only when I had my head buried in the sand, ignoring the fact that my life wasn't really mine - I was living with my parents and deluding myself that their resources and house was mine, when really I had nothing - 4 years ago I started saving up to buy a cheap house somewhere a bit run down by the coast - it didn't matter to me as long as it was MY house in MY town of choosing - I felt like I was building MY own life at last - then the chronic pain developed, and now all my savings for the house, which was a lot, are just being spent on pain killers, and now CTB ingredients. I left it too late. It was MY fault. Don't bury your head in the sand. Act now, build your ark, before the flood comes, because it's coming!