We should all get together and create a safe place, or a safe home we can ive in.

[Endoflifecomestoall]

Was thinking this yesterday and posted about meeting others suicidal people. My concerns are of course the varying degrees of suicidal tendancy and the conflict it could cause or danger to others. I think it would be a case of many people getting together and people selecting the people they bond with. But yes I like the idea.
Im in UK and open to meeting and chatting to anyone in similar position. It would need to be without them knowing my full details or location for safety of course. But I do wonder if it could be a good thing to get help from others in same situation. What are peoples thoughts?

It would be better than any helpline

 

[lmon]

Yes

 

[Euthanza]

CTB Come To Bali

https://www.commissiononassisteddying.co.uk/puputan/

 

[toforigivelife]

I still think it's a nice thought.

We'd have to work out the details to make it work.

We'd all understand each other's limitations, each other's needs. We'd need to make a list of what each could contribute as far as helping around the house and how we'd be able to cover the bills.

There are families who buy large, expensive homes, split expenses and have their own personal space.

It's a nice thought but probably not realistic. In the state we're all in we probably wouldn't have the energy or motivation to get something like this off the ground.

If members of this forum could make something like this work then I congratulate you.

 

[iforgotmyacc]

I love this idea a lot... Imagine how many of us it would save too.

 

[toforigivelife]

I love this idea a lot... Imagine how many of us it would save too.

If we worked everything out, it could save a lot of us.

Or at least make everyone's remaining time a lot happier.

 

[Shivali]

A beautyful dream but a dream

 

[Fthis]

SS disabled my account so it has taken me a while to respond.

Be great if we could get some people together in order to do this. Although folks in our position have a hard time thinking clearly and getting motivated.

I'm living in my mother's house but it's under a reverse mortgage, only has one bathroom and four bedrooms and needs work. Not sure if any of us are in a position to finance it or if it would be worth the time, money and effort.

It would probably be better to find a rental property or something. Of course we'd all have to agree on a state and a location.

Still in the thinking out loud phase.

If we get it set up I'll message you.

Sorry about your living situation. Do you still have a home?

Wish I already had it set up and could send out invitations. (SS had questions about my account so it has taken me a while to respond. Sorry.)

It's still in the "wouldn't it be nice?" phase. There would be challenges. But, you know the annoying saying, if you really want something.



It would be nice.

It would be. If this daydream comes true I'll let ya know.

It would be a nice little miracle.

Bring your contraband if you so wish. (This is still in the *sigh!* "wouldn't it be great?" phase.

It is a nice idea. Wish I had a winning lottery ticket and could just make it happen.

I think the decision of whether or not to ctb is left up to the individual.

Whether or not it's a good idea to have suicidal people living together? I don't know. It would be a relief at least to have people who truly understand where the other is coming from. There can be a lot of comfort found in that and could improve the quality of someone's life and maybe help them put off committing suicide. At least for a while.

Hope you can put together a situation that is right for you.

Wish we could all, regardless of country, get together and find safety, companionship and comfort in one another.

Not sure about that, but I think we'd respect your feelings, what you're going through and ultimately accept your decision.

This all still in the daydream phase. Haven't signed the mortgage papers just yet.

I'm currently slowly dying in medical school it would be so nice to just drop everything and move there

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

It's a nice idea. It's not actually that complicated… Somebody would just have to pick a location with enough space.

 

[LastFlowers]

Nice concept but I'm not sure how well that would work when the 'right to die' seems to be the only thing some of us agree on or feel a sense of solidarity in.

Personally, with the type of issues I have, idk that it would feel much different from where I'm at now.

 

[Symbiote]

With the amount of internal drama that goes on in here, a little commune of SaSU wouldn't last long enough before pro-lifers find us, lol.

 

[toforigivelife]

It's a nice idea. It's not actually that complicated… Somebody would just have to pick a location with enough space.

Can you think of a location?

 

[Lily (Osako)]

I'm so down for this!
Someone mentioned something about free communities or open communities (I can't remember what they are called)
But this sounds a lot that those.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Can you think of a location?

Maybe somewhere with inexpensive land… I really don't know

 

[toforigivelife]

Maybe somewhere with inexpensive land… I really don't know

Okay, thanks.

 

[Misswannadie]

They have communes for new and old hippies and environmentalists. Why not create a safe home for people like us? For vulnerable, unhappy, suicidal people?

We'll find a house and a property to house a number of people and we can all get part-time jobs (holding a job is so hard when you're in this state of mind) or get remote jobs.

Since we'd all be pitching in and splitting the cost of rent, mortgage, taxes, utilities, Internet connection, etc. we wouldn't have to pressure ourselves to work full time.

We'd be alleviating the pressure of dealing with the cost of living without having to work more than one job while contending with severe depression and suicidal feelings.

We could also outfit the place with things like solar panels and do other things to help keep costs at a minimum.

Need time alone? You can go to your private bedroom when you need to. Need company? Come in and join a friend or the group.

Having an especially tough time and need a person or people to talk to? You'd be surrounded by those who understand you.

Who would understand each other's needs better than us? Who would understand our mood swings and our bad days versus half-way decent days better than us?

Having a better than average day? Then you can do more for yourself and around the house. Have days where you need to be cared for, pampered and understood? That can be arranged.

Too overwhelmed to run errands? You'd have help.

Those who have vehicles could help those who don't have vehicles.

One way or another it would all even out fairly so that no one feels taken advantage of or feels guilty that they're taking advantage of others (you know how prone to feelings of guilt and shame people in our position are).

