Weird members on ss

[S like suicide]

I'm writing this post because I need to
confront other people about this.
I've been here on this forum for a while now and I've chatted with various people, most of whom have contacted me and started chatting with me. I've mostly chatted with nice people but there have also been a couple of cases of ambiguous people...a fairly recent one that made me think for a moment...members who have been on this forum for a very long time, who have written very few posts and who write to you out of blue, put hearts on your posts, chat non-stop for a couple of days where they send you a lot of photos and even videos and then suddenly they stop talking to you and even remove the comments they put before from your posts without anything bad happening just out of blue... well I ask myself some questions. ..(probably it was a good thing as they say in the US "I dodged a bullet"). Maybe I'm a little too naive but there are really strange people here who may have bad intentions... I would like to reiterate to everyone to always be careful and not send too many personal photos or personal data to users of this forum and I wanted to ask you how many of you have had similar experiences with members who have had strange attitudes?
i needed to share this with you,i would like to read your experiences with people that seemed ambigous and weird here on ss as well.

 

[Innereye]

Yes, special warning to female users to be critical of who you are communicating with. Take notes of stories your told, and if things don't add up: Disengage ASAP.

 

[S like suicide]

Yes, special warning to female users to be critical of who you are communicating with. Take notes of stories your told, and if things don't add up: Disengage ASAP.

Yes,the thing that made me think and that made me worry is that users with bad intentions can hide even under the appearance of innocent and very friendly people and they are actually pretty disturbed persons from whom is better stay away.

 

[Zegers]

I think there are people here who are in it for the morbidity of ctb but they have pretty good lives, but in any forum there are all kinds of people. If someone talks a lot about ctb but is not making a plan for the future, it seems bit fishy.

 

[Lulzacruel]

Yes, special warning to female users to be critical of who you are communicating with. Take notes of stories your told, and if things don't add up: Disengage ASAP.

Also, report all messages to mods. It shows a copy of the messages you report that cannot be faked so that we know you are telling the truth.

The main reason why these users have not been banned is simply because they have not broken rules yet. everyone on the site is innocent until they are not.

Until they are confirmed to be malicious, we leave them be.

 

[Meditation guide]

I'm writing this post because I need to
confront other people about this.
I've been here on this forum for a while now and I've chatted with various people, most of whom have contacted me and started chatting with me. I've mostly chatted with nice people but there have also been a couple of cases of ambiguous people...a fairly recent one that made me think for a moment...members who have been on this forum for a very long time, who have written very few posts and who write to you out of blue, put hearts on your posts, chat non-stop for a couple of days where they send you a lot of photos and even videos and then suddenly they stop talking to you and even remove the comments they put before from your posts without anything bad happening just out of blue... well I ask myself some questions. ..(probably it was a good thing as they say in the US "I dodged a bullet"). Maybe I'm a little too naive but there are really strange people here who may have bad intentions... I would like to reiterate to everyone to always be careful and not send too many personal photos or personal data to users of this forum and I wanted to ask you how many of you have had similar experiences with members who have had strange attitudes?
i needed to share this with you,i would like to read your experiences with people that seemed ambigous and weird here on ss as well.

I have been targeted by evil males, two of them, very practiced at manipulation, when at my lowest point.
I mean there are probably females too up to things, but a certain type of man sees this as an opportunity to "have some fun" with women and girls.

Until coming here, I just thought men targeted and manipulated women for their bodies but found that it's a mind fuck too they get off on.

 

[S like suicide]

Also, report all messages to mods. It shows a copy of the messages you report that cannot be faked so that we know you are telling the truth.

The main reason why these users have not been banned is simply because they have not broken rules yet. everyone on the site is innocent until they are not.

Until they are confirmed to be malicious, we leave them be.

Yes I know, an episode happened to me in the past and a user was banned... another user I chatted with was banned because he revealed himself on the forum as someone who didn't seem to have good intentions.
regarding this last member he was just weird,i would say perhaps a little rude for how he behaved at the end but nothing creepy or dangerous.
It just made me think....you never know.

I have been targeted by evil males, two of them, very practiced at manipulation, when at my lowest point.

I am very sorry you experienced this
They are master in manipulation yeah...so much some times that it takes some times to understand that there is something wrong.

