Discussion To isolate before going, or to spend time anyways?

[hungry]

I have things set to go within the next week. I had already withdrawn from most of my relationships this past year, so really there will only be a few friends, 1 in particular, that this question would be applicable to.

Is it better to isolate yourself beforehand?

On the one hand, it might help me feel better (and they might legitimately be better off without me, as I've not really been in a well enough state to be there for other people lately. But, it might also make them feel guilty in the end as some kind of a "warning sign" or something that they didn't see, perhaps they would regret it, and my priority is to minimize hurt to other people. So I'm not really sure which is the better option.

I will say I'm not planning on leaving (individualized) notes other than a will, because I don't have the energy and it would just be another barrier to finally being able to go.

 

[Lullaby]

I think it won't matter if you push them or away or not, because it'll probably still hurt either way.

I would continue to spend and enjoy time with them as much as you're able or willing to, but you have to do what you feel is best in the end. There's no wrong way to go about it and how you feel is important.

 

[CantGetUp]

Sorry, but I don't think there will be a way to alleviate their guilt. If you isolate they'll feel guilty they didn't reach out and maybe could have helped you. If you spend time, they will feel guilty because they may feel they should known something was up and gotten you help.

 

[Releasefrompressure]

Isolating clears the head. It may reaffirm your decision. I know for last few weeks i have not talked to many friends and just been focused on getting mentally prepared to die. I think it's helped but i know that won't be the case for everyone.

 

[outrider567]

Been isolating for months now

 

[User35688446786]

Honestly spend as much time with your people beforehand, to be honest tell them what you're planning I told my friends and they accepted that it was a possibility, and that they've done all they can. Obviously I wouldn't tell them minutes before but they get it they don't encourage it or condone it but they understand it's a possibility
When I say tell them what you're planning I don't mean method details obviously

 

[FuneralCry]

I think that it is up to you, I think that whether it is best to isolate depends on the person. I would personally see it as best to isolate myself. I wish you the best in whatever happens.