We’re any of you spanked growing up?

[IsThisTheEnd?]

I think it's bad because other children who aren't beaten have more confidence and it puts you at a disadvantage. You won't trust your parents. You might not react to pain like a normal child. You might do it to others. You feel hopeless. So many things that's why it's band now.

 

[UpandDownPrincess]

Of course. It was the 70's. That's just what was done back then.

 

[Seafoam]

Yes, with a belt.

 

[Dysgenic Pup]

Not spanked. Had to put soap in my mouth if I swore or talked back to my Mother. I think she was too much of a saint to hit us. When I moved in with my father, he would just smack you if he got angry but he never spanked us. I got in a physical fight with him once that resulted in the police being called (by my grandma).

 

[WhatDoesTheFoxSay?]

When I was in first grade, my form teacher spanked the palms of out hands with a ruler, and knuckles with a whiteboard marker if we forgot to do our homework or bring our books to class.

Thinking that it would affect our studies, our parents forbade us from playing video games when we were children. There were times when I snuck up to play my GameBoy Advance, which my mother confiscated at that time, and ended with me being hit with a rattan cane. However, not only was punishment ineffective in curbing my addiction but rather, above all, taught me not to get caught the next time.

Even though he never shouted at nor spanked us, my father used his religion as a tool to instill fear in us, warning me that unfilial children have hellish punishments reserved for them in the afterlife.

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

Yes, unfortunately for both my father and my mother. I will never do that to my children.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

Dad would spank me. I would snap that I didn't feel it and he didn't hurt me. So he'd hit me harder. I'd say it didn't hurt me. He'd hit me harder. And harder. And harder.

 

[Manaaja]

I got spanked until i turned into a teenager. And the spanks were always with a canoe oar(paddle). So painful and can still remember exactly how it felt now and im now 33. And i mainly got spanked because i skin pick and my dad apparently thought beating me would make that compulsive disorder go away.

I'm really sorry to hear that. No one should spank anyone for any reason. It's awful how violent parents can be towards their children. I mean if an adult hits another adult, everyone considers it a crime, why don't they think the same when an adult hits a child?

Btw, is your tarantula (or did you have multiple of them?) doing okay?

I remember when I was really small (maybe 1-4 years old), and dad got really angry (he probably used steroids and he loved to get angry for no reason, you could make him angry just by blinking, he used to get really violent towards everyone in the household every week, mother was batshit crazy so of course she didn't ever call cops or divorce him or worry if she would find her kids dead), took me to bathroom, took my pants off and hit me with a belt.

 

[Tarantula Girl]

I'm really sorry to hear that. No one should spank anyone for any reason. It's awful how violent parents can be towards their children. I mean if an adult hits another adult, everyone considers it a crime, why don't they think the same when an adult hits a child?

Btw, is your tarantula (or did you have multiple of them?) doing okay?

I remember when I was really small (maybe 1-4 years old), and dad got really angry (he probably used steroids and he loved to get angry for no reason, you could make him angry just by blinking, he used to get really violent towards everyone in the household every week, mother was batshit crazy so of course she didn't ever call cops or divorce him or worry if she would find her kids dead), took me to bathroom, took my pants off and hit me with a belt.

I'm sorry you had to go through that.
My Tarantulas are doing great. I have 60 of them but the girl in my picture is doing great as always.

 

[Manaaja]

I'm sorry you had to go through that.
My Tarantulas are doing great. I have 60 of them but the girl in my picture is doing great as always.

I wish childhoods were guaranteed to be happy. So many childhoods are ruined by bad parents.

I'm happy to hear they are doing okay. 60? Isn't that a lot of work or are tarantulas easy to take care of? She's still the prettiest tarantula I've seen.

 

[Grav]

Yep by both parents. Dad was more uncontrolled anger (CTE) and how he was raised, mom more at the end of her rope in an abusive house where he hit her pretty frequently. Belt, "switch" I would have to get and if not good enough he would and I'd get more strikes, foot, bare hand, yardstick were the usual things. Mom stopped doing it pretty fast but dad not until I was about age 12 but by then he was in hospital dying. Yep the 70s were it.

 

[ornitier199]

Yep. I remember those days clear. Would always be the belt.
Always.
It's abuse's under the veil of 'discipline'. Sometimes it can make the child not misbehave again out of fear of it happening again (I've been it happen with my niece) but in reality it's just abuse.
At least they're not using the buckle side of it.

 

[Foresight]

How does that build anyone up? Dehumanize them, abuse them, put shame into them. My dad never spanked me. He made me work if I was bad and now my work ethic is strong.

This thread is so heartbreaking. Child abuse is an unbearable reality of this existence. Tiny humans, barely able to understand life yet. Makes me beyond sick.