I mean there are probably females too up to things, but a certain type of man sees this as an opportunity to "have some fun" with women and girls.

Sadly yes
they test the territory, and if they see that they are unable to manipulate or succeed in their intentions, then they move on to another woman.

Until coming here, I just thought men targeted and manipulated women for their bodies but found that it's a mind fuck too they get off on.

Yeah it's shocking how some people can be so disturbated.

 

[R_N]

Never had issues with other members but I was not here for a while until I came back recently. And I am a male.

I don't think I messaged anyone first and only spoke to few people who messaged me. Two of them spoke the same language so that was probably one of the reasons they reached out.

I don't really look to get too personal with anyone online so I don't really mind if they ghost or whatever. One person apologised after they left abrubtly and someone else messaged me to tell me that but I didn't really mind nor do I gave a thought about it.

I don't have expectations from people. I am here because I am suicidal (not planning anything atm tho) but I have no future really and it is good to speak to open minded people about various topics with no filter.

I do wish I came back earlier to speak with certain someone, before they ctb'd. Because I felt bad reading their old messages and knowing they are probably gone now.

This is probably the worst place to bond imo because of this. If you grow attached to someone there is a high chance they might leave this world before you.

 

[S like suicide]

I don't have expectations from people.

Yeah,this is the best way to live, not expecting anything from others...even though sometimes it can be a bit difficult when you start relating with people.

I do wish I came back earlier to speak with certain someone, before they ctb'd. Because I felt bad reading their old messages and knowing they are probably gone now.

This is probably the worst place to bond imo because of this. If you grow attached to someone there is a high chance they might leave this world before you.

:( I agree...

 

[R_N]

Yeah,this is the best way to live, not expecting anything from others...even though sometimes it can be a bit difficult when you start relating with people.

:( I agree...

Dw I understand. It just took me a lot of heartaches until I became like this.

I even told a good friend I knew for a long time once that I wouldn't mind if we stopped all contact. I would adapt next day.

Seems cold but I feel more in control of my emotions this way.

 

[S like suicide]

It just took me a lot of heartaches until I became like this.

i am on the same way with my heart broken several times

I even told a good friend I knew for a long time once that I wouldn't mind if we stopped all contact. I would adapt next day.

Seems cold but I feel more in control of my emotions this way.

Yeah I know what you mean,at the end the only people we can really count on are ourselves.

 

[R.F.]

At the end of the day the users here are (mostly) human. And humans can be... "different" from one another. Sharing similar interests, especially as specific as suicide, makes it easier to relate to and connect with others, but that doesn't change the fact that even on here you will find absolute idiots, obnoxious cunts, broken records (see this site's mascot) and genuinely bad people.

Sorry you had to make those experiences, I hope they won't get more numerous as time goes on. Stay safe

 

[S like suicide]

At the end of the day the users here are (mostly) human. And humans can be... "different" from one another. Sharing similar interests, especially as specific as suicide, makes it easier to relate to and connect with others, but that doesn't change the fact that even on here you will find absolute idiots, obnoxious cunts, broken records (see this site's mascot) and genuinely bad people.

Sorry you had to make those experiences, I hope they won't get more numerous as time goes on. Stay safe

This is true...i guess i am just a too sensitive person and I get hurt easily.
I hope it too,thank you for your message

 

[ClaudeCTTE]

I don't consider it appropriate to label some people as "weird" just because they are different from us.
This is a forum where, in addition to openly discussing suicide, it's also a place where we can vent about our problems, so many people exhibit certain behaviors due to their real-life suffering. Furthermore, many people on this forum have mental disorders, which explains why some individuals behave unusually.

There are people who don't talk because they suffer from anxiety, those who post excessively may have ADHD, others may be autistic and see things differently, and some may react impulsively and say inappropriate things. In short, this forum is home to all kinds of people, but it's not a reason to label them as "weird" for their eccentric behaviors.

The best thing we can do is learn to deal with people, because nobody can know the intentions of others. However, knowing how to interact with people who suffer from an illness or mental disorder can help prevent long-term issues.

 

[S like suicide]

I don't consider it appropriate to label some people as "weird" just because they are different from us.

You are right here...

