Venting Told my boyfriend about my bipolar disorder and he broke up w/ me

[Notwinnernotawin]

So yesterday wasn't a good day. Actually while I write this, it's the first time I'm crying real tears. Last night, I told my ex boyfriend about my bipolar disorder, which leads me to hearing voices, getting aggressive and paranoid. He said I should have told him in the beginning but I was afraid he would react just the way he did.
I just wanted to love and to be loved. All of the ppl who graduated hs with me are getting engaged, married, having kids, and here I am, alone and broken. So I found the man of my dreams, we were talking about getting married and having a kid, about building a house and buying a car. Then he said I shouldn't have lied to him. And I barely slept last night. I want my baby back. I texted him this morning saying I miss him and a video of "I will always love you" by Whitney Houston, he saw it but didn't reply though. At night I'll see if I video call him so we can talk this straight.
For fucks sake, I just want to be happy, for once.

 

[Worndown]

Not a very sensitive guy.
I had to split with my bipolar ex but that was after 9 years of riding the rollercoaster of her emotions. She was untreated and unwilling to discuss it.

Bipolar is not the end. There are various medications that can lessen the symptoms. Have you sought any outside help? Most areas have assistance available.

If he left you that suddenly over you telling your most difficult secret, you really will be better off without him.
You will not feel that way today, but later you will know this was good for you.

Ask questions and feel free to vent. This is a grest place for almost everything.

 

[Meditation guide]

So yesterday wasn't a good day. Actually while I write this, it's the first time I'm crying real tears. Last night, I told my ex boyfriend about my bipolar disorder, which leads me to hearing voices, getting aggressive and paranoid. He said I should have told him in the beginning but I was afraid he would react just the way he did.
I just wanted to love and to be loved. All of the ppl who graduated hs with me are getting engaged, married, having kids, and here I am, alone and broken. So I found the man of my dreams, we were talking about getting married and having a kid, about building a house and buying a car. Then he said I shouldn't have lied to him. And I barely slept last night. I want my baby back. I texted him this morning saying I miss him and a video of "I will always love you" by Whitney Houston, he saw it but didn't reply though. At night I'll see if I video call him so we can talk this straight.
For fucks sake, I just want to be happy, for once.

You found out some important information about him and his character. At some point he would have found out anyway. Maybe it's better he found out now instead of when you really got more invested and dependent on him. I suggest giving him some space instead of trying to force him to communicate right now, give him time to miss you.

 

[リンさん]

First off, I'm really sorry for what you're going through. You don't deserve to feel alone. You may not wanna read this if you're not in the right headspace.

As much as I sympathize with you (got many relationships ruined because of my mental health), you really shouldn't have lied. What kind of foundation will a relationship have if you star off witholding such important info? Having a complex mental health condition such as Bipolar is not something to be taken lightly; many people are unequipped to help their partners with it, which may have been a dealbreaker for him have you disclosed it early. Which is a totally normal boundary to have. You deserve someone who can support you, and there are people who would be willing to. But this is 100% something that needs to be discussed before things get to the "we are planning on spending our lives together" stage.

I have had partners lie about this. It hurts a lot. Please be considerate with him, and if he wants to leave, respect his wishes. I hope you can work on it and stay together.

 

[dmdmdm]

I'm really sorry for you. My girlfried also broke up with me lately and I made the mistake of trying everything to get her back. I genuinely think that I could've got her back if I acted like I didn't care. I regret so much.