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fillthevoid

fillthevoid

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Nov 15, 2021
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My boyfriend who knows I have been suicidal in the past.. well today he suspected something, said to me 'what if I told you the police were checking all your packages?' he went on to say 'ever noticed some of your parcels look like they've been tampered with?'

I tried to act unbothered. Is this something that could actually be true? Could my address be targeted and be being checked because my boyfriend has told the police something?

Anyone work for royal mail or the police in the UK and actually know is this is a thing that could be possible? Or was he bluffing. I'm worried.

Thank you.
 
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Fakereality

Fakereality

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Aug 4, 2021
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Don't wanna be judgy here but What kind of manipulative sociopathic boyfriend you are with that's such a creepy thing to say to someone you are in a relationship with and if he reported you to police for depressive thoughts instead of having a honest to honest conversation with you first that's pretty fuck up too even .
 
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archipelago

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I'm sorry that I don't have an answer to your question, but I'm going to back up what Fakereality said. The way you said your boyfriend said it sounds creepy and manipulative, and all around fucked up. It's not normal for someone to do or say something like this as a threat.
 
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fillthevoid

fillthevoid

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Don't wanna be judgy here but What kind of manipulative sociopathic boyfriend you are with that's such a creepy thing to say to someone you are in a relationship with and if he reported you to police for depressive thoughts instead of having a honest to honest conversation with you first that's pretty fuck up too even .
He's a pretty shitty boyfriend in many ways it's true... I barely see him because he is always busy doing other things.. anything but being with me. It hurts. But he is lovely in lots of ways too. I can think of much much more outwardly abusive nasty men than him... but yeah I do know that with this, he feels heavily burdened and is probably scared stiff right now. He said it in the middle of a pretty headed discussion whereby I was refusing being suicidal (his hunch is infact correct, I'm really bad and he's totally right). I don't think he thought about it before he said it, think it just came out spur of the moment. I don't know what his intention was through by saying it... all I can think is it was to see my reaction to maybe to try figure me out / if I had bought anything.

But idk if he's serious and has somehow done something to intercept my post. As be knows I've wanted to order stuff before...
 
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I think he's lying and manipulating you to get you to come out and say something. Look how worried it's gotten you, that's probably the reaction he wanted to see when he said that.

Maybe you can have a conversation with him about it? Personally, I have to communicate with people if something's bothering me. I would ask him to elaborate on what he meant and why he brought it up.
 
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My boyfriend who knows I have been suicidal in the past.. well today he suspected something, said to me 'what if I told you the police were checking all your packages?' he went on to say 'ever noticed some of your parcels look like they've been tampered with?'

I tried to act unbothered. Is this something that could actually be true? Could my address be targeted and be being checked because my boyfriend has told the police something?

Anyone work for royal mail or the police in the UK and actually know is this is a thing that could be possible? Or was he bluffing. I'm worried.

Thank you.
What kind of laws do you have in Britain to protect your privacy? Do they have to get warrants before they can search your belongings? Is it enough for your boyfriend to simply say "what he thinks", without actual proof, and have that result in a warrant of some kind, assuming that's how things work there?
 
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WanderingWater

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This is a highly unlikely, scenerio.
 
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downndone2

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Sounds like he is an asshat that made this story up.
 
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jackodonnell

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My boyfriend who knows I have been suicidal in the past.. well today he suspected something, said to me 'what if I told you the police were checking all your packages?' he went on to say 'ever noticed some of your parcels look like they've been tampered with?'

I tried to act unbothered. Is this something that could actually be true? Could my address be targeted and be being checked because my boyfriend has told the police something?

Anyone work for royal mail or the police in the UK and actually know is this is a thing that could be possible? Or was he bluffing. I'm worried.

Thank you.
I'm not a legal expert but unless you're getting your packages imported in which cases customs would be able to check them, the police can't search your belongings without a warrant. I understand the paranoia but trust me the police have other things to do than track people's post. He's just making it up to scare you I think.
 
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fillthevoid

fillthevoid

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Nov 15, 2021
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I think he's lying and manipulating you to get you to come out and say something. Look how worried it's gotten you, that's probably the reaction he wanted to see when he said that.

Maybe you can have a conversation with him about it? Personally, I have to communicate with people if something's bothering me. I would ask him to elaborate on what he meant and why he brought it up.
Yeah I can't let anything hang normally, but trust me i've much bigger fish to fry in our relationship. And if I make a fuss he'll just think he's right to be concerned and probably fess me up. I can't afford that.
 
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OctoberDusk

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I think you would have to be suspect of something incredibly illegal and dangerous for a warrant to examine your packages, at least those not imported. But if I wanted to be sure, I'd put together a package that would make such opening/tampering obvious and mail it to myself.
 
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MsMaudlin

MsMaudlin

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I don't think it's true, he's just playing with your head!

 
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Impossible. It would never happen.
 
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