The best thing we can do is learn to deal with people

This is the big deal...in theory it may look easy but in reality is a mess sometimes.

 

[consider]

I had done exactly what you said before, but it was on a Discord server about language learning. I think it's because of something like AvPD. I became extremely excited at the beginning and send a lot of messages(I was glad of having conversation with them and they were nice to me.) , but then I became extremely anxious(nearly panic)a few days later. I can't stop thinking that people are only replying to me out of politeness, and that they don't actually like me. I eventually ghosted and never used discord again.

I think you are a good guy for sharing your thoughts. Predators really do exist, and they are the worst.

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

I'm writing this post because I need to
confront other people about this.
I've been here on this forum for a while now and I've chatted with various people, most of whom have contacted me and started chatting with me. I've mostly chatted with nice people but there have also been a couple of cases of ambiguous people...a fairly recent one that made me think for a moment...members who have been on this forum for a very long time, who have written very few posts and who write to you out of blue, put hearts on your posts, chat non-stop for a couple of days where they send you a lot of photos and even videos and then suddenly they stop talking to you and even remove the comments they put before from your posts without anything bad happening just out of blue... well I ask myself some questions. ..(probably it was a good thing as they say in the US "I dodged a bullet"). Maybe I'm a little too naive but there are really strange people here who may have bad intentions... I would like to reiterate to everyone to always be careful and not send too many personal photos or personal data to users of this forum and I wanted to ask you how many of you have had similar experiences with members who have had strange attitudes?
i needed to share this with you,i would like to read your experiences with people that seemed ambigous and weird here on ss as well.

This is why I would never attempt to find a 'partner' on here. Too many risks involved.

 

[ClaudeCTTE]

This is the big deal...in theory it may look easy but in reality is a mess sometimes.

If that's the case, then this thread should be about the difficulty of dealing with people with different personalities and not about 'weird' people on this site.

Dealing with people is certainly not easy because the human mind is complex, and we can't fully understand it. However, dealing with people goes beyond merely trying to understand them.

I dislike dealing with people and don't enjoy having many friendships, but whenever I encounter a problem with someone, I always try to do my best, even if I fail.
While I may not be able to handle everyone, I can handle some people, and that's what matters.

I've learned from my experiences, although I still have much to experience.
I've been through many unstable friendships and relationships, but they have helped me understand people a little better, which is better than nothing.

Dealing with people is a personal choice, and everyone decides how to relate to others.
My previous opinion is more based on labels because I've been labeled for insignificant things, and it's detestable when 'normal' people use labels to exclude.

It's important to remember that no matter how challenging it is dealing with people, it's not a valid reason to denigrate people for their differences but rather to understand that nobody is perfect in this universe...

 

[S like suicide]

I had done exactly what you said before, but it was on a Discord server about language learning. I think it's because of something like AvPD. I became extremely excited at the beginning and send a lot of messages(I was glad of having conversation with them and they were nice to me.) , but then I became extremely anxious(nearly panic)a few days later. I can't stop thinking that people are only replying to me out of politeness, and that they don't actually like me. I eventually ghosted and never used discord again.

I think you are a good guy for sharing your thoughts. Predators really do exist, and they are the worst.

Thank you for sharing this... because it makes us understand that there may be something else behind certain behaviors and not just what seems.I am sorry you went throught those bad thoughts about yourself and bad anxiety,I used to have similar thoughts and I know how bad it feels
Sometimes it's just a question of being insensitive... after all, even if you are respectful you cannot expect others to be respectful too like someone else already said in the comments.This in the end is not an ideal world but a real one.:/

This is why I would never attempt to find a 'partner' on here. Too many risks involved.

I have to say i found some great people here in the past but yeah it's always a place where it is better be careful,you never know

If that's the case, then this thread should be about the difficulty of dealing with people with different personalities and not about 'weird' people on this site.

My previous opinion is more based on labels because I've been labeled for insignificant things, and it's detestable when 'normal' people use labels to exclude.

It's important to remember that no matter how challenging it is dealing with people, it's not a valid reason to denigrate people for their differences but rather to understand that nobody is perfect in this universe...

I'm sorry if I offended anyone and if you have been offended and labeled/excluded in the past...using the word weird (I realize that the title I used "weird members"could have been misinterpreted and i was wrong in writing that) it was not my intention to offend noone.
I just wanted to share what happened to me and also read similar experiences of other members on this forum.

