Discussion Was our own life meant to be ours?

[K14~♡]

Just some 12 am thoughts. Idk how to word my explanation for this tbh TvT

I was thinking that, since parents are responsible for their children's lives, does that make it theirs?

Like how you buy an item, and now that item is yours and you have control on its usage. Though yea it's weird to compare a transaction to a life, but I'm just fixating on the payment aspect of a parent's responsibilities in this. Like how they pay for their kid's education, so they deserve to know the kid's academic performance. Most would also want to receive satisfying results. So like, since they paid for it, they have some control over it, and since they paid for it, they would wanna get their money's worth. Does my thought process makes sense...? ToT

There's also the fact that we can't think for ourselves as babies and toddlers. So as children, our lives are up for our family to handle. Does this mean, that at the beginning one's life, their life is not theirs? Though even when we're finally able to completely think for ourselves, they still exercise control over us...I guess this correlates with freedom. But yea what I'm wondering about is, are our own lives meant to be ours?

 

[Redacted24]

Hi, it's a great question I think.

I think of it more as a slow transfer of responsibility rather than ownership.

An individual's life is always theirs. Always. Even as a newborn.

The adults in their life (parents, guardians, whoever) have responsibility for taking care and helping the person grow and be successful on their own.

They (should) slowly transfer full responsibility to the individual. And that starts with small things like being outside alone, to learning how to drive a car, to making budgets and meals....

And as part of that there is some element of the individual taking responsibility as they are able.

Of course it doesn't always work that way
But that's my opinion how it should be.

 

[houseofleaves]

since parents are responsible for their children's lives, does that make it theirs?

Ethically - no. But if we look at the real world, then yes. I hate it so much tbh. Being a child is the worst situation to be in, regardless of country, economy, etc.