Told my friend about my suicide ideation, he did not even try to understand.

[feder]

Recently I told my friend that this year I was the closest Ive ever been to ctb. If only I had SN I would have been gone.
He told me "don't take the pussy way out" lmao what, he wants to "die like a man" fighting for something or someone.

Not even one word of support or maybe question about why do i feel like this?

When he felt suicidal I was begging him to stay telling him that he still has so much to live for etc.
"Don't take the pussy way out"
"Man up and take it"
Very helpful, thanks mate.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

This behaviour is disgusting and it's not a real friend. Sorry you have to go through this.

 

[Wyldfyre4948]

Sounds like he is one of those macho guys who can't be sensitive because those aren't feelings a "man" should have. It sucks to have a friend like that. You did great by actually being there for him when he needed it. Unfortunately people aren't always going to respond in kind when you're in crisis.

 

[Dayrain]

it's not a real friend

Absolutely correct.

 

[Pluto]

"Don't take the pussy way out"

 

[feder]

Sounds like he is one of those macho guys who can't be sensitive because those aren't feelings a "man" should have. It sucks to have a friend like that. You did great by actually being there for him when he needed it. Unfortunately people aren't always going to respond in kind when you're in crisis.

Thank you for the reply, wouldn't say he's macho but maybe thats his way of coping.

 

[UKscotty]

This is most people's thoughts behind closed doors.

That's why I never tell anyone, they just see me as a liability and a coward if they know.

Best to keep quiet in my opinion.

 

[fedupwithlife]

Block him

 

[TheHuman]

I hate pro-lifers like that saying dying is the "easy" way out. FUN FACT IT IS EXTREMELY FUCKING HARD TO DIE, your not taking the easy way out your just deciding that life just isn't for you.

 

[KarmicRain]

sounds like he didn't care enough to spare any actual thoughts on the subject. just insensitive
benefit of the doubt says he's thinking about other shit but like if you were there for them, they should've been there for you too

 

[FuneralCry]

I personally don't see it as being the best idea opening up about wanting to die in the first place, but I'm not even surprised at how that person acted, they just lack any compassion, I wish humans had enough awareness to recognise that none of us are obligated to continue existing here, nobody should have to suffer against their wishes, I cannot take anyone seriously who labels suicide as being "cowardly" or the "easy way out". Saying such a thing is just insensitive nonsense, people who believe that are out of touch with reality.

 

[Deleted member 65988]

Recently I told my friend that this year I was the closest Ive ever been to ctb. If only I had SN I would have been gone.
He told me "don't take the pussy way out" lmao what, he wants to "die like a man" fighting for something or someone.

Not even one word of support or maybe question about why do i feel like this?

When he felt suicidal I was begging him to stay telling him that he still has so much to live for etc.
"Don't take the pussy way out"
"Man up and take it"
Very helpful, thanks mate.

I'm sorry but your friend is fake as shit. He wants to die like a gladiator like they did centuries ago yet I'm sure he wouldn't even last long against a warrior trained from childhood. Anyway, he was probably using you the whole time when he wanted your empathy when he was feeling suicidal but can't do the same for you, telling you instead to man up and don't take the "pussy way" out which is absolutely ridiculous because there is nothing "pussy" about literally fighting off millions of years of evolution of survival instinct in order to die. The human body is surprisingly durable even if we aren't superman or whatever but still, it's extremely difficult to die.

Best to keep your opinions to yourself next time.

 

[Sweetsinking]

Suicide = Suicide.

It still results in dying and you already have to get courage to even do that. Even I'm hesitant to do SN because it'll still be hard for ME. It's really shit that you could've been asking for support, but he's more focused on your method, wtf. Maybe suicidal resentment, or he's just a fake asshole.

 

[cheese.out]

This is absolutely disgusting. I can understand when someone cant handle the situation when you tell them your are suicidal, but a response like that is unacceptable. I hope his words dont upset you too much. Best wishes and much love

 

[feder]

I'm sorry but your friend is fake as shit. He wants to die like a gladiator like they did centuries ago yet I'm sure he wouldn't even last long against a warrior trained from childhood. Anyway, he was probably using you the whole time when he wanted your empathy when he was feeling suicidal but can't do the same for you, telling you instead to man up and don't take the "pussy way" out which is absolutely ridiculous because there is nothing "pussy" about literally fighting off millions of years of evolution of survival instinct in order to die. The human body is surprisingly durable even if we aren't superman or whatever but still, it's extremely difficult to die.

Best to keep your opinions to yourself next time.

Honestly it really pissed me off the way he phased it. Told me it's weakness and everything, that's the most stereotypical shit that people tell you.
Just wanted some support from him.
Thanks for your opinion.

This is absolutely disgusting. I can understand when someone cant handle the situation when you tell them your are suicidal, but a response like that is unacceptable. I hope his words dont upset you too much. Best wishes and much love

They don't upset me a at all actually maybe just anger me a little bit. Because I get that he doesnt understand the constant feeling of wanting to ctb, but the instant judgement is what pissed me off.
Thank you for the kind words!

 

[Suicidebydeath]

most people

 

[FindingHome]

It's best not to talk about suicide to people that are not suicidal. People that are not suicidal don't get it. I think only people that have been there get it. That's why this forum is a great place to talk about.

 

[.seethroughme.]

I've had this with my best friend recently. He just said "STOP TALKING ABOUT DEATH".

Which is incredibly unhelpful in a way, as it's all I can think about and it shuts down any hope of a conversation about how I feel.

He is (we think) on the spectrum though, and he doesn't deal with emotions at all. So I don't blame him in anyway.

 

[yellowroses]

Recently I told my friend that this year I was the closest Ive ever been to ctb. If only I had SN I would have been gone.
He told me "don't take the pussy way out" lmao what, he wants to "die like a man" fighting for something or someone.

Not even one word of support or maybe question about why do i feel like this?

When he felt suicidal I was begging him to stay telling him that he still has so much to live for etc.
"Don't take the pussy way out"
"Man up and take it"
Very helpful, thanks mate.

I was already disgusted but the fact that he's apparently been suicidal too makes this so much worse... I'm so sorry, people can be so fucking cold