 

[Forever Sleep]

If that's the case, then this thread should be about the difficulty of dealing with people with different personalities and not about 'weird' people on this site.

Dealing with people is certainly not easy because the human mind is complex, and we can't fully understand it. However, dealing with people goes beyond merely trying to understand them.

I dislike dealing with people and don't enjoy having many friendships, but whenever I encounter a problem with someone, I always try to do my best, even if I fail.
While I may not be able to handle everyone, I can handle some people, and that's what matters.

I've learned from my experiences, although I still have much to experience.
I've been through many unstable friendships and relationships, but they have helped me understand people a little better, which is better than nothing.

Dealing with people is a personal choice, and everyone decides how to relate to others.
My previous opinion is more based on labels because I've been labeled for insignificant things, and it's detestable when 'normal' people use labels to exclude.

It's important to remember that no matter how challenging it is dealing with people, it's not a valid reason to denigrate people for their differences but rather to understand that nobody is perfect in this universe...

I do understand where you are coming from and I do agree. I expect many of us have been made to feel like misfits at some points. I agree that we need to be kind to one another. Especially here.

BUT- this place by it's very nature attracts possibly vulnerable people and where they are, you also get predators. I think people do definitey need to be very cautious. Especially if someone keeps on at them to PM and take their conversations onto other platforms. Especially if they feel uneasy with them. Again- there's no need to be impolite but- everyone has the right to refuse to communicate on a one to one basis or- elsewhere.

Of course- there is the risk that the other person may be genuine and feel rejected but- given the circumstances, the person being asked is taking the bigger risk. In extreme cases, people have been raped and murdered after meeting with people from sites like this.

I think it's necessary to be cautious. I get the impression that the original post was about less disturbing behaviour but- it could still feel a bit off. I'd say- if someone else opens up fully in PM's with personal stuff and photos- they are likely hoping/promting the other person to do the same. Then, just disappearing with no cause does seem a bit strange. People have been doxed here. I'd be wondering if it was possibly that.

I just think people need to be very cautious with what they share. I also knew someone here who got messaged with all sorts of kinky talk by guys. I can't entirely judge of course- I don't know how their conversation went but- if that was unsolicited- I'd say 'a bit weird' would be a kind way to describe it! It sounded more like perverse, predatory sadism to me.

That all said- we are probably refering to different behaviour. I just thought I'd respond though and make another point: Some predators are very manipulative. They will use the fact that people generally don't want to cause offence and may not even call out behaviour that infringes their boundaries to push them into doing things they don't actually want to. Playing the victim card is a way they use to manipulate others. I just think everyone needs to be cautious while still being polite.

 

[S like suicide]

I do understand where you are coming from and I do agree. I expect many of us have been made to feel like misfits at some points. I agree that we need to be kind to one another. Especially here.

BUT- this place by it's very nature attracts possibly vulnerable people and where they are, you also get predators. I think people do definitey need to be very cautious. Especially if someone keeps on at them to PM and take their conversations onto other platforms. Especially if they feel uneasy with them. Again- there's no need to be impolite but- everyone has the right to refuse to communicate on a one to one basis or- elsewhere.

Of course- there is the risk that the other person may be genuine and feel rejected but- given the circumstances, the person being asked is taking the bigger risk. In extreme cases, people have been raped and murdered after meeting with people from sites like this.

I think it's necessary to be cautious. I get the impression that the original post was about less disturbing behaviour but- it could still feel a bit off. I'd say- if someone else opens up fully in PM's with personal stuff and photos- they are likely hoping/promting the other person to do the same. Then, just disappearing with no cause does seem a bit strange. People have been doxed here. I'd be wondering if it was possibly that.

I just think people need to be very cautious with what they share. I also knew someone here who got messaged with all sorts of kinky talk by guys. I can't entirely judge of course- I don't know how their conversation went but- if that was unsolicited- I'd say 'a bit weird' would be a kind way to describe it! It sounded more like perverse, predatory sadism to me.

