing for me (of course they can, they can call the hospital) and suicide hotlines do nothing but repeat the same thing over and over, I already have like 10 safety plans from my chats with 988

 

[etrnllxid]

Yeah, I was wearing the same three outfits I had for school and got comments on my progressively skinner body. I remember I had a social worker come into my class to observe me and said my eyes were red, I was dreading every day because it just kept getting worse.

When I had bruises no one would say anything

 

[Chr0nicAnhedonic]

I wouldn't say they were ignored so much as they were shoved aside. Any time I would reach out, I'd get the same platitudes and canned responses, and then have whatever we were talking about be about them instead. If I had a dollar for every time I heard some variation on "you should talk to a therapist about this", I'd be on the top 10 list of wealthiest people on the planet (as I'm sure many other users here would be as well). Even when I was in therapy, what I was talking about wasn't really being listened to, so much as it was the therapist trying to find the right cookie-cutter response/coping mechanism/etc that best suited whatever I said I was struggling with.

The worst came from when I tried to ask for help from my mom. I was about to lose my job, had just ended my friendship with my last remaining IRL friend, and needed to move out from the apartment we both rented. I relayed to her everything I was feeling: how isolated and depressed I was, how burnt out I was from working and having to work for a living, how my autism affected my quality of life, everything. This was a big fucking mistake. She let me move back in on the condition that I still get a job and move out in a year or less, but then dismissed and belittled me for what I was feeling, because according to her I just use my autism as an excuse to be lazy. To her, my depression was the issue and not my autism, and demanded I return to therapy and get medicated again (even though that didn't work the last dozen times we tried). She was also upset that I suggested I experience burnout more frequently and more severely than she does, because she has real problems and I simply just don't try hard enough.

So, I'm done reaching out. I'm done crying for help. If help really existed, I would have gotten it a long time ago. I'll just keep on pretending that everything is fine until I disappear. I was always alone anyway, and I'm better off that way.

 

[Oathkeeper]

I can only speak from the opposite end; my loved ones have come to answer the call every time, and it's still not enough to fill the void in my heart. I don't know if that's worse than nobody showing up or not.

 

[3/4Dead]

I don't think mine were ignored, I mostly think that there's just nothing to be done and if there is nobody knows what to do. Yeah I wanna help but damn I don't know how, but you know who should ____ ; and then that continues forever.

 

[lizzywizzy09]

I was always told to "stop being retarded". *Shrugs*

 

[Cinnamorolls]

There's been 2 people in life who I've told about being suicidal, back when I was in my teens. One was my mom, who proceeded to tell me I should go ahead and do it (and continued to repeat this over and over for many years). The other was an acquaintance from school whose father was a police officer and had a gun at home. I said something like she should take her dad's gun and give it to me so I can kill myself, and her response was something like "lol no, that's illegal and I wouldn't wanna get in trouble." Neither person showed any empathy or concern. What a horrible feeling to admit such a thing only for no one to care... so I just stopped trying to tell anyone from then on.

Can't talk about it with any mental health professionals either as my state has a law where if you admit to having even the vaguest suicidal thoughts, cops will be called to your home to arrest you and force you to go to a psych hospital, where they will take away all your possessions including your phone and keep you imprisoned in a place with no doors or privacy - not even the bathrooms - for at least 72 hours, if not longer. It's absolutely barbaric and prevents many people from getting the help they actually need.

Enjoy your vacation hun and make whatever decision is right for you. I just want to say it is possible to survive without any support system... I have no family, friends, or partner myself and still chugging along, but can't claim that it's an enjoyable existence either.

 

[Abyssal]

No, my cries for help were met with the ideal outcome. However, getting attention and "help" didn't actually help me.

I am still depressed.
I can't cure my misophonia.
I am not able to undo the bullying.
I remain tired.
I take on more stressors.

I reach out..
..but nobody can cure the incurable.

(That's dramatic as fuck, I swear I just like nice formatting, helps me look organized and not rambling lol)

 

[RosebyAnyName]

Yes. Any time I expressed wanting to CtB, or even whenever I try to talk about traumas in an attempt to heal from them, I'd only get in trouble, get brushed off, or get socially ostracized. Now I don't bother telling anyone anything, it's so much easier that way.

 

[neverLoved]

In the 21 years of living I have been pretty much ignored by everyone. Although being honest I never really show anything to most but have had the few moments where I tried talking about it. Every time I either get ignored, told to grow up or they try to switch from topic.

My first experience ever talking about it was when I was in middleschool, interestingly enough I got approached after being absent a lot. From one to another I just honestly told them how it was, but oh well. Literally the third appointment I got ignored.

Throughout my life I have probably told like 3 irl 'friends' vaguely about it, literally all experiences they either tried giving me their stupid advice, ignored me or changed the topic.

2 people online which I know longer than anyone I know irl know about it, one told me that I am a pussy. The other told me that I am exaggerating and that they know someone who had it worse.

Same experience with the therapist, mine didn't even want to talk about suicide. Loved telling me that I should sleep well and make me take online quizzes.

I have realized at this point that this is just how it is and that there won't be a single soul out there who will take me serious or even listen to me. All while I let myself be used as an emotional dumpster by others.

 

[SomePersonIGuess]

I was generally either ignored or told I was wrong. Tis what it is I suppose.

 

[Sarros]

I try not to take the unnecessary risk of being hospitalized. I also don't believe any of my problems can be solved by talking about them.

 

[Defenestration]

Difficult
sometimes yes or no

 

[bigbang33]

It's not that they don't hear the cry's for help. It's just that they don't know what to do or say, they can't comprehend. Especially if you speak to mentally sane people. They think it's crazy and ridiculous that you'd talk about suicide. And then they make it about themselves "It hurt us so much", yeah maybe, for a while. But really, does it really make a difference in the grand scheme of I'd be gone? I don't think so. There is nothing that I contribute to their life that they can't get somewhere else. And that's what they don't understand..

 

[Hotsackage]

And this is why this place exists...mind u some professionals are good. And I'm sorry about your experience

 

[Sad_Autistic_boy_101]

Have you tried seeking supporr online? Maybe that would help.. Sometimes people online are way more easier to speak to than some mental health doctor.
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And if you have supportive parents you could try speaking to them about it. .but i know you might not...have them.
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And if you have supportive parents you could try speaking to them about it. .but i know you might not...have them.
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And if you have supportive parents you could try speaking to them about it. .but i know you might not...have them.

Unfortunately I don't have a supportive family. They refuse to accept my mental health disorders alongside my Autism. This makes the world an even lonelier place as if you already don't have the support of the people who are supposed to be the ones that care for you, who else can you rely on...

 

[fly]

Mean CTB might be always an great choice but sometimes there better ones. Got great help by psychatries and friend, expecially my friends kept me alive without them id be dead