 

[Britvik]

Yes
My father apologised when I confronted him in adulthood. I said I forgave him. I'm working on meaning it.

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

How does that build anyone up? Dehumanize them, abuse them, put shame into them. My dad never spanked me. He made me work if I was bad and now my work ethic is strong.

This thread is so heartbreaking. Child abuse is an unbearable reality of this existence. Tiny humans, barely able to understand life yet. Makes me beyond sick.

Indeed. I only gained anger from my parents. It is ingrained in our global culture that it is acceptable to hit your children when they misbehave or throw a tantrum. A spanking, or a slap is something completely normal in the eyes of many but I don't agree. I think it is a backward view. I don't think it helps education at all, on the contrary, it's simply unacceptable. We are very developed in some things but in other things we still have a stone age mentality.

 

[Tarantula Girl]

I wish childhoods were guaranteed to be happy. So many childhoods are ruined by bad parents.

I'm happy to hear they are doing okay. 60? Isn't that a lot of work or are tarantulas easy to take care of? She's still the prettiest tarantula I've seen.

They are very easy to care for. It works out great with my depression because they dont require everyday care like most other pets.
I have her tattooed on my arm, i love her so much. If you want to look her species up: Indian Ornamental Tarantula

 

[PaperGodzilla]

My dad used to put me under a cold shower by force if i cried to loudly at night when i was like 6 to 8 years old. I've been afraid to show any emotion to my parents or many friends ever since.

 

[Nolan96]

Spanked by hand and belt. Mostly by my dad. Was always made to feel I was lucky I didn't get it worse or all that often; a high degree of truth to that honestly since pretty much everyone in my community including everyone else in my extended family did get beaten a lot worse.

 

[nightnightnitrite]

Yes, I was spanked with wooden spoons and it did not help, just gave me severe anxiety and made me hyper aware of anything I did. I was scared to make my dad upset out of fear of getting hurt. I am currently fighting with my kids father trying to convince him not to spank our child. It's pretty shitty I have to beg for that but he has neanderthal ways and isn't budging. Thankfully our kid is still to young to spank so I have time but considering I plan on leaving his dad, I will have to think of something when their with their father.

 

[NobodyKnowsMe]

I grew up in the days of not only being spanked by parents, but also being spanked by the school Principal when you violated the rules in school. School spankings were typically with a paddle of some sort. Home spankings were with the hand, a belt, or other misc items. If I cussed, I got soap in the mouth. If I mouthed off, then I got slapped. It was all considered pretty normal back in the 60s & 70s.

 

[Hirokami]

I was a few times, mainly when my parents were frustrated from how annoying I was. I was a mostly well-behaved kid, though I did have tantrums. Because of those tantrums, I would get yelled at and spanked until I stopped. Sometimes with a belt, mostly with a hand to the bum. Even got smacked a few times as a teenager across the face due to my inability to regulate my negative emotions at the time. Every time I were to shout and want to be left alone, I'd be punished.

I think my moodiness was not only caused by kids being kids, but also my autism and depression; I didn't receive a proper diagnosis until later in life, so I guess my parents (especially my dad) thought it was justified to hit me prior to that. I'd also wager that's why I'm so prone to hide my emotions and be secretive in general.

 

[NobodyKnowsMe]

Because of those tantrums, I would get yelled at and spanked until I stopped.

I always found it so odd that parents would spank their children for crying. I often heard "stop that crying or I'll give you something to cry about".

 

[Hirokami]

I always found it so odd that parents would spank their children for crying. I often heard "stop that crying or I'll give you something to cry about".

Same here. It's pretty cruel, to be honest. Children often cry and have tantrums because they feel overwhelmed; they cannot communicate their stress as effectively as adults typically can. The logic in itself also baffles me. If one hits a child who's already crying, that's not going to get the kid to stop crying; they just won't cry around the person who hit them. For most parents who spank their children, I guess that's good enough. Out of sight, out of mind.

 

[9BBN]

I wish that was it, I bled for my parents. Love and fear were taught the same.

 

[deleted]

I got spanked at school and at home, I have vivid memories of my dad telling me to eat the vegetables or he would forcefully shove me down my throat, also of him hitting me in the bathroom while I cry and beg his forgiveness after getting some grades red in school... Old bastard just pray I kill myself before you need my help

 

[SantaTeresa]

My bipolar mother battered me a lot up until 7 or 8, corporal punishment was part of school until 13.

but no spanking, that's a white thing apparently.

 

[empty]

My parents spanked me with their hands until I was around 8.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

I was spanked as a child but only when I did something wrong. I wasn't beaten though. I honestly think that didn't mess me up. The infinite stupidity did though.

Now I like being spanked with a magazine that has my face on it by a porn star.
Sorry... Just a little humor. If it's not ok, I don't have a problem with it being deleted.