That all said- we are probably refering to different behaviour. I just thought I'd respond though and make another point: Some predators are very manipulative. They will use the fact that people generally don't want to cause offence and may not even call out behaviour that infringes their boundaries to push them into doing things they don't actually want to. Playing the victim card is a way they use to manipulate others. I just think everyone needs to be cautious while still being polite.

Thank you for writing this message...I fully agree with everything you said.

if someone else opens up fully in PM's with personal stuff and photos- they are likely hoping/promting the other person to do the same. Then, just disappearing with no cause does seem a bit strange. People have been doxed here. I'd be wondering if it was possibly that.

Exactly!this is what I found strange and that made me worry.

 

[SmollMushroom]

Sorry to say, but everything in this thread is TRUE.
There are some rotten people around in the forum with no empathy whatsoever, and I found myself in a similar situation as OP.

I won't go much into details, but I really had to take this off my chest.

I've been chatting with a person met here that initially acted very open and friendly towards me.
It all started with me being very shy at first as I wasn't sure if I should've open up with them, but they pushed me themselves into opening up, telling me that it would have been fine, and so I did. That way they got many informations from me, some of them very personal.
Then, after almost a five hours chat, they decided they had enough, and just interrupted all the communications with me, by blocking me (we were on Discord).
It was so sudden and unexpected, that (naive me) I DM'ed them in here, asking if they were having troubles with Discord aswell, because I couldn't send them any message. They did not answer back.
Only the day after, they replied through DM, saying that I was making them feel uncomfortable after that they asked me to open up with them and to talk freely.
I can't get into much details about what I was saying for privacy issues, but I can tell you that it's nothing that can't be found through the memes of a Twitch chat.
And, always for privacy, I won't mention what THEY said during our chat, which honestly was way more extreme.


Overall, while they have all the rights not wanting to chat with me anymore for whatever reason, they've been extremely rude and manipulative towards me. They took advantage of my vulnerability to squeeze as many infos they wanted from me for then deciding I was not worth their time.
I feel like I've been used and thrown away. Like a broken toy that one doesn't like anymore. Oh and in case it wasn't clear, it was supposed to be a chat to make friends, nothing more.


Anyways, there are some more reasons why I decided to speak up and share my story, and that's because I've learned some lessons I'll share with you now:

1. Remember that there are a lot of mentally ill/disturbed people in this forum, which is fine. You just have to keep that in mind whenever you are chatting with someone in the private. This rule should be applied anywhere on the internet but especially in here.
2. BEWARE of who you trust. Be very careful who you open with and the personal informations you share with them.
3. If you are like me, in a very vulnerable position, go through the other two rules a second time, and be extra sure of who to trust around here.

I know they all seem obvious, but when you are at your lowest, you may not judge clearly. Be careful.

 

[S like suicide]

I've been chatting with a person met here that initially acted very open and friendly towards me.
It all started with me being very shy at first as I wasn't sure if I should've open up with them, but they pushed me themselves into opening up, telling me that it would have been fine, and so I did. That way they got many informations from me, some of them very personal.
Then, after almost a five hours chat, they decided they had enough, and just interrupted all the communications with me, by blocking me (we were on Discord).

Omg i am so sorry you went throught this! i wonder if this is the same person that contacted me as well...kinda of sound similar.

they've been extremely rude and manipulative towards me. They took advantage of my vulnerability to squeeze as many infos they wanted from me for then deciding I was not worth their time.

I feel like I've been used and thrown away. Like a broken toy that one doesn't like anymore. Oh and in case it wasn't clear, it was supposed to be a chat to make friends, nothing more.

Yes exactly....i am very sorry you had to experience this,yes it hurts especially since we are already sensitive and suffering people

Anyways, there are some more reasons why I decided to speak up and share my story, and that's because I've learned some lessons I'll share with you now:

1. Remember that there are a lot of mentally ill/disturbed people in this forum, which is fine. You just have to keep that in mind whenever you are chatting with someone in the private. This rule should be applied anywhere on the internet but especially in here.
2. BEWARE of who you trust. Be very careful who you open with and the personal informations you share with them.
3. If you are like me, in a very vulnerable position, go through the other two rules a second time, and be extra sure of who to trust around here.

I know they all seem obvious, but when you are at your lowest, you may not judge clearly. Be careful.

I totally agree with you here
Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
Sending you a big hug