We'd operate on a level of mutual respect and mutual understanding. With some intelligent and we'll thought out house rules laid out we could achieve that.

Wanna blast your stereo or television without regard for others? Nope. Sorry. Wanna listen to music or watch television at a level where you're not disturbing others in your room? Much better.

We'd all help and accommodate each other's physical health concerns.

We could make dinner every night, have meals together and talk.

Or you could opt to eat alone in your room if you're not up for having company.

We'd all understand how some days and nights are better than others.

We'd offer an atmosphere of understanding, respect and comfort.

No, it wouldn't be a commune. Aside from kicking in for expenses your money is your own, you take care of your individual expenses and you decide if you want to stay or leave.

We could anonymously write down pet peeves, no matter how silly these pet peeves sound, and put them in a hat and everyone would respect these pet peeves.

We'd create a space and options for smokers so that non-smokers are not affected while giving smokers the option of continuing to smoke or to quit. If you did decide to quit you'd have alot of support.

We could allow pets as long as no one has any severe allergies. (And, again, the theory of mutual respect applies here.)

We'd listen without judgement about your suicidal feelings and do our best to offer support and understanding and to help you through those times. But if you are intent on catching the bus that is ultimately up to you.

We could have movie nights or plan other mutually agreed upon fun activities. At least what our idea of fun is.

We could set up the kitchen so that we wouldn't have to wait for others to be done with the stove, microwave or refrigerator in order to make something to eat.

You'd always have someone to talk to and your time for solitude when you need it.

I have a little money I could put towards this. If we all put a little money towards this it might work.

It could be a safe haven for people like us.

I'd love to be able to have community members from overseas come and join us if they wanted to. If not we could offer help and support as far as creating their own safe haven.

This might not prevent people from committing suicide but at least it would be a safe place to go, a place of refuge. At least it would give us all a chance at a better life before you make your final decision.

We wouldn't be lonely or scared all the time. We'd all be helping to financially cover everyone's necessities which would give us a sense of security.

And, like I said, you could have your alone time when you needed it.

Of course we'd have to come up with the correct amount of bathrooms.

Just a thought. Be nice if something like this could work out.

Peace and blessings everyone.

This is such an amazing idea. I wish we could be able to have something like this, it would be really fun. Even when we're suicidal we can still talk to the people around us in the house who we know will understand us and we wouldn't have to feel ashamed or scared to talk about suicide.

 

[old red eyes]

Maybe somewhere with inexpensive land… I really don't know

Italy...

 

[Enoughnow]

I've become obsessed with the idea of living in some of grid community been watching lots of videos of that stuff
Broke as shit though

 

[Blondie]

This is such a wonderful idea

 

[Lullaby]

With the way some people fight each other on here, I don't know if it would last very long if it were that simple, it'd be a nice idea.

 

[GhostNote]

Those in the hyperacusis community often speak about sufferers needing a place to ourselves. Since we can't be around noise easily, those of us who are suicidal are in a subcategory that would prevent us from even being a part of the larger suicidal community. Such a ridiculous condition.

 

[SieMeCryOrDie]

If we worked everything out, it could save a lot of us.

Or at least make everyone's remaining time a lot happier.

I fully believe it could be done. Im sorry to say I am another person who doesn't know how or where to begin, but you may find that person if you don't give up. Of course there's reasons why some people can't live together but we still have people on here that could. I've looked into joining communities but most I find I have nothing in common with other than trying to escape the structures that society has built. First thing would be too figure out the goal of this place, example: A sustainable living community? A co-living community? A drop-in community for SI? Me personality, I like the first one, where we don't have to fit into the hells of this world. Land would come later. Let me know if you decide to keep pursing this

 

[toforigivelife]

I fully believe it could be done. Im sorry to say I am another person who doesn't know how or where to begin, but you may find that person if you don't give up. Of course there's reasons why some people can't live together but we still have people on here that could. I've looked into joining communities but most I find I have nothing in common with other than trying to escape the structures that society has built. First thing would be too figure out the goal of this place, example: A sustainable living community? A co-living community? A drop-in community for SI? Me personality, I like the first one, where we don't have to fit into the hells of this world. Land would come later. Let me know if you decide to keep pursing this

I'm thinking along the lines of finding a house that has enough space and hopefully more than one bathroom where a few of us, or 4 or 5 of us, could split expenses and just have safe space.

A safe space where we all felt secure, an environment where our feelings about suicide and the pain we deal with is understood and can be talked about. Just a democratic home for those in our position.

As far as starting a community, I'm with you. I wouldn't know how to do that and I don't think I have the mental energy to start a community.

Thank you for your kind words and for your encouragement.

Who knows? Maybe someone from SS can either open their home or find a home like this.

 

[makethepainstop]

A laudable idea, however humans are not always harmonious in large groups. A screening process would allow people living in the same to have similar likes and dislikes. That would help. If I were in such a place I'd hope it was big enough for me to farm vegetables. I think I'd rather like that. Until I ctb.

 

[toforigivelife]

A laudable idea, however humans are not always harmonious in large groups. A screening process would allow people living in the same to have similar likes and dislikes. That would help. If I were in such a place I'd hope it was big enough for me to farm vegetables. I think I'd rather like that. Until I ctb.

Yes, we'd all have to make sure that we were compatible and we'd have to set down some firm rules in to ensure that our boundaries and needs were respected.

It'd be nice to have safe place, a safe place where you could grow your vegetable garden (that garden would sure help make some yummy dinners).

I hope you are able to some place that offers you some level of peace while you make up your mind about leaving this existence.

All my best to you.